Treasuring My Predestined Relationship With My Daughter-In-Law

(Minghui.org) After I began practicing Falun Dafa, my body and mind were transformed. I truly witnessed the beauty of Dafa and experienced the happiness and joy of cultivation! I strive to uphold the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance. When facing conflicts, I look inward and consider others first. Regardless of the circumstances I only see other peoples’ good sides.

My Daughter-In-Law

My son’s girlfriend was quiet and reserved, but after they married, her behavior changed. After she gave birth to her daughter, she stopped calling me “Mom,” and eventually stopped speaking to me. When I accidentally knocked over a board next to my granddaughter’s bed, she yelled at me. I was surprised. She called her parents but I restrained myself and didn’t argue. It seemed she wanted me out of the house, which explained why she was angry.

My daughter-in-law attempted to sell my home twice. One night, she suddenly showed up at my home, stood at the door, and yelled at me. I didn’t argue. I thought that if she truly needed my home, I’d give it to her. After all, money is just a material possession. So I gave her my home, and she took all the money from the sale. I moved into her small house, but I didn’t resent her because I have Master and Dafa. I possess the most noble universal Dafa, a treasure for all mankind. After I began practicing Falun Dafa, my health improved. I no longer needed injections or medication. This is something that no amount of money can buy. I am truly the happiest person in the world.

Only Remembering Her Good Points

Because I practice Falun Dafa, and the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) is still persecuting us, my daughter-in-law, fearing she’d be implicated, tried to force me to go to the police station three times to cooperate with them when they harassed me. I told her, “My cultivation has nothing to do with you. I won’t go!” But as a Dafa practitioner, I must hold myself to Dafa’s standards. I must be tolerant and not resent my daughter-in-law. I continued to care for her and treat her kindly, as if she were my own daughter. I only remember her kindness. As for her negative behavior, I consider it my debt to her from a past life—I was repaying it in this life.

If I hadn’t practiced Falun Dafa, I wouldn’t have tolerated her behavior and I would have fought with her. I used to be intolerant and unyielding. When others criticized me, I would hold a grudge for the rest of my life, and never speak to them again.

Because I practice Falun Dafa I’ve become tolerant. I’ve constantly cultivate my xinxing through Falun Dafa and I no longer care about how she treats me. When practitioners demonstrate kindness, they are also promoting Dafa, allowing people to see the beauty of Dafa.

Treating My Daughter-In-Law as My Daughter

Last year, I asked my daughter-in-law to help me install my Internet connection. She replied, “I can’t do it tomorrow, but the day after tomorrow.” The following day, she came by, but I wasn’t home. The day after that, the helper showed up, but she wasn’t there.

That same day, my granddaughter asked for chicken wings, and I made them for her. When my daughter-in-law didn’t arrive to pick them up, I called and offered to bring them over. She said, “I don’t have time.” I told her that I’d bring them over the next day. Then she suddenly yelled, “I don’t have time, so you don’t have to come!”

I felt so bad I couldn’t help but cry. I thought to myself, “Why are you treating me like this?” I reminded myself that I’m a Dafa practitioner and must follow Master’s teachings and act in accordance with Dafa’s requirements. I realized that I needed to be more tolerant of my daughter-in-law. As soon as I had this thought, I stopped feeling wronged. I silently recited a line from Master’s poem, “Eating bitterness treated as joy.” (“Tempering One’s Heart and Will” in Hong Yin)

I smiled. Wasn’t this a good thing? My daughter-in-law was helping me eliminate my bad thoughts. I must be truly grateful to her!

Dafa cultivation is grounded in the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance. While I cannot change others, I can focus on changing myself and elevating my realm. I strive to be understanding—I remind myself that my daughter-in-law is an ordinary person, an only child, and someone with a strong personality. As a practitioner, I must approach tribulations with a positive attitude, maintain a peaceful mindset, avoid arguments, and respond with forgiveness and kindness. When conflicts arise, I should identify my own faults and focus on cultivating myself. Letting go of bad thoughts brings me genuine happiness.

