From Unhappy and Overbearing to Kind, Sincere, and Happy
(Minghui.org) After I read the main book of Falun Dafa Zhuan Falun in 1998, I decided to take up this cultivation practice. It changed my life forever.
Prior to that, I felt lost and lonely. I had many questions about life, but no answers.
As a full-time staff member in a recreational facility I earned a good salary, but was not satisfied. I was very bossy and couldn't accept different opinions, so people stayed away from me. I smoked, gambled, drank, and had a foul mouth.
After I got married, I was busy all the time and was making good money. However, whenever I had a quiet moment, I would feel very tired and bitter. Many people were envious of me, but I was not happy.
Focusing on Others' Strengths
After studying Zhuan Falun I came to understand that the purpose of life is to go back to one's origin. I realized that the source of my unhappiness was my bad attitude. I have since quit gambling, smoking and drinking and no longer use foul language.
As a Falun Dafa practitioner I follow the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance. I know that I must do a good job at work, be compassionate, and look at things from others’ point of view, focusing on their strengths and not their flaws. When faced with criticism, I need to look within and try to improve myself.
I am a kind person now. Falun Dafa has changed me. I study the Fa and do the exercises every day.
Dealing with Marital Conflict
When I found out that my husband was having extra-marital affairs, I was devastated and I could not understand why this happened. But I was very kind to him.
He had moved out of our home, but returned five years later after consorting with different women. He realized what he had lost by leaving me.
“In cultivation practice, there may be two scenarios when dealing with specific conflicts or when others treat you badly. One is that you might have treated this person badly in your previous life. You feel in your heart that it is unfair, "How can this person treat me like this?" Then why did you treat this person that way in the past? You might claim that you actually did not know it at that time, and this life has nothing to do with the other life. That does not work.” (Zhuan Falun)
Averting Family Conflict
My husband's younger brother married a woman from the rural area. The woman asked for an apartment in the city, and my father-in-law agreed to give them his apartment, without informing us.
My sister-in-law requested that the apartment, valued at 600,000 yuan, including half of the furniture, be put in her husband's name. However, under her proposed agreement, the two brothers were to share in the care and medical expenses for their parents. I believed that this was totally unfair, until I read Master's Fa.
"He who acts for his namea life of anger and hate is hisHe who acts for profitcold is he, knowing not his kinHe who acts for emotionmany are the troubles he brings himselfBitter,fighting away,he makes karma all his life." (“An Upright Person” in Hong Yin)
I am a cultivator, so when faced with the test of loss and gain I needed to measure myself with the requirements of a Dafa practitioner. So I decided to let my husband sign the agreement, therefore, averting a potential family conflict.
Not Caring for Fame or Losing Face
Although I held a supervisory position at work, I had to rethink my work life when my mother passed away. Because I worked full-time, she took care of our daughter, and now I had to take care of her. As I was in my forties it was not easy to find a job, so I decided to work as a cleaning lady for a company. I heard that although the job was hard, the income was not bad.
My husband, who did not contribute to our family expenses, thought that he was losing face. I tried to make him understand that I was making a living by putting in an honest day's work, and there is nothing shameful about it. Besides, we had financial difficulties as my husband’s company was not doing well, and we had to think of the tuition fees and living expenses for our daughter.
Following the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, I treat all my clients well and do a good job. Thus, they referred me to their family members and friends. I rank among the top three in income and good customer feedback in my company.
My husband realized how hard I work and started to do all of the household chores. He no longer thinks of losing face when talking about my job and talks proudly about me to his parents and coworkers.
No Longer Selfish
People agree that I am different person now. Falun Dafa has made me into a better person, and has guided me on my way back to my original, true self. I was an unhappy and overbearing woman, but now people say that I am a sincere, kind, and patient Falun Dafa practitioner.
I have changed from being a selfish person with a negative outlook on life to being a tolerant, generous, and happy person with a simple lifestyle.
Falun Dafa has taught me the meaning of life. Having witnessed the changes in me, my husband and daughter are very supportive of my practicing Falun Dafa.