My Determination to Practice Falun Dafa Changed My Husband
(Minghui.org) Before I started to practice Falun Dafa, my relationship with my husband was not good. He had a bad temper, didn't do any housework, easily got angry at me for no reason, and sometimes beat me.
Letting Go of Resentment for My Husband
At that time, I ran a small store. I not only managed the store but also had to take care of all the housework and our children.
Because of the heavy workload and my bad mood, I suffered from many health issues, including stomach problems, enteritis, and appendicitis. I often caught colds, and wrinkles covered my face. I also harbored a serious resentment for my husband.
Given the unbearable circumstances, I filed for divorce. My husband refused to agree, and I had to go to the court alone to file. He later found out and dismissed the case.
In February 1999, I found a copy of Zhuan Falun at my parents’ home. I was moved by the Fa principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. After I read the book, my mind suddenly became bright. I understood a lot, and decades of resentment for my husband disappeared from my heart all at once.
I used to think that I did things better than anyone else. But not only did my husband not thank me, he treated me badly. After I started practicing Dafa, I realized I was far from the standard of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. By cultivating, I learned to look inwards.
Whenever I had a conflict with my husband, I would reflect on whether something I said had hurt him. I no longer quarreled with him, and his temper steadily improved.
Less than a month after I started to practice, all my health problems were resolved, and I have not needed any medicine since.
Master Li Hongzhi (the founder of Falun Dafa) saved my family and purified my body.
Practicing Dafa with Determination
On July 20, 1999, out of jealousy, CCP (Chinese Communist Party) leader Jiang Zemin launched the cruel persecution of Falun Dafa. Because my husband worked in a government agency and was an official, he was afraid that my practicing Falun Dafa might impact his reputation and career.
As a result, he tried to make me stop practicing and took away all my Dafa books. Because I had only practiced Dafa for a few months at that point and was not very clear about the Fa principles, I was affected.
But there was one thing I knew for certain: It is not wrong for me to be a good person according to Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
I said to my husband, “If you can't tolerate someone who wants to be good according to Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, then would you prefer falsehoods, evil, and violence? Do you think I feel secure with you? Maybe one day you will kick me out because of concern for your career. I will not give up practicing Falun Dafa.
“If you are afraid I will affect your career, I can leave. I used to do whatever you said, but this time I won't.”
I rented a room, packed my things, and prepared to move out. When he saw I really intended to leave, he said to our daughter, “Your mother is leaving home so she can practice Falun Dafa. What do you say?”
She said, “Let her practice! It doesn't matter if she does the exercises at home.”
He didn't say anything, just removed the books from my baggage and set them out for me to use.
With Master's blessing, I was determined to practice Dafa. My husband used to make every decision at home, and I didn’t dare challenge him, whether he was right or wrong. I knew this time it was Master who was in charge of me. It was Master who reinforced my righteous thoughts and made me determined to practice Dafa.
My Husband Changed His Attitude Towards Dafa
When I was arrested by the CCP the first time, my husband didn't say anything, but he came to the detention center to visit me. Although we didn't get to meet that day, he left me a few hundred yuan.
When I was arrested the second time, because the government pressured him, he became fearful and worried his career would be affected.
When I was in prison, he wrote a letter to my father, saying that if I went out to distribute Falun Dafa information, he would divorce me and give the family property to our two children.
After reading the letter, my father said to him, “You and my daughter have been married for decades. Don't you know what kind of person she is? How can you not discern the good from the bad?”
My husband left without saying anything. I went to my father's home first after I was released from prison, and after I read the letter, I really wanted to cry. But I didn't.
I feel incredibly lucky to have obtained Dafa. After returning home, I wrote a letter to my husband that said, “I have benefited so much from Dafa, and Master has given me so much. When Dafa suffers, I cannot just hide at home. I have to speak up and seek justice for Dafa. If I didn’t, what kind of person would I be? Besides, telling people the truth about Falun Dafa to help them is my historical mission, and I have to fulfill it. If you are afraid of losing money or your reputation, I can leave this home, and I won't take anything with me. Please think twice.”
After he read my letter, the next day he turned into a different person. Smiling, he said to me, “What I said in a fit of anger doesn't count. You can practice Dafa; I don't care anymore.”
A family tribulation was resolved with Master's blessing. From then on, my husband has never interfered with my cultivation, understands the truth, and often listens to Master's lectures.
Thank you, Master! I can only repay your compassion with diligent cultivation.