The Power of Dafa: Resolving Resentment
(Minghui.org) It has been 20 years since I began to practice Falun Dafa. Remembering scenarios of what I have experienced makes me emotional.
I am an ordinary rural woman. Like all those Falun Dafa practitioners in China, my family, and I have witnessed the power of Dafa. We witnessed the cruelty of the Chinese Communist Party's (CCP) persecution. Dafa has changed me from a selfish person to a broad-minded person, who can put others' interests first. More specifically, it is Dafa that saved my family from a broken family to a harmonious one.
Treating Husband With Kindness
I began practicing Falun Dafa in 1996. Before I joined the practice, I suffered from many illnesses, ranging from having a rash to tracheitis. Even after I got married and had kids, I was still very sick. This was all changed after I began to practice Falun Dafa, and I no longer needed any medicine. My mother-in-law was very happy to see that.
My husband was a taxi driver. It was good that my health had improved, so I was able to take care of our three children.
The Chinese regime launched a vicious campaign against Falun Dafa in 1999, and ever since the persecution started, my family started having tribulations. My husband was a soldier before, so he knew how the CCP treated its citizens.
Therefore, when the persecution of Falun Dafa began, my husband was very scared. What if something happened to me? What to do with the family and our kids? My elder daughter was just past 10 years old, and our youngest son was only a toddler. My husband tried to force me to stop practicing cultivation by often beating me, and by threatening to divorce me.
I didn't work at that time, so I had no money and no house. Our kids were still young. How could I live if I got a divorce? The persecution of Falun Dafa was serious and the tremendous pressure from my husband and relatives felt as if I was being tortured.
However, I knew very clearly that Dafa is the most righteous Fa. I returned to good health, and it did not cost us one single penny. In addition, I was taught how to be a good person. I knew I would never give up the practice. My persistence made my husband stop asking me for a divorce.
The family violence lasted for a few years. No matter how angry my husband was, I always remembered these words of Teacher's: “...never retaliating or responding to malice in kind.” (The Ninth Talk, Zhuan Falun) I was kind to my husband and tried to understand him from his perspective. I saw that he was tired after a whole day of driving, and he often had a good meal waiting for him.
Once my husband had an accident at work and both of his palms got scorched. He couldn't take care of himself. So I had to do the tasks. Every day I fed him, washed him, and even helped him in the bathroom. This lasted for over a month. He was touched by my kindness, and felt the compassion that I developed from practicing Dafa.
I tried my best to follow the Dafa principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. Through my actions, my husband gradually understood that Falun Dafa is righteous. He became supportive. He showed respect for Dafa by helping out with house chores and even reminded me to study the Fa and do the exercises. Sometimes he went out with me to distribute truth clarification materials – he would be on the lookout for the police while I gave out materials.
Treating My Mother-in-Law Kindly
My mother-in-law is 89 years old. She has been living with my family for nine years now. Her two daughters only visit her during the three major festivals. They stayed for a while, and then took off. They didn't take care of her at all.
She had an elder son who never came to see her during those nine years when she stayed with us. Even if he drove by our house and saw his mother sitting at the front door, he wouldn't stop to say hello.
Some years ago, we discussed with this elder brother to take turns taking care of my mother-in-law. Everyone agreed that she would live with each of us for one year. When my mother-in-law turned 80, after living with us for a year, the elder brother never came to pick her up. His family felt that turning older would make it harder to take care of her. Years ago, when the children of the elder brother were still young, my mother-in-law lived in our house for only half a year and the elder brother already showed up at the door and wanted to take her to his house, because she could take care of the young children.
One of my mother-in-law's daughters was mad at her brother because of his behavior. She said to me, “If he didn't want mom, just bring her to his door and leave her for him!” I couldn't do that. Although the elder brother didn't do the right thing, and although my mother-in-law tried to have my husband divorce me when the CCP launched its persecution, as a Dafa practitioner, I felt that I ought to take on the responsibility and take care of her.
