(Clearwisdom.net) My husband is able to validate Falun Gong and is good in any situation. I practice Falun Gong, but he does not. I have asked him: "Why don't you fear the police?" He answered: "Because I am confident at heart, I know you haven't had done anything wrong, therefore I am not afraid of them."
I began to practice Falun Gong in 1998. The thing that impressed my husband the most, and let him feel the wonderfulness of Falun Gong, happened then.
We lived with my mother-in-law and I worked at a local swimming pool. I worked long hours, from 6 a.m. to 8 p.m. I also undertook all the housework. One day my mother-in-law said she wanted to have a beef bun, so I took a little time off from work to buy beef the following day. After cooking and having dinner on time, I began to chop the mince and prepare the yeast. I got up at 4 a.m. the following day to make the buns for her. When the buns were ready to eat, I asked her to get up, and she said that she did not want steamed buns, but wanted dumplings instead.
I said: "Mum didn't you say that you wanted steamed buns?" She replied: "That was yesterday, not today. Today I want to have dumplings." I said: "Fine, I will do that tomorrow." She said she wanted to have it now, and I calmly said: "Mum, I have to go to work soon, and don't have enough time. Please eat the buns and I will make the dumplings for you tomorrow." She happily ate. I again bought beef that day, prepared the food late at night, and again got up early to make dumplings. When I finished cooking, she said she did not want to eat. I asked: "Didn't you want to have dumplings? I prepared them for you. Why don't you eat?"
She said she wanted to have dumplings the day before, and wanted to have simmered beef today. I tried to talk her into eating the dumplings, but she refused, I was indeed moved a bit, but quickly changed my thoughts. Am I a practitioner? This is to help me improve my xinxing. I must grasp this chance, so my anger went away and I patiently said to her, "Whatever you want to eat is fine, but you'll have to wait until tomorrow." She insisted that she wanted it straight away, so I kindly and calmly said, "If I do not go to work and earn money, how can I buy beef for you? Please, quickly eat so I can go to work and buy you beef again." Finally she agreed.
My son was getting anxious by this time, and said, "Grandma, aren't you pushing people around intentionally? You're too much!" I said that she was old and that whatever she wanted was ok. My husband watched this and was very moved. He said to my mother, "If my wife had not learned Falun Gong, would she treat you like this?"
From that day on, my husband has been really supportive of my practice, and has read through all the Falun Gong books.
In the beginning of the persecution, Falun Gong was a hot topic. Once he was playing Mahjong in the Mahjong hall, with five or six tables of people. A traffic officer slandered Falun Gong. He fiercely pounded the table and stood up, loudly scolding, "Do you know Falun Gong? If you do not, do not speak irresponsibly. I tell you! None of the gamblers here are Falun Gong practitioners. They do not pursue eating, drinking, gambling, cheating and deceiving people, they are the best people. Because my wife practices Falun Gong, I know Falun Gong the most, and have the most right to speak." There was a silence in the room and the policeman had nothing to say.
Because my son was fearful of the Chinese Communist Party (CCP)'s persecution, he said to me that if fellow practitioners came again, he would send them away. My husband heard it and said, "This is your first and last time talking that way. Your mother is a good person and her fellow practitioners are also good people. You should show respect."
I was illegally held in a forced labor camp for three years. Some of my husband's colleagues said: "Your wife is unattractive. Why do you do devotedly wait for her? Why not simply find another one. Your next child would be 2 years old when she returns." He replied: "My wife did not do anything wrong or betray me. Just because the CCP does not allow it does not mean it is bad. She had a run-in with the police, which shows me that I have not protected her well. I am very ashamed. Not only can I not get a divorce, but I also need to do the right thing for her."
When I was home, he liked playing mahjong the most, but he did not play even once during the three years of my imprisonment. He worried that I would not be able to find him if I called at night. Moreover he did not drink during those three years, he said: "My wife has not done anything wrong, but is being mistreated. She is suffering persecution. How can I go out and enjoy myself? I'll wait for her to return so we can have fine food together." He did not even eat the fish given by his workplace. He dried it and kept it for me, when I returned in three years, the fish was like sawdust.
Sometimes others looked down on him. They felt it was a shame to have a wife in prison, but he was not angry about it. He walked with his back straight and said it was his glory to have a wife like me. He worked very hard. He also began to hold himself to the standard of a Falun Gong practitioner, taking personal interests very lightly, not struggling or fighting for personal gain, or haggling over individual success and failure. He helped others unconditionally. His colleagues all called him Falun Gong. His cadre said jobs from him were well done, and their leadership would be easy if everyone was like him. My husband said: "I am influenced by my Falun Gong wife." He obtained consistent approval from his colleagues and leaders, and has been recognized as a model worker for several years straight. He said he wanted others to see what a family member should do in the face of such persecution. He said: "I am indeed validating the Fa."
On a Friday night about two months later, he told me that his cadres would come to our home the next day to play mahjong. I was very excited, as I knew Teacher had arranged for them to come. Early the next morning, his cadres came. After a while, I began to talk about Falun Gong and advised them to quit the CCP. Unexpectedly, my husband got very angry, but I was not moved and calmly asked, "Why do you lose your temper so much? I will change the topic if you like." I cheerfully said, "I'm going shopping, please try the food I've prepared after you finish playing." My husband took them to the local mahjong hall to play. I sent out a strong thought: "Have two more of their colleagues come after playing so I can tell them about quitting the CCP, and please control my husband's mouth so he doesn't say bad things against this."
When he came back in the afternoon, he asked how much food I had prepared because two more people from his workplace had come. I smiled, and again thought of what Teacher said:
"Cultivation depends on one's own efforts, while the transformation of gong is done by one's master." (Zhuan Falun, version 2000)
While I was serving the food, I heard him say how good Falun Gong is.
He was influenced by me, his Falun Gong wife, so he could do well at work and help the cadres feel relieved, and so on. I told them about quitting the CCP. They all accepted my words, and three party members withdrew. They mentioned, "You talk so well, can we bring our wives to listen to you?" I said, "Certainly." After they left, my husband said, "They didn't come to play mahjong, but to resign from the party." I smiled.