I let go of my attachments, and soon after, my daughter-in-law came and picked up the chicken wings. I happily gave them to her and said, “Let me know if you want more.” I reminded myself that practitioners must practice tolerance and face everything with a cheerful attitude. I must always use Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance to strictly control my words and actions, and cultivate away my negative thoughts.

As the Chinese New Year holiday approached, and I mentioned to my daughter-in-law that I wanted to buy a bedside table. She said, “I’ll drive you and help bring it back.” I asked her if she had time. She said that she’d be able to go the following week. I was delighted. However, after a week of waiting, she still hadn’t come. I thought since she’s no longer working, she should have time. If she didn’t come, I’d just go buy it myself. But when I got to the mall, the store was closed. I felt disappointed, and blamed my daughter-in-law for wasting my time.

I looked inward, and asked myself why this happened. I realized it was because I harbored resentment. Once I identified the root of the problem, I rejected the resentment and eliminated it. I needed to be considerate of others. Perhaps my daughter-in-law was busy. I let go of my attachment.

My Daughter-In-Law Changed

During the Chinese New Year holiday, my son’s family came over for dinner, and I prepared a table full of delicious food. My daughter-in-law was pleased that I hadn’t mentioned the bedside table and wasn’t angry with her, so she was in good spirits. After dinner, she packed up all her favorite dishes, along with some candies and fruit to take home. On the 15th day of the new year, my son’s family visited again for dinner, and my daughter-in-law said sheepishly, “Mom, you were going to buy a bedside table before the holiday, and I didn’t come to help you.” I looked at her, smiled, and told her that it was not a problem.

Falun Dafa transformed me from a narrow-minded person into someone who cares about others. Falun Dafa taught me how to resolve conflicts and treat others with kindness. For practitioners, nothing happens by chance. My daughter-in-law is helping me eliminate the karma I accumulated over many lifetimes, and I should be grateful to her. Thinking of this, my heart broadened.

I always put the Fa first and prioritize helping Master to save people. I do my best to help my daughter-in-law whenever she needs it, never worrying about personal loss or gain. I often tell my son and relatives, “Even if you don’t practice Dafa, you should still live according to Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance, be sincere, tolerant when encountering problems, and treat others kindly.”

My daughter-in-law’s mother has been helping her daughter care for her child and cook for the family. Last year, when my daughter-in-law’s grandparents became ill and required her mother’s care, I invited my daughter-in-law home for dinner every day after getting off work. This allowed her to enjoy home-cooked meals, and also take home leftovers, fruit and vegetables. Everyone was quite happy with this arrangement. I have also noticed my daughter-in-law showing more consideration for me. She wouldn’t wash the plates before, but now she does them after dinner.

After a week of eating dinner at my home, my daughter-in-law said, “Mom, we’re not coming to dinner tomorrow. You must be tired from cooking these days. You should take a break.” I told her that it was okay. She responded, “You’re 70 years old and you still cook for us. We should be the ones cooking and taking care of you.” I was happy to see that she was now being considerate of others.

Last year on Children’s Day, my daughter-in-law and her friend took their children out to play, and I invited them back to my home for dinner. When the meal was ready, my daughter-in-law called me and asked, “My friend and her aunt’s grandson would come over for dinner, too. Is that okay?” I said it was okay, as I always make extra so they can take some home after dinner. Everyone was delighted when my daughter-in-law and her friends came.

Her friend complimented my cooking and said, “Your mother-in-law is so kind!” They saw firsthand that a mother-in-law who practices Falun Dafa is truly different.

My daughter-in-law’s mother used to be opposed to my practicing Falun Dafa. However, after witnessing my kindness in both the big and small aspects of daily life, she began to recognize the value of Dafa and praised me, saying, “You’re so kind! You have such a wonderful personality!”

“If I hadn’t practiced Dafa, I wouldn’t have been able to do this,” I responded. “This is only possible because I practice Falun Dafa. It has changed me, allowing me to truly consider others, treat them kindly, and be more tolerant in the face of difficulties.” My daughter-in-law’s mother now also enjoys reading truth-clarification materials and often reminds me to be safe.

I sincerely know that all of this is thanks to Master. Without practicing Falun Dafa, I could not have attained this state of mind, nor would my heart be so broad.