Instead of Worrying about Others, We Should Look Within
(Minghui.org) I know a Dafa disciple who has close friends or family members who also practice Falun Dafa. When he sees their attachments he says, “I can see that you haven't gotten rid of your attachments. I'm worried and anxious about you!”
Since these words carry qing (sentiment), they're not pure or upright. Thus, they'll have little or no effect on the other person's behavior.
As a practitioner, we should know that anything that happens around us is directly related to our own heart nature. We need to ask ourselves, "Why did we see a particular shortcoming in the other party? Could it be that we, too, have a similar issue?"
At the very least we should think: “Why wasn't my righteous field able to restrain the other person's incorrect words or actions?”
If we're overly concerned about someone else's attachment, we'll tend to focus on it, thereby creating obstacles for both ourselves and the other person.
Our true cultivation state will reveal itself, especially around close friends and family members.
Sometimes the other person will get defensive when we point out their attachments. However, we should still focus on improving ourselves and not resent them.
If a practitioner is truly responsible to himself, he will use every opportunity to raise his xinxing!