In the beginning, my mother-in-law was still able to do half of the job when she needed to go to the bathroom. I usually put a pail underneath a commode for her whenever she needed to go. Then, every day, I would clean it up.
Yet my care wasn't appreciated. She often said some unpleasant words which I found irritating. I would then fight with my husband. But after I calmed down, I knew that I didn't do well, and that I needed to be more compassionate. I tried to do better unconditionally, not expecting anything in return.
Her health was deteriorating for the last two years and she couldn't take care of herself. She no longer left her room. Therefore, some careless mistakes would make her filthy. Once I accompanied my daughter-in-law to the hospital for a prenatal exam, my husband rushed me home. When I got home, he said to go to his mother quickly because there were feces everywhere. Indeed, her whole body was covered with filth, and so was her bed and the floor. I cleaned things up twice then got her to put on a diaper.
Another time my mother-in-law was seriously ill. I tried to get her up to feed her medicine. But the moment I uncovered her, a pile of dark feces were there. I cleaned her up patiently.
Because she couldn't take care of herself, I often had to wash her clothes four to five times a day. Her main consciousness was not clear and so she often spilled water on the floor. As a result, there were lots of wiping tissues around. I kept sweeping, but it seemed the room was always messy. My husband had a bad temper, so he would get angry. I often told him that it was okay because one day when we turned older we would need someone to take care of us too. The reminder helped to stop the complaints and he tried to take care of her with more patience.
I didn't bother visiting the elder brother all these years. I just shouldered the responsibility of taking care of my mother-in-law all by myself. What I've done was witnessed by my neighbors and everyone was touched. "Nobody in our town is like you," commented people.
Everyone saw the compassion shown by Falun Dafa practitioners. Therefore, they support Dafa and when I clarified the truth people were receptive.
Tribulations Were Returned with Blessings
My three children have their own families now. They have a steady job and a happy family. In my view, this is Dafa's blessings, because they are supportive and have gone through tribulations all these years, as well as witnessed Dafa's mighty virtue.
When they were young, whenever I went out to distribute truth-clarification materials, they went along. The persecution of the Chinese regime made their childhood full of suffering, and to bear what they should not have to bear.
In the early years of the persecution, CCP's lies and propaganda made people look at Falun Dafa practitioners differently. My cultivation put my children under tremendous pressure. The frequent visits of people from police stations and government offices scared them, and they always worried when I would be taken away again.
Regardless of how bad the situation was, however, my children always believed that Falun Dafa is good. This is especially true with my daughter; each time when I got beaten by my husband, she came over to protect me. As a result, sometimes she got beaten too. When I went to Tiananmen Square to validate Dafa, it was she who took me to the train station. Later, I found out that after taking me to the train station, she didn't dare to go home to avoid him hitting her. She would stand underneath a shady tree in the hot summer, with no food nor drink, and at the same time, worrying about me.
Incidents like that have long passed, but whenever we mentioned these stories, my eldest daughter would cry. I said to her, “It's great that we can be together to fight for justice, and stand up for Dafa in this lifetime. We are blessed! Compared with the children who become orphans because their parents were persecuted to death, you're actually very fortunate. Be strong!” My daughter replied, “It's the Jiang Zemin's (former CCP leader) evil Party that makes us live in terror.”
When the time of bringing Jiang to justice came, my eldest daughter used her real name to file a criminal complaint against Jiang Zemin. So did my other daughter and son. My mother-in-law also put her fingerprint on the prosecution form. Many relatives have also quit the Party.
My children have a happy life. They all have a steady job and enjoy a good income. Their children are healthy. There is nothing in the family that I need to worry about anymore. My life is simple and happy. This is the blessing that Dafa gives to my family.
After the severe storms I can finally see the rainbow. Just like hundreds and thousands of Falun Dafa practitioners in China, my family and I have chosen to live by the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
History will once again prove that evil can never overcome justice! More and more kind people from over a hundred countries have now embraced Falun Dafa, and have gotten to know the true face of the Chinese communist regime.