Practicing Falun Dafa Ended My Resentment for My Family

(Minghui.org) I am 61 years old and would like to share my experience of resolving years of resenting my family after improving in cultivation. I am grateful to Master Li for the compassion he has shown me and all sentient beings.

Painful Marriage and Difficult Years

I met my husband through someone’s introduction when I was 20 years old. His father had passed away early and his family was very poor, but he seemed to be an honest man, so I married him.

We lived in a suburb. The area became a development zone after 1980. People built factories, schools, and buildings in that area. The amount of farm land diminished, and each person received some compensation each year. After we got married, we built a house, so we accumulated debt. I raised pigs to repay some of what we owed.

I worked hard every day to pay off this debt as soon as possible. Shortly after the house was built, our son was born. I was diligent and worked hard, but my husband became lazy and no longer wanted to work so much. He often went out for fun and gambled playing cards.

He became addicted. He was frequently away from home after I gave birth, so there was no one to take care of me. My elderly mother was blind and could not help. The pigs were hungry and escaped from the pigsty. I was helpless, anxious, and angry, and fell seriously ill.

My body swelled up, and I had nephritis and other ailments. I couldn’t eat or drink for ten days. I couldn’t stand and had to lie down and therefore couldn’t take any medicine. I had no strength at all, not to even to turn my small baby over. On the sixth day without eating or drinking, I had a vision of my two aunts who had passed away coming to my bedside. They were talking to each other. This changed my view of atheism. I got to the gates of hell without dying, but I fell seriously ill.

My husband didn’t feel any guilt when it came to my needs. Rather, he got worse and went to places where they had pornography. He took or stole the money distributed by the village and the money I earned, and spent it all on gambling. He also took my pigs to the market and sold them. When I asked him about them, he said that I had lost the pigs.

I dared not say anything when he was wrong. He has a hot temper and a loud voice, and pointed his finger at me as he spoke. He tried to kick me and my son out of our home many times. I couldn’t win a fight with him. He often upset me and his elderly mother so much that we cried.

Life was difficult. Our son was malnourished and had a big head and a thin body. He only had sparse hair when he was a few years old. He learned to walk and speak late. I was worried and distressed. We ran out of rice one morning. I asked my husband to go to the processing room to grind some for us. He went out with the millet on his back, but did not return.

The baby needed to be taken care of, and I was late for work. I searched everywhere and found him playing cards. The millet was still there. I asked him to get the rice, but he refused. We started arguing, and he beat me. Seeing that I couldn’t hit him, some kindhearted people broke up the fight. Angrily, I picked up the shoe and hit him on the head so hard that it broke the skin on his scalp.

After he came home, he threw out the dowry my parents gave me when I got married and threatened to beat me to death. I was scared and hid outside for a few days. This couldn’t go on any longer, so I asked for a divorce.

His sister-in-law was born locally. She and I held a grudge, so when she heard that I was getting a divorce, she called all the relatives together. Adding those who came to watch, there were many people. My mother-in-law let them sit down. I sat there as if I was being held in a denouncement meeting. My sister-in-law became the main person. They kept scolding me, but I didn’t say a word.

They left after scolding me for the entire afternoon. The story about our family spread. One friend at work felt that I was being treated unfairly, and said, “A group of locals bullied her. I wouldn’t let them do it if it was me.” People who scolded me later believed that it was meaningless, and my sister-in-law said that she no longer cared. I became resentful of her and didn’t speak to her for more than ten years.

After my divorce, I took my son to live in the dormitory where I worked. My son passed by my ex-husband’s place to go to the elementary school. My ex-husband blocked his way and made him cry. My ex-husband said to him, “If you are with your mother, don’t come over here to study.”

I resented my ex. I always thought that one day when my health got better and I was richer, I would find someone to give him a good beating and vent my anger. My ex-husband remarried after I left the village. I always burst into tears when I thought of the suffering I had gone through.

Letting Go of Resentment

I took my son to my sister’s house, out of town. I started a small business, and barely made ends meet. Because of my poor health, I often went to the hospital. I thought about how to cure my illnesses every day. I used both Chinese and Western medicine, and I used up two of the casseroles to cook the Chinese medicine. I also studied diet therapy and learned qigong. Nothing was working, and I didn’t know what to do.

My family introduced me to Falun Dafa in 1998. After practicing it for two months, all my illnesses disappeared without any treatment. Falun Dafa’s easy-to-understand principles changed me. As I studied the Fa, my xinxing continued to improve, and I understood that the pain I had experienced in this life was all because of my karma. Before I began cultivation, I didn’t know that we were repaying our karmic debts. We were hurting each other, holding grudges, and feeling resentful.

