Assimilate to Dafa in Every Aspect of Life

(Minghui.org) In society, the family environment is one of the places where we cultivate. Below are some of my cultivation experiences in my family life, and the process of how I am cultivating away human feelings and human thoughts, and assimilating to Dafa.

Studying the Fa Together

As a couple, it is such a good thing to take a little time every day to study the Fa together, but it has been difficult to stick to such a simple thing. He would suddenly get angry over a word or a little thing and stop studying the Fa with me. It was obvious that something bad was interfering.

I found an attachment of mine where I looked outward when problems arose, always using the Fa to correct others and make demands of others: You should do this, you should do that; this is not in accordance with the Fa. I did not use the Fa to evaluate myself.

I looked inward further and found a resentful mentality. When this issue happened, I blamed others. Why was he like this? Why was he so angry? I was not kind to him, and even less did I have compassion for him. He is a sentient being that Master wants to save, so how could I be angry with him? I should treat him well!

I also found the attachment of emotion. Why did I ask him to study the Fa? So he would improve in cultivation, stay free of disease, and to seek family happiness in the human world. Is this the fundamental purpose of cultivation? With a selfish heart, can one cultivate to selfless enlightenment? The old forces had an excuse to interfere.

I began to change my selfish ideas, and at the same time, I looked inward, looking at where I had problems, correcting them, and using the other party’s problems as a mirror to reflect on myself. In this way, our cultivation environment improved, and now we can sit together to study the Fa again.

An Attachment of Showing Off

One day, my husband suddenly got angry at me and said something that was hard for me to accept. The gist of it was that I took all the credit for the achievements of the family under my name, which made him very uncomfortable.

I felt very upset after hearing this. I read Zhuan Falun with tears in my eyes, and slowly my heart calmed down. A cultivator is altruistic. If he said that, there must be something that I did that did not conform to the Fa. Looking within, I discovered that showing off is a big attachment for me. I often talk about how well I did in the past. Although I don’t say it explicitly, others can hear it. Did I do everything in this family? Should all the credit be attributed to me? Did others do nothing?

I understand that I must let go of the attachment to showing off.

Letting Go of the Desire for Fame

For the past few months, I have felt very heavy inside and uncomfortable. The cause was my father’s assets.

I have taken care of my father’s finances for the past few years, since I was his oldest daughter. From the beginning, friends reminded me that I must keep a clear and open account to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts among my siblings. When my father was unable to manage his affairs, I notified my brothers and sisters to come to my house and showed them our father’s account, expenses, and the balance. During the process, I learned that my father had given away most of his money, but one affluent younger brother had received the least. This younger brother thus thought that our father had kept most of his money with him and expected to receive a good sum of money as his inheritance. However, our father didn’t have much money left in his bank account.

I talked to my father and asked for his permission to give this younger brother some money from his account. He agreed, but then regretted agreeing to it after I announced it to all the siblings. I talked to my husband and we decided to use our own money to give to the younger brother. The situation then changed again as our father decided to give the agreed-upon money to his younger son.

What I didn’t expect was that my siblings had talked about me behind my back, saying that I burned the old man’s account book, thus inferring that I had kept his money. The suspicion and gossip behind my back were extremely disturbing, and I was completely trapped in pain. My father was no longer able to manage his own affairs, and I couldn’t tell my husband because I was afraid it would cause a conflict, so I endured it alone.

A fellow practitioner mentioned one of Master’s teachings one day.

Master said,

“You may have cured someone’s illness, but he may not have appreciated it. When you were treating him, even though you removed so many bad things from him and healed him to a certain extent, there might not have been obvious changes at the time. Yet he was not satisfied and was not grateful to you at all. Instead, he may even have berated you or accused you of cheating him! Dealing with these problems allows one’s heart to be tempered in this environment.” (Lecture Three, Zhuan Falun)

I understood immediately. I desired a good reputation among my brothers and sisters, and I felt wronged when I didn’t get the recognition that I thought I deserved. I shouldn’t care about whether others treat me well or poorly; what’s important is to cultivate true compassion. I’m no longer upset, and I get along with my brothers and sisters again.

My Grandson Reminded Me to Recite “Falun Dafa Is Good”

My grandson came to my house during his summer break, so I signed him up for some tutoring. The money was spent, but the effect was not good because he spent a lot of time playing video games. I was worried and angry that my grandson could not study well, and I was deeply immersed in my love for him.

He played video games for a long time, one day, and forgot about his studies. I was very disappointed and cried. The child whispered to me, “Grandma, please recite ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’ Please be patient.” I was touched all of a sudden. I didn’t know what to say to him. I stopped crying.

Looking inward, I found the attachment of emotion. Why was I so upset? Because my grandson was disobedient. Then why didn’t I feel upset when other people’s children were disobedient? It’s because of my attachment to emotion. Do I have the final say on how much my grandchild learns and what he will become in the future? If I don’t, why am I so anxious? Besides, he is still a child. I should be patient and kind to him. So, what is the best way to treat children? Only by letting children understand the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance can we be the most correct and rational.

I realized that the environment in front of me was for my cultivation, and the child’s behavior was to help me improve my xinxing.

As long as the child is by my side, my husband and I insist on studying the Fa with him every day and correcting him bit by bit. Now that my grandson has returned to his parents, I believe that the phrases “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good” have taken root in his heart.

Concluding Remarks

The above are my own cultivation experiences. Through writing this article, I have a new understanding: when you feel very difficult and bitter in your heart during a conflict, you must jump out of it; it is the false self that is suffering. The true self is composed of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Tolerance, so how could it be bitter?

Everything is created for cultivation, so we should be grateful.