(Minghui.org) Although I have been diligently studying the Fa, I still found it difficult to look inward when problems occurred or to admit my mistakes.

It wasn't until the police harassed us at home, because I practice Falun Dafa, that I began to look inward. As a result, I was able to resolve conflicts easily and to cultivate with a smile on my face.

I realized that everything that happened to me was good for my cultivation.

Learning to Apologize

My Mother

I spoke with my mother at length one time about something that she'd done, but she wouldn't admit to it and got angry because I kept going on about it. 

That night, I looked inward and thought, “What was the point of arguing? I must have done something wrong too.” I was not being compassionate and was showing off because I was forcing my opinion on her, believing that I was helping her to find her shortcomings. Instead of putting myself in her shoes and talking to her in a calm manner, I criticized her.

I sent forth righteous thoughts to eliminate my attachments, and apologized to my mother the next day. I said, “I'm sorry. I was wrong. I didn't consider your feelings. I only cared about myself, and was being selfish.”

My Husband

My husband spilled some milk on the bed and expected me to clean it up. I was in the middle of studying the Fa and didn't want to help him. He got angry and chastised me. I knew right away that I was at fault.

The guilty feeling stopped me from continuing with my Fa study. I put the book Zhuan Falun down, and started sending forth righteous thoughts. My husband said: “I don’t want to spend another day with you! I will divorce you tomorrow.”

I apologized to him the next day, and he also admitted that he was at fault.

From these experiences I learned that I should hold myself in accordance with the Fa, and look inward first when facing conflicts.

These are the ways to negate the existence of the old forces. It took me a long time to come to this understanding. What was missing were my righteous thoughts.

Phones Blocked

I called a police officer in the city police department to tell her about Falun Dafa. After a long conversation she still refused to accept what I was telling her, and threatened to block my phone.

I became agitated and said, “You can't do that! This number is used to tell people the facts about Falun Dafa and the persecution. I have done nothing wrong.”

My cell phones and all my phone cards were blocked the next day, and many fellow practitioners' phone cards were blocked the following day.

I was very sad because other practitioners had been affected because of me. Looking for the root of my problem, I realized that I was forcing my words on others, and not clarifying the facts to them in the manner that practitioners should do.

Master said:

“Clarify the facts,send righteous thoughts”(“Be Clearheaded”, Hong Yin Vol. II, Version A)

I must remember to send forth righteous thoughts when I talk to people about Falun Dafa, as I need to eliminate the old forces' interference that will try to stop them from accepting my words.

I could not let my mistakes affect other practitioners and begged Master to unblock our phones and cards, as we need them to help Master save people.

They were all unblocked a few days later.