(Minghui.org) I have guided my words and actions according to the standards of Falun Dafa since I started practicing, fundamentally changing my previous self-centered way of thinking.
In daily life, I have gradually developed a habit of always considering others first, making my life more relaxed and joyful.
Transformed by Falun Dafa: Embracing Thoughtfulness and Always Considering Others
Twenty years ago, during the early stages of my practice, one evening after dinner, I walked out of my house and saw a farmer’s cart parked by the roadside. On the cart sat a four or five-year-old girl, and there were a few small watermelons next to her.
I approached and asked the farmer, “Brother, it’s getting dark, why aren’t you going home?”
He said, “Sister, I want to stay a little longer and sell the remaining watermelons.”
Looking at the tired little girl on the cart and the weathered face of the farmer, I felt pity for them. I said, “I’ll buy all these watermelons (they were small watermelons that others didn’t choose),” and I purchased the leftover small watermelons.
Seeing the farmer happily driving the cart back home, I felt very happy.
One hot summer day, I was buying cantaloupes on the street. I saw a cart full of cantaloupes being pulled by a farmer. I thought I’d buy some to quench my thirst and cool off.
Without much inspection, I let the farmer fill a bag for me. After paying, I took the bag home.
The next day, when I opened the bag, and saw that the cantaloupes had ripened too much. The flesh had spoiled, and they couldn’t be eaten. At that moment, I found it amusing and thought, “Well, at least the farmer didn't suffer a loss!”
A few days later, I reflected on this incident and realized that my way of thinking had changed. Instead of complaining about the seller like I used to before practicing Falun Dafa, I didn’t blame him for selling overripe cantaloupes. I was even considerate of his situation.
Falun Dafa truly changed me, turning me into a person who considers others. As I started to consider others in everything I did, my daily life became easier and more joyful.
Nurturing Consideration: The Optimal Approach to Resolving Marital Conflicts
One cold winter day, I was walking on the road in search of people with predestined relationships, to tell them the facts about Falun Dafa. I saw a young man standing by the entrance to the Civil Affairs Bureau, looking unhappy.
I approached him and asked, “Young man, why are you standing outside in such cold weather?” With a frown, he replied, “I’m waiting to file for a divorce.”
I inquired, “Why do you want a divorce?” He said, “My wife wants to leave me, she complains that I drink and am violent.”
I asked, “Where is your wife?” He replied, “She’s at the photocopy shop across the street.” His wife joined us soon after.
Seeing these two young people, I said, “There’s a saying, ‘A hundred years’ efforts lead to cross by the same ferryboat; a thousand years’ efforts lead to sleep on the same pillow.’ In this lifetime, you two became husband and wife—what a great fate that is. Don’t make impulsive decisions, filing for divorce and then regretting it later!”
I asked, “How old is your child?” The young man said, “He’s in first grade.” I said, “The child is still young, and losing the care of one parent will hurt him. Growing up in a single-parent household can harm children’s tender hearts, making them become withdrawn and different from children in normal families. We need to think of the child.”
I asked the young woman for her reasons for seeking a divorce. She said, “He drinks, and when he’s drunk, he becomes violent. He also drives while drunk, which worries me. I can’t take it anymore.”
Seeing this situation, I wanted to help them with compassion. So, under the guidance of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, I explained to them how to be good people, and my understanding of marriage.
I said, “You two have to understand that being husband and wife is a connection that transcends lifetimes, destined by the heavens. Between husband and wife, there is gratitude and tolerance.
“When conflicts arise, don’t demand that the other person change. Change yourself sincerely and consider the other person, see where you fell short, and work on improving yourself. This is the best way to resolve marital conflicts.
“The ancients said, ‘One day of husband and wife, a hundred days of gratitude.’ This gratitude is not just about loving each other, but also about responsibility and trust. If you consider each other in everything, then the marital relationship can be truly maintained, and the marriage can be harmonious and happy.”
I told the young man, “It’s not right to be violent. Apologize to your wife and promise not to be violent again. You must respect and care for her.”
Then, I turned to the young woman and said, “For the sake of your child and the family, be a little more tolerant. Try to understand him and show him affection. Give him a chance to change.” Both of them agreed.
