Validating Dafa by Letting Go of Fame and Personal Interest

(Minghui.org) Before cultivating Dafa, we were a family of four. I had two daughters. My husband opened a business with someone else in 1995. Due to economic disputes, conflicts arose with his business partner. After being hurt by the partner, my husband committed suicide. At that time, my younger daughter was not even two years old.

This immense tragedy plunged me into an abyss of despair. I was in agony, and could barely extricate myself. I was longing only for liberation. Seeing the pain of my elderly mother-in-law losing her son, and looking at my young daughters, I couldn’t bear to abandon them. In the end, I chose to survive and face the business my husband left behind.

The money my husband used for his business was from high-interest loans. A large amount of the goods’ payments were not recovered, and the debts couldn’t be repaid, so I was forced into a corner. I fell into despair, feeling there was no hope left. My body broke down, and I could hardly take care of myself in daily life.

Gaining a New Life With Dafa

December 29, 1998 was a day I would never forget. My former classmate, seeing me in a miserable state, was very concerned. She gave me a copy of Zhuan Falun and said, “Take a look at this!” Out of courtesy, I took it home. After reading the book, I felt that the long-suppressed feelings in my heart suddenly opened up!

A month later, as the Chinese New Year of 1999 approached, I took down the curtains that had been up for three years and washed them. I deep cleaned the kitchen, which hadn’t been tidied for three years. When my sister-in-law saw this, she broke out in tears and said, “You’re able to work now!” I replied, “I didn’t expect I could work either. My health has improved so quickly! Dafa has given me a new life!”

I understood that the meaning of life was not to pursue fame and fortune, but to be indifferent to such issues, to continuously elevate one’s morality based on the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance, and to cultivate one’s xinxing. At the same time, one should return to one’s true self. I decided to close the business and find a job. At that time, I earned 360 yuan a month. But given my improved health and realizing a purpose in life, I felt happier having any amount of money.

My parents-in-law raised seven children. Each of their four sons gave them 50 yuan per month, and I gave them 100 yuan. Since my parents-in-law lost their beloved son, my husband, I felt I should show them even more filial piety and help comfort their wounded hearts.

Validating Dafa by Letting Go of Fame and Personal Gain

I got married again in 2002, and my current husband also practices Dafa cultivation. He has a son, and I have two daughters, making a family of five. Our family and relatives all lived in the same village. Our village was planned to be be relocated in 2017. My former husband and I owned a flat, which would be relocated into two houses, a small 80-square-meter house and a large 120-square-meter house. I also received a 40-square-meter house left by my deceased former parents-in-law.

Because I have a step-family, I faced difficulties in housing allocation. Witnessing the fierce disputes among ordinary people over housing, I was governed by the Dafa principles, and I needed to handle this matter well and validate the Fa amidst critical self-interest.

My eldest daughter was already married and had her own house. I discussed the house matter with her. “Based on existing facts, the new houses should belong to you and your sister, as your brother’s household registration is not here with us. However, we are Dafa cultivators (she is also a cultivator). Since both your brother and sister are of marriageable age now, let’s give the large house to your sister and the small one to your brother.” She readily agreed.

However, some of my daughter’s aunts disagreed. After discussing the situation, they reluctantly agreed to let my stepson live in the small house, but the house remained under my eldest daughter’s name.

Dealing With Housing Allocation

The situation changed not long after. My daughter’s eldest aunt proposed to exchange her houses with my large 120-square-meter house. Initially, I was reluctant for the exchange and thought, “It would nice having one large house for myself.” The aunt was well-off financially, and owned several houses. But, as a cultivator, I needed to hold myself to Dafa’s standards and consider others’ needs first. If she likes my large house, I would make the exchange with her.

The aunt’s family has two 80-square-meter houses, plus other houses of different sizes. I chose to exchange my large 120-square-meter house with one of her 80 square-meter houses, which left me a 80-square-meter house, plus a 40-square-meter extra space. After exchanging, I had two 80-square-meter houses, the 40-square-meters extra space from exchanging, plus another 40-square-meter space that my former in-laws gave me. The two 40-square-meter spaces combined made up another 80-square-meter house after relocation. I ended up with a total three 80-square-meter houses from our village relocation. Each of my three children now had a house. The housing problem was solved.

A woman from the village approached me and asked, “I heard you’re going to give one of the houses to your stepson?” I replied, “Yes, I treat all three children equally.” She said, “No matter what the government said about Falun Gong, I believe what I saw with my own eyes, you’re doing really great for your children. I can’t do the same as you’ve done.”

My younger daughter has a boyfriend who is from another province. They agreed to settle down in our city. When the pandemic temporarily eased in 2021, the boyfriend’s parents came to discuss their child’s marriage. Initially, they planned to buy a house in our area for their son’s wedding. I thought it was perfect. My younger daughter would have a house, my husband and I could live in the house that was initially given to her, and we would no longer have to rent

However, my husband said, “With the current unstable housing market, our future in-laws buying a house is not good timing. Let’s give our daughter the 80-square-meter house for their wedding.” I was thrilled to hear this. While ordinary people vie for their own interests, we cultivators could make such selfless decisions.

During the process of the house allocation, none of our relatives and friends understood. They asked me, “If you give all the houses to your children, what will you do in the future?” However, when they saw the results we had decided on, they admired Dafa disciples.

Each of my daughters has a house. As for my son, there wasn’t much hope for a house originally. Because the 80-square-meter house was split in half, and the 40- square-meter space exchanged with the aunt was paid in cash that was only around 70 percent of the market price, which was far from enough to buy a house.

When I was anxious about how to fulfill the promise of giving my son a house, I encountered someone who urgently needed money. They offered to sell an 80-square-meter house for just 250,000 yuan. When I bought it, no one believed it was at such a low price. In the past, when I told the facts about Dafa to relatives and friends, most of them didn’t listen or accept it, but now they do.

What Master has given us is the best. My step-family treats each other sincerely. When conflicts arise, the principles of Dafa can resolve our conflicts, allowing our family to live in harmony and happiness.

Falun Dafa has given us everything, Falun Dafa blesses my family!