Letting Go of Attachments and Studying the Fa Well Resolves My Family Tribulation

(Minghui.org) Master tirelessly emphasizes the importance of studying the Fa in many of His teachings.

Study and Memorize the Fa

For me to study the Fa means to join a Fa-study group three times a week, and for the rest of my time, I would study the Fa on my own. I mainly focused on reading Zhuan Falun, and studying Master’s subsequent teachings. So far I have hand-copied 10 volumes out of many of the Fa lectures Master gave in different cities. After I learned about the benefits of memorizing the Fa from the Minghui Weekly, I was inspired, and I started to memorize Zhuan Falun.

The process of memorizing has been difficult for me. It took me a year to memorize Zhuan Falun for the first time, and now it has been 12 years, and I am currently memorizing the 6th lecture for the 12th time. In the beginning, it was rather difficult, I had to repeat each section dozens of times. Looking at the thick book, I often felt overwhelmed and thought that it was rather difficult. There was a constant struggle between two thoughts: one thought telling me: “This book is so thick, when will I ever finish memorizing it? It’s too hard, just give up”, and the other thought telling me: “I can’t give up, I am a Dafa disciple, and Master is taking care of me, no matter how difficult, I must persist.” I made up my mind and decided to persevere no matter how difficult it appeared.

I memorized one sentence at a time, one paragraph at a time, memorizing one section before moving on to the next. During the process of memorization, I often had negative thoughts that were trying to distract me: “Don’t bother memorizing, it’s too slow, just read through it quickly.” I firmly held onto my righteous thoughts about memorizing the Fa, dismissed the distractions, and persisted in memorizing. It took me an entire year, but finally, I completed memorizing the book once.

One night, I had a clear dream: Zhuan Falun was opened in the middle, with the first half spread out on the earth and the second half extending endlessly into the boundless sky, with layers like steps in between. When I woke up, I thought Master was encouraging me to continue memorizing the Fa, showing me the miraculous scene, which strengthened my confidence in continuing to memorize the Fa. I sincerely thank Master for his compassionate care.

Overcoming Family Tribulations

One afternoon, my eldest daughter-in-law came with her daughter, asking me to help take care of the child at her home, I agreed. She then went out with the child to visit a neighbor, but I noticed something was off when she returned. After dinner, as she drove both me and the child to her home, she started complaining. She said the neighbor had told her that I often told people the truth about Dafa, and how I told people about withdrawing from the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) and its youth organizations. She became increasingly angry while talking, and she said that she felt embarrassed in front of others because people laughed at her, and so on. At first, I listened quietly, trying not to let myself be affected, and maintaining my composure, but as she became angrier and raised her voice, her words became more offensive.

As she went on and on, my patience reached its limit, and I became angry and argued with her, saying: “I provide for your food and drink, and I’m here to help you with the child. How can you treat me like this? I won’t go anymore. Stop the car, I’ll walk back home.” She dropped me off and drove away with her child. By then, it was after nine in the evening.

That night, I couldn’t fall asleep, tossing and turning, and I felt regret. It was so late, and my daughter-in-law was so angry, she was driving with her child, and it was so dangerous. I couldn’t believe how I was as a cultivator and acted so poorly. Since I couldn’t sleep, what should I do? I studied the Fa.

Master said:

“Why do you encounter these problems? They are all caused by your own karma. We have already eliminated for you many, countless portions of it, leaving only that tiny bit that is divided into tribulations at different levels for improving your xinxing, tempering your mind, and removing your various attachments. These are all your own tribulations that we use to improve your xinxing, and you will be able to overcome them. As long as you improve your xinxing, you can overcome them. Unless you, yourself do not want to do so, you can make it, provided you want to overcome them. Therefore, from now on when you come across a conflict you should not consider it a coincidence. This is because when a conflict occurs, it will take place unexpectedly. But that is not a coincidence—it is for improving your xinxing. As long as you treat yourself as a practitioner, you can handle it properly.” (Lecture Four in Zhuan Falun)

It’s truly a wake-up call for those lost in delusion. I said to Master: “Master, I was wrong, I didn’t listen to your words and was manipulated by my demonic nature. I will study the Fa diligently and use the kindness of a cultivator to rectify the negative influence I’ve caused on my daughter-in-law.”

After studying the Fa for a few days, my mind calmed down significantly, and I also found many of my attachments, such as competitive mentality, resentment, hatred, suspicion, intolerance of others’ opinions, explosive reactions, jealousy, laziness, looking down on others, attachment to family affection, and various other attachments. How could I manage a family relationship well with so many human attachments, how could I validate the Fa, and how could I display the positive image of a cultivator? The more I thought about it, the more I felt ashamed, I had failed to live up to Master’s compassion. I sent strong righteous thoughts, clearing away these attachments, rejecting them, and purifying my dimensional space.

I felt I should call my daughter-in-law to apologize, to ease the tension and rectify the negative impact I had on sentient beings. However, each time I picked up the phone, I would hesitate and put it back down. At that moment, the small phone felt so heavy, and my mouth didn’t seem to open. Throughout China’s history, it has been the younger generation apologizing to their elderly parents, and it’s unheard of for a mother-in-law to apologize to her daughter-in-law. As soon as this thought emerged, I immediately rejected it. That’s the reasoning of an ordinary person, but I am a Dafa cultivator, a life created by Dafa of the universe. I should hold myself to the high standards of a cultivator and not the standards of ordinary people, and save sentient beings instead of pushing away my daughter-in-law who already understood the truth.

I begged Master to strengthen my righteous thoughts. Finally, I picked up the phone and called my daughter-in-law. I sincerely apologized to her: “It’s all my fault, I apologize, don’t be like me. Come home when you have time, and I’ll make dumplings for you.” She was happy to hear from me. When she returned, harmony returned to our family.

Letting Go of Many Attachments

Twenty-five years have passed. Under the compassionate care of Master and through continuous study and memorization of the Fa, many of my attachments have disappeared. My mentality has become more stable and calm, and my tone of speech has become more gentle, and I truly felt a profound transformation within me. In the limited time left for cultivation, I will listen to Master’s words, study the Fa more and well, and continue to diligently carry out the three things as before, and eliminate the remaining attachments.