The Story of Xiaolin and Me

(Minghui.org) Xiaolin was my son’s girlfriend. She had been pregnant for more than two months before my son told me about it. My son worked in another city. He said he was not ready and didn’t want the baby. I remembered a question and answer in one of Master’s Fa teachings that addressed this issue:

“Student: Then is abortion also considered killing?

Master: That’s right. An abortion during pregnancy is killing. It doesn’t matter how human morality has become, or whether humankind or its laws permit it—laws can’t represent Gods—if you’ve killed, you’ve killed. You might argue that according to the law you didn’t kill—that’s what humans say. We’ve found that in the space surrounding maternity hospitals there are many babies with nowhere to go—they’re missing body parts, or they do have complete bodies, but they’re all young, small lives of babies. Originally, these lives had reincarnated, and they might have had their own futures and might have lived for a number of years and then entered another cycle of reincarnation. But you go and kill one of these lives before he’s even born. Then he has to struggle painfully through these long years—that little being all by himself, it’s so sad! He has to wait until all of his years on earth allotted by heaven are over, and only then can he enter the next cycle of reincarnation. So you suddenly thrust him into such a painful situation—can you say that’s not killing? What’s more, the karma from doing this is quite large.” (“Fa Teaching Given at a Meeting in New York”)

I’m a Falun Dafa practitioner and should listen to Master. I talked to my son and asked him to be kind and save the child. He reluctantly agreed and brought Xiaolin to me. He obtained a marriage certificate seven months later. I planned to hold a wedding reception after the baby was born, but my son left home again to go to work again.

Xiaolin had grown up with her adoptive parents. I was told that she was her biological mother’s first child, but due to the government’s one-child policy at the time, her mother gave Xiaolin to a family in the neighboring village as a child bride so she could try again for a son.

Xiaolin’s adoptive parents were in poor health and passed away in their 40s, when Xiaolin was only 11 years old and had not gotten much education. Their son was only 14. The plans for a prearranged marriage were aborted.

Xiaolin and my son seemed to be predestined to meet, but their marriage was not a good match from an ordinary person’s perspective. My son is our only child. I’m a teacher, and his father works for the government. My husband was extremely unhappy about the marriage, but he was helpless since things had already gone too far. I was also unhappy at first, but, as a cultivator, I tried to be a good person by following Dafa’s principles, so I let the marriage take its course, hoping they could live in harmony.

After my son brought Xiaolin to me, he had nothing to do with her or his newborn son. Everything was left to me, and I developed much resentment toward my son. I resented him for interfering with my cultivation, wasting my time, and disrupting my peaceful life. Many of these resentments were gradually removed by studying the Fa.

Xiaolin lived with us for seven years. There were good times and bad, and I was exhausted physically and mentally. Below is the story of how Xiaolin, even though she was not a practitioner, was blessed because she believed in the goodness of Dafa.

The Birth of My Grandson

Xiaolin had a caesarean section. My grandson’s face was covered with vernix caseosa (a waxy coating on a newborn’s skin) when he was born. He was premature, his cries were very weak, and he had jaundice. The doctors wanted to transfer him to a city hospital.

Xiaolin was so worried that she burst into tears. I comforted her and said, “Master is here. Sincerely recite ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,’ and everything will be okay.” She listened and believed in Master. She silently recited the words while lying in the hospital bed. Her incision healed faster than the woman on the next bed.

After she was discharged from the hospital, we recited “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good” to her baby every day. His jaundice subsided, and he became healthy. Newborns with the same symptoms who were sent to the city hospital needed treatments that cost over 30,000 yuan. I knew in my heart that Master protected us.

Missing 5000 Yuan Reappears

When Xiaolin came to live with us, she was penniless and didn’t have a decent article of clothing. I took her to the market to buy clothes, gave her money, and covered most all of my grandson’s expenses. My husband found a job for Xiaolin through his connections, and she eventually had some money of her own. She later got her driver’s license and paid her way through college.

Xiaolin often played on her cell phone until midnight. One morning, she told me that 5,000 yuan in her Alipay app account had been stolen, and she wanted to call the police. I said, “Don’t bother. With so many cases like that, who will care about 5,000 yuan?” Xiaolin lost sleep over the issue for several nights and felt helpless. I thought of what Master said:

“If something is yours, you will not lose it. If something is not yours, you will not have it even if you fight for it.” (Lecture seven, Zhuan Falun)

So I used Master’s Fa principles to guide her: “Sincerely recite ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’ If the money belongs to you, you can ask Master for help. If it doesn’t, then regard it as paying off a karmic debt. Just leave it to Master and let everything take its course!”

Two weeks later, the money miraculously reappeared in Xiaolin’s account.

Because of Dafa, Everything Turned Out for the Best

Seven years passed. My son ignored Xiaolin and never sent money home. He didn’t want to come home during holidays. Even when he did, he either stayed in a hotel or at a friend’s house. Because of his attitude, there was a period of time when Xiaolin didn’t want to meet or talk to anyone. She was very depressed. During a phone call with my son, she even threatened to kill us. Sometimes she said, “Life is so hard. I might as well take my son and jump off a tall building.”

I was afraid that Xiaolin’s depression would get worse and often used Master’s Fa to guide her. Sometimes, I read her passages from Zhuan Falun and gave her practitioners’ cultivation experiences to read. Although Xiaolin did not practice Dafa, she gradually calmed down after listening to the Fa principles.

I cried because I felt entangled and distressed over the marriage. I blamed myself for giving birth to such a heartless and ungrateful son.

After my grandson was born, I was busy with work, shopping, cooking, and taking care of him. I had little time for myself, and I could not concentrate when studying the Fa or sending forth righteous thoughts. I also could not do the exercises every day and had very little sleep. For seven years, my son ignored us. Xiaolin never helped to cook a meal, either. Sometimes, she would blame me for everything.

My husband had to attend many social events and often came home drunk in the middle of the night. I wondered how long I would have to endure all of this and often cried silently while looking at Master’s picture in Zhuan Falun. I always saw Master looking at me with a smile, which gave me a lot of comfort. Fortunately, since I practice Falun Dafa, I’ve been healthy and never got sick.

Influenced by Dafa’s principles, Xiaolin became much calmer. I often suggested that she find a good husband while she was still young. But I could see that, although she was very attached to her son, she would not be able to raise him. Moreover, my husband was determined to keep his grandson to carry on the family name, and he was unwilling to let Xiaolin take the boy away. Faced with this predicament, I handled the relationship as a cultivator should.

Xiaolin asked my son for 300,000 yuan to end the marriage. My son said he would go to court and let the court decide, because they’d been separated for many years.

My husband and I decided that, after all, it was my son’s fault, and we shouldn’t mistreat Xiaolin. We had to act according to our conscience. My husband and I sold an old house and gave Xiaolin 300,000 yuan. As a non-practitioner, my husband’s motivation was to keep his grandson, but I did it because I knew Xiaolin was all by herself and unable to take care of her son. So our grandson stayed with us.

When Xiaolin left, I told her, “You’re free to come to this house anytime. It’s like I have one more daughter. You are not in a position to take care of the child at the moment, so I will help you now. When the child grows up, he can make his own decision. The child will always be yours.”

Xiaolin has remarried. My son has become more sensible and comes home to see his son when possible. He also consults his father about things. My husband now helps take care of his grandson and does some housework. It’s Dafa that’s made all this possible!