My Husband Changed for the Better
(Minghui.org) My family, like many others who practice Falun Dafa, has gone through much suffering in the past decade because of the Chinese Communist Party's (CCP's) persecution of Falun Dafa. Our family was saved by its founder Master Li’s boundless compassion and salvation.
My Husband Almost Had A Breakdown
I was detained in a brainwashing class by the CCP agents in 2001. My husband was aware that he could not convince me to give up Dafa cultivation. He himself did not believe in Dafa and became depressed. Our relationship became difficult. When I studied the Fa, he would grab my book from my hands and tear it up. When I did the exercises, he would often hit me.
My husband would tell me that one day he will leave and never come back. He threatened me with divorce. My mother-in-law and son passed away in 2003 and 2004 respectively. It caused my husband much anguish. I thought he might have a breakdown.
I knew his unstable mental state was due to the persecution of Falun Dafa and karma from past lives. I am a practitioner and protected by Master. Dafa will reconcile all resentments. However when faced with his harsh treatment of me the feeling of unfairness and resentment appeared in my heart. I began to think about leaving him and ending our marriage.
“Why do you run into these problems? It’s all caused by your own karmic debts. We’ve already decreased it by countless portions for you, and there’s only a little bit left, which is distributed across different levels so that you can improve your character. The tribulations are set up to temper your mind and get rid of your different attachments. They’re your own tribulations, and we use them to improve your character. You should be able to overcome all of them. As long as you improve your character, you will be able to overcome them—it’s only that you might not want to overcome them. If you want to overcome them you can.” (The Fourth Talk in Zhuan Falun)
My husband created tribulations and provided a cultivation environment for me. Was that not for me to improve my xinxing? I should not be angry, but should thank him! During the time of Dafa’s spreading around the world, we came together to be a couple due to our predestined relationship. What a great relationship it is! I have obtained Dafa; he is deceived by the lies. I have the responsibility to awaken him.
I followed the principles of Dafa. I did the housework and treated him with kindness. I played audio clips of traditional culture and cultivation stories from the Minghui website. Gradually, he understood the truth about Dafa and quit the CCP.
Our second son was born in 2005. Our home environment was improving. My husband seemed to be changing for the better. He knew Dafa was good and supported my practice. His resentment appeared at times and he would get angry for no apparent reason. Sometimes he would start a big fight over something trivial.
While cleaning up one day I found a poster. The content of the poster was not good and should not be in our home. I asked my husband about it. He said maybe it was left by the previous owner of the house and he would not let me throw it away. I asked him to look into it so I could get it out of the house.
He said: “It's none of your business.” He grabbed a bamboo board about one inch wide and one foot long, and repeatedly hit me with it. I called out: “Master! Please help me!” My husband stopped hitting me.
Master said: “...as a practitioner, you shouldn’t hit back when attacked, or talk back when insulted—you should hold yourself to a high standard.” (The Fourth Talk in Zhuan Falun) Even though my foot was swollen, and my head was bleeding, I didn't hit back. I told him it was not good for him and he was losing virtue. I felt my head, and it was bleeding.
I remained calm and asked my husband to help me stop the bleeding. He asked me to go to the hospital. I said: “I am not going to the hospital, I am a practitioner I have Master.” I asked him to cover the cut with gauze. “I will be okay in a few days.”
Because of this incident, I felt my forbearance increasing. I should treat others kindly, including those who have hurt you.
Understanding the Truth Leads to a Happy Family
My husband had chronic gastritis in 2010. He took some Chinese and Western medicine, which was of no help. My son also became seriously ill. I stayed with our young son in the hospital. My husband rented a room near the hospital and prepared meals for us. He worried about our son's health and at the same time suffered with his own pain.
He remembered Dafa and Master, and repeated: “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” When he had time, he listened to the audio Fa teachings and learned the exercises. He didn't feel stomach pain and could eat cold food. He experienced Dafa's miracle.
Master's boundless compassion dissolved our resentment. My husband no longer has a hot temper. He does housework and supports my practice. He allows our son to study the Fa and does the exercises with him. It is obvious now that when he does get upset he strives to control himself.
One practitioner was harassed where she works. Her husband was afraid and did not want her to continue practicing. He approached my husband and wanted him to band together with him to stop both of their wives from practicing. My husband would not go along with his plan. My husband follows the principles of Dafa. He is well respected at work by his coworkers and management alike.
The persecution of Falun Dafa by the former communist leader Jiang Zemin has incurred huge mental pressure on my family, and created tribulations for us. Master's boundless power untied the knots in our hearts and dissolved one tribulation after another and saved our family when it seemed hopeless.
It is the greatest glory in my life to be able to obtain Dafa. I have no regrets and I thank Master for saving us!