China Fahui | My Wife Finally Understood the Truth
(Minghui.org) The Chinese Communist Party (CCP) authorities illegally sentenced me to eight years in prison. After that, they held me in a forced labor camp for nearly two years, all because I practice Falun Gong. I was released on November 21, 2011.
My wife did not let me come home and threatened to divorce me. She screamed at the top of her lungs and blamed me for the death of my mother and both of her parents while I was in prison. All of our neighbors witnessed this. I stood there, quietly listening to her scolding.
Even though I felt like crying, I told myself that I was a practitioner and I must endure.
Master Li Hongzhi, the founder of Falun Gong, told us:
“As a practitioner, the first thing you should be able to do is to not fight back when you are beaten or sworn at—you must be tolerant. Otherwise, what kind of practitioner will you be?” (Zhuan Falun)
I would have argued with her if most of my competitiveness had not already been removed during my years of suffering. Before I went home, I told myself that I had to endure because she had suffered a lot because of me. But this was more easily said than done!
I had clarified the facts about Falun Gong in the prison and forced labor camp, so I knew I could also do this at home. I felt that I needed to save her first. So I sent out righteous thoughts to eliminate the evil controlling her and asked for Master Li’s help.
My wife seemed tired after I sent righteous thoughts. The neighbors convinced her to calm down and accept me. I was finally able to go inside the house.
The next day, she tried to force me to sign two divorce agreements and go to the courthouse.
I said, “Divorce is a bad thing. It is okay for you to do it, but I am a Dafa disciple, so I can’t do what is wrong because you misunderstand Falun Gong.
“You are nearly 50 years old with all kinds of ailments. Who would take care of you if you got seriously ill? Our son hasn’t graduated yet. How much would he suffer if we divorced? Have you asked his opinion? If I go along with you on this, what kind of future awaits you, our son, our relatives, and our friends? I won’t agree to a divorce and hope you, and I hope that you give up that idea, too.”
She calmed down and asked, “You said a divorce would impact my future. I don’t understand. Speak plainly.”
I told her that nearly everyone in town knew that I practiced Falun Gong. That meant Falun Gong’s reputation would be tarnished if I divorced her. Many people would further misunderstand Falun Gong, since they already believed the CCP's deceitful propaganda.
“Falun Gong is a righteous path, it teaches people to believe in the existence of deities, and it helps correct immoral trends in society,” I explained. “Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is the nature of the cosmos and countless enlightened beings are protecting it.
“You are going against Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance by wanting a divorce. How could the enlightened beings safeguarding the Fa let you get away with it? Would you still have a good future?” I asked.
I told her that everyone in this universe is associated with Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. “All matter, including human beings, were created by the Fa. Anyone can discover the existence of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance in their own life.
“For example, you would get so angry every time our son lied and deceived you. You really hoped he would be honest and tell you the truth. You also worried about his violent mental state and truly wished he could forbear any conflicts and be compassionate. All these examples are the manifestation of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance in you.
“On the contrary, one would not be able to live in this universe if one loses these basic qualities. Many man-made and natural disasters in China resulted in countless lives being lost. These people refused to listen to the truth about Falun Gong and went against Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. Weren’t they harming themselves, their children, and relatives? So I hope you won’t divorce me and that you won’t despise Falun Gong.”
My wife responded that she could not completely understand what I said, but she would let me suffer if I wanted to continue living with her.
Treating Her with Dafa’s Principles
I was not afraid when she said she was going to make me suffer. My goal was to help save her. I thought I needed to really care about her to close the gap between us.
I bought food she liked, but she said, “You never used to buy anything I liked since we’ve been married. Now you are doing this to flatter me. I won’t fall into your trap. Every day you need to clean the floor, wash clothes, and do the dishes.”
I did all the household chores and tried my best to do them well. But she was still mad and kept insulting me.
Sometimes her bad attitude irritated me. I never treated her this well before I practiced Falun Gong. Now, the more I treated her nicely, the worse she insulted me; thinking about it would make me upset.
