My Husband Is Proud to Have a Falun Dafa Practitioner Wife

(Minghui.org) My husband used to be short-tempered and was quick to get enraged. He slapped people’s faces at the dinner table if they provoked him; he rolled down the car window to curse the driver of a passing car if it got in his way; he cursed his own sister when she deceived him into transferring the ownership of our house under her name. He abused and beat me when our family ran into hardships because of the persecution of my faith in Falun Dafa.

But Dafa’s principles and my dedication to my faith changed him. He gradually accepted Dafa and became mild and peaceful, more kind and upright. He is now proud to have a Falun Dafa practitioner as his wife.

Our Story

I met my husband when I was 20 years old. Despite his short temper, I was attracted to his bold personality. He was good to me and very accommodating. But we often had arguments because of our different personalities, and they sometimes turned into physical conflicts. Although my friends and colleagues were not optimistic about our relationship, we got married two years later.

Married life turned out to be a mess. My husband often ate out with his friends and came home in the middle of the night. Sometimes he even slept outside. He also took up a lot of bad habits—smoking, drinking, gambling, dancing, and fighting. He sought out the company of young women and later had an affair. So we quarreled all the time.

Things carried on like that for a long time. Though he repeatedly wrote a pledge to change for the better, he always went back to his old self shortly after. I was physically and mentally exhausted.

For the sake of my health, I had an opportunity to learn about a spiritual and meditation discipline, Falun Gong, also known as Falun Dafa, at the end of 1998 when I was 28 years old. I read the book Zhuan Falun and was deeply attracted by its profound principles and decided to embark on the path of cultivation.

Guided by Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, Falun Dafa’s main principles, I examined myself when I encountered any problems. My relationship with my husband improved. I told him how wonderful Dafa was and he accepted it. He started to press down on his legs so as to practice meditation. Then, in July 1999, the persecution of Falun Dafa began.

Husband Poisoned But Awakened

Due to the overwhelming pressure, our relationship became intense again. He did not talk to me much and always had a long face. He cared less about me and went back to his old lifestyle.

Seeing how people were being deceived by the lies put out by the government, I went to Tiananmen Square and shouted, “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” I was arrested and detained, which really stressed and pained my husband.

Driven by the hatred instigated by the media, he began to abuse me and curse Dafa and Master Li (Dafa’s founder). He yelled at me and beat me up when he found me reading Dafa books or doing anything related to Dafa. He refused to listen to me and treated me as his enemy.

However, I still treated him the same way, with affection. I also kept telling him the truth about Dafa. Our relationship went up and down for about two to three years.

Dafa has the power to inspire people and wake them up. My husband gradually noticed that I had become kinder and more resilient, and my unyielding spirit influenced him in a subtle way.

He admitted to me that Dafa was beneficial to families and society and all of humanity, that it improved moral standards, and that Master Li was the most revered person he knew. He no longer blamed me for the fear we lived under and stopped speaking about Dafa with disrespect. Later, he let me buy a printer and even drove me to deliver materials to other practitioners.

Husband’s Perseverance

I was sentenced to six years in prison in 2008. Many things happened during those years. My son grew up—he went from being a junior high school student to a college student. My in-laws lived in the countryside with my husband’s younger brother. But after they became ill, his brother did not want to take care of them. So my husband brought them home to live with him. My father-in-law later had a stroke and became partially paralyzed after months of hospitalization. My mother-in-law died of liver cancer despite treatment. My husband took care of all of their medical expenses himself, without complaint, even though he has four siblings.

His sister later tricked him and transferred the title of my house, worth tens of thousands of yuan, into her name and refused to pay us even though my husband only asked for half of the value. So the two turned their backs on each other. His factory business went downhill as well and he ended up more than a million yuan in debt.

Despite all the tribulations, he endured by himself with strong willpower. He visited me regularly in prison and brought me money and necessities. He never talked about the hardships in the family, only the good news. He told me that he would wait for me.

He came to take me home when I was released. Our family of three was reunited after six years. His devotion to me won the recognition and respect of many people we knew.

Husband Learns to Do Things According to Dafa

Though my husband is a kind person, he could not control his temper when he had to deal with people who were not reasonable or betrayed him. I often talked to him about the Fa principles, such as good being rewarded and evil punished, karmic retribution, predestined relationships, no loss no gain, the transformation of virtue, and karma. I advised him to do good deeds, to be tolerant, and to understand and forgive others.

He accepted more of Dafa’s principles over time and became mild and peaceful, more kind and upright. His business began to improve and he paid off his debts.

At the same time, I tried to hold myself to the standard of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I took good care of his father and was kind to his siblings regardless of what had happened in the past.

My husband sensed the power of my compassion and completely changed. He forgave his young brother for not being filial to his parents and his sister for taking away our house. He forgave the person who bumped into his car with his bicycle and got along with his business partners in spite of conflicts of interest. He treated people with honesty and generosity and was able to endure unbearable tribulations.

I have two brothers and three sisters of my own. My biological father died when I was three years old and my youngest brother was three months old. My stepfather raised us after my mother passed away when my youngest sister was six. My stepfather and my siblings are all good, hard-working people, but they are not well-off. My husband is kind to them.

When my stepfather got sick and was unable to take care of himself when he was in his 80s, my youngest brother quit his job and took care of him at home. My husband generously gave him 3,900 yuan monthly, in addition to the 100 yuan from one of my sisters. My husband also told my brother that he would pay his son’s school expenses.

When practitioners began to file lawsuits in 2015 against former dictator Jiang Zemin who launched the persecution of Falun Gong, my husband immediately agreed to do it as well. A practitioner couple became displaced and he let them stay in his factory despite the risk.

My Husband Is Proud of Me

Now my husband tells everyone he meets about me and the truth about Dafa and how evil the Chinese Communist Party is. He tells them I am a good wife, and that I brought him many blessings even though he treated me badly before. Without me, he says, he and his siblings would have stopped speaking to each other. He emphasizes that Falun Dafa practitioners are good people, that practitioners do nothing wrong by following the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, and that the Party is evil and deceives people.

Once my husband and I went to a banquet, where many important people were present, including a police chief and a deputy director of the police department. During the dinner, the deputy director’s wife told my husband that she believed in Buddhism and asked him if he believed in it. My husband said, “My wife and I both believe in Falun Dafa.”