The young man said, “Auntie, your advice is really good. We won’t get a divorce after listening to you.” The woman immediately turned around to retrieve her bag that she had placed in the line for divorce paperwork.
I looked at the two of them making up and happily said, “Let me tell you, it’s because I practice Falun Gong that I understand how to be a good person. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be able to offer advice on how to be one.”
They quickly responded, “Yes!” Finally, I told them about the truth of Falun Gong and advised them to quit the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) organizations (the Communist Party, Youth League, and Young Pioneers).
As they left, they repeatedly said, “Thank you, Auntie! We’re so grateful to you today!”
Saved by Falun Gong: A Tale of Transformation and Hope
I went out during the pandemic to clarify the truth and save people. In a residential area, I saw an elderly gentleman who appeared to be in his seventies. He was sitting with a gloomy expression on his face at the fitness area.
Approaching him, I said, “Grandpa, is something bothering you? Why are you so unhappy?”
He sighed and said, “Don’t even mention it. I live with my son’s family. My wife passed away early, and I raised him through hardship since he was little.
“I helped him find a wife. I have only this one child, and I’m getting older, so I’m supposed to live with him. But these years, you can’t imagine how difficult it’s been for me at his house.
“My grandson can’t come to my room, and I can’t go to his. Even at meals, I have to watch my daughter-in-law’s mood. One time, I picked up some food, but when I saw that my daughter-in-law wasn’t happy, I quickly put it back on the plate.
“I’ve even been thinking about jumping off a building. I don’t want to live anymore, but I’m afraid of being ridiculed.”
I felt deep sympathy for the elderly man’s situation and said, “Sir, don’t lose hope. Life is not easy, and we must we live it to the fullest. Hasn’t your son said anything?
“Try to be more open-minded. Not being allowed to talk to your grandson is probably because they’re concerned about his studies. If you can’t talk, take a walk outside, do some activities. Eat less if there’s less food, and eat more if there’s more.
“Regardless of the situation, your daughter-in-law hasn’t forced you to leave. In Buddhist teachings, life is cyclical. If your daughter-in-law treats you poorly, perhaps it's because you owed her in a previous life.
Debts need to be repaid; it’s the law of the universe. Once you’ve settled the debt, things will improve.
People nowadays have lost touch with traditions. In the past, children were respectful of their parents, but now it’s often the other way around. It’s not just your daughter-in-law; this is how society is.”
He nodded in agreement as I spoke.
The elderly gentleman let out a sigh of relief, his furrowed brows relaxed, and he smiled, saying, “Listening to your words has brightened my heart. I don’t want to jump off a building anymore. Thank you! When I talked to others, they told me to stand up against my daughter-in-law. You’re different from them.”
I replied, “I practice Falun Gong. Master Li teaches us to be good people following the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, and to be considerate of others.
“When faced with conflicts, we should be introspective and improve ourselves first. By doing so, conflicts can be resolved, right?” He nodded repeatedly and said, “Exactly!”
I also informed him, “Sir, the ‘Tiananmen Square self-immolation’ as portrayed on television is false. People of your age surely know that the CCP has initiated numerous campaigns in history—land reform, Three-Anti and Five-Anti Campaigns, Anti-Rightist Movement, the Cultural Revolution, the June Fourth Massacre—resulting in the unnatural deaths of over 80 million people.
“They have also persecuted Falun Gong. Now, there is divine wrath, and heaven intends to eliminate it.”
I asked him, “Sir, were you ever a member of the CCP?” He replied, “I have been a Party member for decades.”
I promptly said, “Sir, considering the severity of the current pandemic and the number of deaths, this pandemic is eliminating those poisoned by the CCP. Heaven is going to eradicate it. You should quickly renounce your affiliation with the Party. We can’t be condemned along with it.”
The elderly man immediately declared, “I'll quit! What’s the use of being a CCP member? I’ve had thoughts of jumping off a building for years, and no one could help me open up my mental block. Your few words have made me let go of the idea of jumping off. You saved me.”
I told him, “Sir, it was Falun Gong that saved you!”
As I was about to leave, I said, “Sir, I need to tell you to remember the lucky expression, ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’ This is a miraculous remedy to evade the pandemic.”
The elderly man said, “Young lady, I’ll remember it!” As he spoke, he smiled happily, and I felt joy too.
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