However, I realized that was not a correct state for a practitioner. Thinking like that was treating myself as an everyday person. I needed to look within! Wasn’t this hatred, competitiveness, and showing off? Didn’t she offer a good opportunity for me to improve my xinxing and remove my human notions? I needed to thank her from the bottom of my heart.
Master told us:
“In this universe, there is another principle: If you have suffered a lot, the karma in your body will be transformed. Because you have suffered, however much you have endured will all be transformed into an equal amount of de. Isn’t this de what a practitioner wants? You will gain in two ways, as your karma is also eliminated. If the person did not create this situation for you, how could you upgrade your xinxing? If both you and I are nice to each other and sit there in harmony, how can it be possible to increase gong? It is precisely because that person has created this conflict for you that there is this opportunity to improve xinxing, and you can make use of it to upgrade your own xinxing. Isn’t your xinxing raised this way? You have gained in three ways. You are a practitioner. With xinxing upgraded, won’t your gong also increase? You have gained four ways in one shot. Why shouldn’t you thank that person? You should sincerely thank him from the bottom of your heart—it is actually so.” (Zhuan Falun)
Later, when she created conflicts for me, I would think about the Fa to endure and restrain myself.
One morning, she asked me to help her clean the streets in our neighborhood. I was reluctant, worried that people would laugh at me. I used to be respected at work and in town. But I also recognized that my attachment to saving face had arisen and that Master Li was giving me this opportunity to remove it.
She asked, “Are you going or not?” I answered, “Yes, I will.”
I pushed a small cart to help clean the streets with her. Many friends saw us, but no one laughed at me.
They commented instead, “That Falun Gong practitioner is so good, he is helping his wife clean.”
Some women asked their husbands to come see and said, “Look, that Falun Gong practitioner is such a good person, taking care of his wife like that! Can’t you be more like him?”
I felt great hearing that. I knew Master saw that I had passed this tribulation and used an everyday person’s comments to encourage me.
I get tears in my eyes whenever I recall that day. My wife changed a lot after that day. She started treating me a little better and did not abuse me as much. She liked to talk with me about anything except the facts about Falun Gong.
My Wife Finally Accepts the Truth
I realized that my wife could not change her misunderstandings about Falun Gong because I did not have enough compassion.
I thus spent more time studying the Fa and sending righteous thoughts on a daily basis. I watched many fact clarifying DVDs to learn more about Falun Gong. I also repeatedly played the Nine Commentaries on the Communist Party DVD.
While I was watching Dafa materials on an MP4 player one evening, she suddenly got out of bed and grabbed my MP4. I was stunned and worried she would smash it.
She said, “Is it good? Let me see.”
Pleased, I told her, “It’s good if you watch this—it might help your vertigo and overall health. The programs tell about many miracles.”
She watched for a while and did not say anything bad. I recommended that she watch it through a TV stream since the MP4 was so small. She agreed and watched for nearly two hours.
She had a strong desire to be healthy due to long years of suffering from her various ailments. The touching stories on the DVD gave her hope.
She solemnly said, “Are these miracles real? Will people really burn themselves after they practice Falun Gong?”
I said, “You know me pretty well. I have not caught a cold or fever for 12 years, and I have not needed to take one pill or have one injection for 12 years. You will be healthy if you sincerely repeat, ‘Falun Dafa is good; Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’”
"The Tiananmen self-immolation hoax was staged to incite hatred of Falun Gong. I have the DVD that explains the truth about it. Please take a look.” I played it for her and meanwhile sent out righteous thoughts to get rid of any interference.
She watched it attentively and exclaimed, “Falun Gong is innocent and so are you!”
She agreed to quit the Young Pioneers and asked me to help her recant all she had said in the past to insult Master and the Fa. She has been repeating the two Dafa phrases since that day and helped me clarify the truth to our relatives and friends.
About 90% of our relatives learned the truth about Falun Gong and have withdrawn from the CCP and its affiliated organizations.
My son also agreed to quit the Young Pioneers and the Youth League. He no longer resents Falun Gong and sincerely repeats, “Truthfulness-Compassion-Forebearance is good” daily.
He recently sent me a message through WeChat: “Dad, I avoided a car accident. I know Master Li protected me.”
On behalf of all my family members, I thank Master and bow to Him!