Cultivating My Heart When Being Scolded at Home

(Minghui.org) I’m a housewife living in a village. After initially leaving my cultivation practice, I returned to Falun Dafa in 2012 with the help of local practitioners. Below, I’d like to share my cultivation experience at home.

My Son Helped Me Improve

I was a smart child and dexterous with my hands. After I got married, I took good care of the young and the old, and in their eyes, I was a good wife and mother. 

After learning Falun Dafa, I was even stricter with myself.

I was cooking while doing laundry one day. My son came home and criticized me, “You’re not as capable as my classmate’s mother! You’re not good at anything!”

I had mixed feelings and wanted to blow up, but I restrained myself. So I said to my son with a smile, “I’m indeed no good. If you like someone else’s mother, go ahead and call her ‘mom.’ I won’t get upset.”

I added, “No matter how good others’ mothers are, they won’t take care of you. I still have to care of you, don’t I?”

My son replied, “I was trying to irritate you intentionally! I’m your son, and I know no matter how much I annoy you, you won’t really get mad a me. But if Xiao Cheng [my daughter-in-law] annoyed you, you would react differently.”

I said, “If Xiao Cheng annoys me, I have less of a reason to be upset.”

I realized then that Master, the founder of Falun Dafa, was using my son’s mouth to test me and help me improve.

My Husband Cursed Me Repeatedly

One day, I was making pancakes in the kitchen. My husband yelled from outside, “For goodness’ sake! If you make those awful dumplings again, I’m going to throw them away!”

I didn’t put enough meat in the dumplings two days earlier, so he wasn’t happy about it. I thought he was being nit-picky and I wanted to cry, but I held back my tears.

I ran into him on my way home from the market another day. He said, “Give me a few hundred yuan.” 

I said, “I only have about 100 yuan on me. Didn’t I give you 300 yuan two days ago?” 

He got angry and scolded me, “Get out of my way! Get lost!” I’ve always given him more whenever he asked for money. I thought “I’ve spoiled you too much.”

The more I thought about it, the more disgusted I felt. Why was he always treating me like that? 

Was Master using his mouth to help me improve? I decided to do better next time.

A few days later, a friend asked me to go to the city to shop with her. My husband was watching television. 

I was on my way out, and he turned around and said maliciously, “Damn you! Get out of here! And let the car kill you!”

I immediately thought of Master’s words,

“What we teach, by contrast, is that you can change a tough situation just by compromising a little.” (The Ninth Talk, Zhuan Falun)

I said to him with a smile, “Master has the final say on whether I should live or die. He eliminated my karma, so any car that gets close would avoid me. And I shall return home in one piece.”

Perhaps because I was able to forbear, I must have met the requirement of the Fa at a certain level. He hasn’t spoken to me with a malicious tone of voice since then.

Tears are covering my face as I’m writing this article. Thank you, Master, for your guidance and compassion!