(Minghui.org) My husband Qiang and I were high school classmates. Although he seemed introverted, he did well academically and also often got into fights. But he never bullied those who were weak or girls.
One day, two boys started to fight in class. They were really going at it, and all the girls were scared and tried to stay away from them. Qiang stood up and howled at them, “Haven’t you had enough?” Just like that, the boys stopped right then and there. Those tough boys all liked to follow him. We called him “Boss” behind his back. Most people just stayed away from him. I thought he and I belonged to different worlds.
Many years later, a former teacher played matchmaker. We dated and married. Since we worked in different cities, we only saw each other during the holidays. We were able to live a peaceful life since we hardly ever saw each other.
War Breaks Out
When our son was born, we transferred to the same company. Our family life followed a normal routine. His male chauvinism tormented me and our son to no end. Conflicts between us surfaced and escalated.
We both worked, so we hired a housemaid to help us. After we came home, I helped with all the household chores, but my husband sat on the sofa, smoking, drinking tea, and watching TV. He never helped with anything. I initially tolerated his attitude because my father was the same way. My father was very controlling. He was always right, and everyone else had to obey him. My mother was always caring, nurturing, and loving and never complained. I behaved like my mother even though, deep down, I was not happy.
After our second son was born, we were fined for violating the “One-Child Policy.” The pressure and stress multiplied. My husband still behaved as if nothing had changed. Particularly on the weekends, when the housemaid was off, it was war between us. From complaints to blame to shouting matches. He invited his buddies to drink, smoke, and play cards in our home. My children and I were surrounded with smoke. He wouldn't help with any chores and claimed that was a wife's duty. He was the man and not supposed to do anything around the house.
It was useless to talk to him, and my complaints meant nothing. I couldn’t tolerate it anymore and saw no hope for our future. I filed for divorce and asked him to sign the paper. When he tore it up, I told him I would see him in court!
He was scared when he saw that I was determined to leave him. He asked his supervisor to persuade me to stay and promised to change. He began to do some household chores, although not very well. I didn’t feel like a winner, I felt sorry for him.
I Began to Practice Falun Dafa
The pressure of life and work affected my health. I developed insomnia, sinusitis, and heart disease. We live on the fourth floor, and I had to rest several times on the way up the stairs. The quality of our life deteriorated, even though my husband said he’d tried his best.
In the summer of 2002, I learned about Falun Dafa from a practitioner and began practicing it. The persecution was really intense at that time, and my husband was scared to death when he realized what I was reading. When I read Zhuan Falun, my husband waved his fist in front of me and yelled, “The persecution is so extreme, yet you still dare to read that book? Who gave it to you? You’d better return it immediately.”
I finished reading Zhuan Falun for the first time as he ranted and raved. I was able to sleep deeply and soundly, my sinusitis was gone, and my heart disease went away. I felt what it meant to be illness-free! I was shocked to the core and realized many things. I learned that the purpose of life is for us to return to our original selves. I also learned that our relationships are predestined. I began abiding by the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance. I was able to look at my husband differently, to accommodate his shortcomings, and to appreciate his honesty and sincerity.
With a strong sense of responsibility, I picked up a pen and, in my own way, wrote the truth about Falun Dafa so that those who had been misled by the Chinese Communist Party's (CCP's) slanderous propaganda would learn otherwise. I sent my message to thousands of families.
My husband witnessed just how much I changed mentally and physically. He knew how wonderful Falun Dafa was and that the CCP propaganda was all lies. He was torn apart, because he knew how evil the CCP is and was worried sick about my safety.
My Husband Turned to Falun Dafa for Help
Master Li said:
“He does not believe in qigong, but he cannot guarantee that he will not become ill. When he becomes ill, he will go to the hospital. When a doctor of Western medicine cannot cure him, he will go to see a doctor of Chinese medicine. When the doctor of Chinese medicine also cannot cure the illness and when no special prescription works, he will then think of qigong...” (Lecture Six, Zhuan Falun)
My husband is that kind of person. He was conceited and did not believe anything. Initially he was deceived by the CCP propaganda and misunderstood Falun Dafa. Only after witnessed my changes did he understand the truth.
He had back pain that got worse as he aged. In the winter of 2009, he could not bear the pain anymore and went to the hospital. The doctor said, “What took you so long to seek help? You are in serious condition. You have three protruding vertebrae, and neither medicine nor injections will work at this point. Surgery is the only option even though its success rate is only 50%. You’d better think it over.”
He asked the doctor for a few days to make arrangements at work. The doctor gave him three days and made arrangements for the operations. On the way home, we both felt awful and did not know what to say.
He could not sleep due to pain and worry. He said to himself, “I am the only child. If the operation is not successful, who will take care of my parents? Who will take care of me?” [He is almost six feet tall and weighs over 200 pounds.] He turned to me and said, “I did not make you rich or happy. If I become a burden to you, why should I still live?” He began to cry, and my heart broke for him.
He held my hand and asked, “Can I learn Falun Dafa from you?”
I could hardly contain my excitement as I calmly replied, “Of course.”
He asked, “Will my back be healed like you?”
“It will depend on you, yourself. Master provides salvation to all. However you believe is however you can obtain. If you completely believe and follow the teachings, you will be fine.”
He saw hope and smiled with tears in his eyes. “Alright, I will get up tomorrow morning and do the exercises with you.”
He slept very well that night and got up around 4:30 a.m. He learned the movements carefully. I told him that the second exercise would last a long time and he could do as much as he could. I was surprised that he finished it with me. His character made him strong.
After he finished two exercises, his clothes were soaked with sweat. I cleaned him up and changed his clothes. He fell back to sleep until 9:30 a.m. When he woke up, he was very happy, “I have never slept so well!” He sat on the edge of the bed, slowly turned his back left and right, and said, “Oh, my back is much better! Amazing!”
He did the exercises with me in the morning and read Zhuan Falun during the day. In only three days, my husband told me that he was able to move his back without much pain. He felt so much better mentally and his appetite also improved. He called the surgeon and told him to cancel the operation. He exclaimed, “I no longer need surgery! Falun Dafa is good! Master saved my life! I have hope now! Falun Dafa is so good. Those who never understand will never know that!”
A Happy Life
After doing the exercises and studying the Fa teachings for a while, my husband's back completely recovered and never flared up again. His chronically inflamed gallbladder caused by his past alcohol use also stopped bothering him. He quit drinking and smoking and his temperament improved. He said, “I’ve finally realized so many things after so many years—Dafa let me know the value and meaning of life.”
He began abiding by the principles of Falun Dafa and being considerate. He is able to chat with family members and be more patient and kind. He takes good care of his parents. His father often tells his relatives, “Falun Dafa is good! The Master is great! I never dreamed my son could turn out so well after learning the practice. We are so blessed, our family is so blessed!”
Our family is now happy and healthy. Falun Dafa is good! We are deeply grateful for Master's saving grace!
