Learning to Forbear by Becoming Considerate
(Minghui.org) I am in my 40s and started to practice Falun Dafa in my 20s. Ifollow the Dafa principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
I Needed to Change
I was born into a family who fought constantly with each other. When I was eight months old, my mother took me to my grandparents. My grandmother scolded my grandfather every day. I returned to my mother when I was old enough to go to school. My parents quarreled every day.
After I got married, I fought with my husband frequently, as he had affairs. I was unable to forbear or be wronged, so we were divorced. However, I kept my son..
My son did not behave well or listen to me during the first several years. I complained about the child inheriting his father's bad qualities. He became worse. I became nervous when I heard his footsteps and could barely face him. I said to Master Li (Falun Dafa's founder) in my heart that I must fundamentally change myself, so I'm able to deal with this issue as a practitioner.
When I became so angry with him one day, I threw a load of clothes on the floor. I realized that I could no longer lose my temper with him. I calmed down the next day.
I was a new practitioner who started reading Master's books and listened to His lectures. I started with Falun Gong, the Falun Dafa introductory book.
“Ren is a powerful thing, and it surpasses Zhen and Shan. Throughout the entire cultivation process you are asked to exercise self-restraint, to mind your character, and to not take rash actions.” (Falun Gong)
I memorized this sentence and cried, as I realized that I cultivated so poorly. Gradually, I learned how to forbear, and that my heart should not be moved. I should look at things from another person's perspective.
I decided to no longer say anything when my son made mistakes. My son told me that he did not think that I could succeed.
There was a local coordinator who said that I was annoying in front of a dozen practitioners. My heart was moved a bit but I calmed down. After the sharing was finished and the coordinator was the only person who remained, I asked why she had said that. She laughed and said not to worry about it. I thanked her in my heart for providing me with an opportunity to improve my xinxing.
One young practitioner told me that she had let go of human sentimentality which helped her to be more compassionate.
I was in a more compassionate state earlier this year. I felt like I was a furnace of molten steel that could melt anything because my heart would not be moved by anything.
I no longer pay attention to practitioners' shortcomings. When I saw their shortcomings, I had to look within to see if I had the same problem. My heart was unmoved when my family members or other practitioners gave me problems, I just let it go.
I realized that the fundamental difference between a being from the old cosmos and a being from the new cosmos was that whether he or she lives for oneself or for others.
Master Arranges Everything
Practitioner Lian and I had to go to another city. On the way to the train station, I sent righteous thoughts and asked Master to help us when we were buying the train tickets. We were told by the salesperson that only one ticket was left in the sleeping berth and the other seats were sold out. I offered Lian the sleeping berth while I bought a ticket for the standing room. After I boarded the train, I found an empty seat. Nobody came to claim the seat so I sat there until we arrived at our destination.
I tried calling the practitioner we were visiting, but was unable to reach her. When we arrived at her home, I asked Lian to wait downstairs while I went to check her home, and told her to leave if I did not get her within half an hour. The practitioner was fine but did not know about her phone not working. I went and got Lian and everything worked out.
My mother was in the labor camp. My father and son were at home. I did not worry much about myself but I had to consider Lian. Through studying and memorizing the Fa, I realized that my thought was not in the Fa and I did not negate the old forces.
Facing Difficulties Calmly
I started working at a practitioner's home. My main job was to cook lunch and look after a 78-year-old man. I changed his sleeping habits the first day on the job. When his daughters and their family came to visit him a week later, they saw he was in good spirits. I explained that my purpose of working there was to validate that Dafa is extraordinary.
The elderly gentleman would grab hold of something while walking. A week after I took care of him, he was able to walk faster. He recited “Falun Dafa is good and Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” and read the Fa.
His wife used to read the Fa to him. Now, he reads it by himself. He stopped practicing after the publication of the Nine Commentaries on the Communist Party. He thought we were getting political. He must have finally recognized the preciousness of Dafa.
I thank Master and Falun Dafa in my heart. It is the power of Dafa when things happen smoothly.