An Experience of Getting Rid of Jealousy

(Minghui.org) I have known since I started practicing Falun Dafa that jealousy is very serious and we must eliminate it. Master Li saw that I had the desire to get rid of jealousy and made arrangements for me to cultivate it away.

I came to work one day on a construction site more than a decade ago as usual, and met a fellow villager who had won contracts to build two factories. He asked me to work with him, knowing that I was very talented in this field, so I agreed. I was in charge of the bricklayers, carpenters, and steel workers, as well as the laying of the lines. He mainly took care of hiring workers.

My brother-in-law was farming chickens in the area, and his business wasn’t going well. My father-in-law said to me, “Your brother-in-law doesn’t listen to anyone but you. Can he go to work for you? You can teach him bricklaying.” So I arranged for my brother-in-law to be an apprentice by my side. Although he worked hard, he didn’t learn well. But my brother-in-law was very good at networking.

After the factory was completed at the end of the year, the fellow villager raised the rental fee very high in order to make a profit. He paid himself out, but I didn’t get my share until the fall of the following year. I therefore didn’t take the initiative to contact him the following spring to work on the other factory, and he was too embarrassed to contact me again.

My brother-in-law came to me one day and said, “Your partner wants me to work with him.” When I heard that, I knew they wanted to work together without me. Although I felt a little unbalanced, I knew that my brother-in-law’s life was difficult, so I let him do it.

If this had occurred before I became a Dafa practitioner, I would not have liked them working together. People today are only interested in profit. Who would give their paid work to others? But now I am a practitioner. How can I compete for fame and profit like other people? I must follow the requirements of Dafa. I should be considerate of others and let go of the desire for profit. But I found that my jealousy was exposed on this issue.

Their cooperation was not smooth and faced many difficulties. My brother-in-law was not good in certain aspects, so he often brought blueprints to me to help him at night. I explained it to him carefully, and his skills gradually improved. My brother-in-law also borrowed money from me to pay his workers. I knew he could not say when he could pay it back, but I still lent it to him. At first, he borrowed tens of thousands, and later borrowed more. I gave him everything including my bank card and password, and let him use it as he wanted. I think this helped me get rid of my desire for profit and jealousy.

Master said:

“If something is yours, you will not lose it.” (Lecture Seven, Zhuan Falun)

So I was able to stay calm.

Later, when they were short of workers, my brother-in-law asked me to work for him. When they were short of management staff, he asked me to help manage the site, because if the site was not well managed, it would face losses.

As time went by, my brother-in-law became my boss. Sometimes when he was not satisfied, he would get angry with me in public. Some co-workers could not stand it and stood up for me. They asked me, “How can your brother-in-law treat you like this? You should teach him a lesson!” Whenever he treated my badly, I felt really uncomfortable and unbalanced. I thought, “Without my technical and financial help, would you be where you are today?!” Even the relatives of our two families said the same thing.

Their projects gradually became bigger and the benefits also increased. I worked for them for about five or six years. During that time, I constantly worked on getting rid of my attachment to jealousy. At the beginning, I was often indignant because I helped him so much. However, as I studied the Fa more, I reflected on it many times and warned myself, what kind of mentality should I have toward my brother-in-law? Aren’t the desire for rewards, the imbalance in my heart, and jealousy all ordinary people’s attachments? Aren’t they all attachments that cultivators should get rid of? If I follow the requirements of Dafa and the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance, I should be mentally balanced. He is now my boss, and I am just working for him. Why should I be unbalanced?

In the process of eliminating jealousy, Master’s Fa helped me understand higher Fa principles and deeper connotations, and I greatly improved my xinxing, so that jealousy could no longer interfere with me. At the same time, I constantly eliminated it when I sent forth righteous thoughts.

I became calmer and calmer as my xinxing improved. No matter how much money my brother-in-law borrowed from me, whether he returned it or not, or how he treated me, I was able to remain calm, and also treat him with compassion. No matter how much money they made, I was no longer jealous. I felt very calm and thought it had nothing to do with me. It was their destiny. So when I worked for them, I had no thoughts in my mind. I just did what I should do, was a good person, and improved according to the requirements of Dafa. Everyone around me could see the beauty of Dafa through my words and deeds.

This experience of cultivating away jealousy left a deep impression on me. It has allowed me to witness the mighty virtue of Dafa and the painstaking arrangements that Master has made for the improvement of his disciples. I feel deeply grateful to Master! I am determined to live up to Master’s kindness, cultivate myself well, complete my mission, and return home with Master!