Conquering Loneliness and Getting Rid of Lust
(Minghui.org) There have been many articles by practitioners about getting rid of the attachment of lust. I would like to share my understanding from a different perspective. From my experience, if you devoted yourself fully to Fa-rectification cultivation and the three things Master requires of us, your days would be fully packed. You would have no free time to think about lust. Even if it did come to your mind sometimes, you would be able to eliminate it easily with your powerful righteous thoughts.
My wife went back to her parents' home for six months and I stayed home alone. During this period, I did not have many household chores to do after work. I used all my spare time for Fa-rectification projects and cultivation. After Fa study, doing the exercises, sending forth righteous thoughts and reading the Minghui website, I did truth-clarification work on the internet and also did technical support work for other Dafa projects.
Reading truth-clarification emails and finding technical support solutions made me feel happy and satisfied. Every day was fruitful and fulfilling. Before this, I had been unable to completely get rid of the attachment of lust. However, during this time, I naturally just didn't think about it. I didn't feel lonely, either.
From this experience, I conquered loneliness and got rid of my attachment to lust. A couple of years passed by, and I always felt that there was not enough time to do the three things. Even though I had little contact or sharing with other practitioners, I never felt lonely.
“Why do you feel lonely? If you go do things to save sentient beings and things that a Dafa disciple is supposed to do, you definitely won't feel that way. If you were studying the Fa and diligently cultivating, could you feel that way? Only when you are not diligent will you have the leisure to mull over those ordinary human feelings, right?”(“Teaching the Fa at the 2004 International Fa Conference in New York”)
I would like to make a suggestion to practitioners who struggle with the attachment of lust: please check whether you still have time to read ordinary people's articles, watch everyday people's movies or television, or browse the internet. If you still have other entertainment pastimes, or if you still felt empty or lonely, you can join one or more truth-clarification projects. Especially outside of China, there are many internet projects or phone call projects that you can do from home. They will fill up your spare time.
Time flies. The time that Master has prolonged for us by enduring huge hardships is very precious. “This instant is precious beyond measure.” (“Teaching the Fa in the City of Chicago” from Teaching the Fa at the Conference VII)
After you ensure your personal cultivation and balance your work and family life, working on truth-clarification projects will fill up any spare time. Let's get ourselves busy so that many attachments, including the attachment of lust, will gradually weaken. Master said,
“If you go do things to save sentient beings and things that a Dafa disciple is supposed to do, you definitely won't feel that way.” (“Teaching the Fa at the 2004 International Fa Conference in New York”)
This is my personal understanding. Please point out anything inappropriate.