I came to understand that cultivators have no enemies, and paying off debts is a good thing. Resentment toward my ex-husband’s family gradually disappeared. Instead, I developed sympathy and understanding for him. Master’s teachings dispelled the haze in my heart. In order to practice Dafa and be a good person I have to start with those around me.

I called my ex-husband to say hello and told him, “I practice Falun Dafa. Dafa is so good that all my illnesses have been cured. I was wrong before. I was young and didn’t know how to change my bad temper. Let us forget all our past grievances toward each other.” The ex-husband’s tone also became kind.

My son did not have a good impression of my ex-husband. I was lucky to encounter Dafa and embark on the path of cultivation. I persuaded my son to recognize my ex-husband as his father. My son went back to see him. He shed tears when he saw his handsome adult son.

My ex-husband’s health was not as good as before, and he and his wife were both ill. Seeing that I was in good health and my tone was kind, he regretted our divorce, and said, “It’s all my fault. I indulged in gambling and ruined the family.”

I went to my ex-husband’s sister-in-law’s house next. I took the initiative to greet her. The moment I greeted her, all the unhappiness in our hearts disappeared. She was very happy. She came to my store after I returned to the village to do business. I saw that she was sick and told her about Dafa many times. She took the recording of Master’s lectures and listened to it. She said that practicing Falun Dafa was very demanding and she couldn’t do it. But she was lucky enough to hear the Fa during the last tribulation, which was a great blessing in life.

After knowing that I sent my son back, my ex-husband’s wife was afraid that we would fight for the family property. My ex-husband and I have been separated for more than ten years, but our son’s household registration was with my ex-husband. They took all the money that the village distributed every year and spent it all. It was not a small sum.

What worried her more was the house, because it was built by me and she had no children. She was afraid that her husband would give the house to his son, so she called her two sisters over. One of her sisters worked in the insurance business and was good at talking. That sister is the person that my ex-husband feared the most.

They came to talk to me about the property. I told them, “I gave up everything in the past, and it’s even less likely for me to want anything now. I practice Falun Dafa, and Master wants me to follow Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, and be a good person. If I didn’t practice Dafa, I would never do it this way.” I told them about the beauty of Dafa and all my experiences.

My openness made them appreciate a Dafa practitioner’s kindness and unselfishness. One of her sisters said, “We believe you. I am so relieved that you are so kind.”

My son later got married and I had grandchildren. I built another house for him in the village using my resources.

I thought of the predestined people in my hometown and wanted to tell them about the beauty of Falun Dafa. I went there to do business in 2008. I also told more people there about Falun Dafa.

My ex-husband and his wife came to my store one day and said that he wanted to go to the hospital for treatment, but had no money. They asked me to call my son for help because he was too embarrassed to call. I took the phone and talked with my son. My son mailed over 1,000 yuan. At that time, my son had just gotten married, and his father hadn’t paid a penny for the wedding.

My ex-husband’s wife had asthma. She had a difficult time walking and talking when she caught a cold. I persuaded her to study the Fa with me, but she declined. I later returned to my villege to do business, and played truth-clarification CDs in the store. My ex-husband’s wife often came to the store to watch, and no longer believed the propaganda on TV. She often recited “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” and quit the Young Pioneers that she had once joined.

Practicing Dafa Is Beneficial to Society and the Family

Falun Dafa has spread to more than 100 countries around the world, and is welcomed by people of all ethnic groups. The Chinese Communist Party (CCP) has deceived countless people by spreading rumors and smearing Falun Dafa. The obliteration of kindness makes social injustice prevalent. Because I practice Dafa, I have been followed, harassed, and persecuted. As time goes by, the words and deeds of Falun Dafa practitioners are changing things.

Many years ago, the head of the Domestic Security Division said to me, “You are a good person. You have raised your son by yourself for many years, and you have not asked for things you should have. Your son is hard-working and self-motivated.” The deputy head came to my store and said, “We don’t want to persecute you.”

They know that the atmosphere in our village is not good. Adults love gambling, and children do not have a good environment. There are a dozen youngsters in our team who are addicted to drugs. They steal, take, and cheat to get money. Some committed crimes and went to jail, and some died prematurely. I practice Falun Dafa, and my son is lucky. I guide and educate him with the principles of the righteous way. He is diligent, able to endure hardships, and does not engage in pornography, gambling, or drugs.

My ex-husband has advanced diabetes and has no social health insurance. My son believes in Dafa. He took my ex-husband to his home and tried to persuade him to study the Fa. My ex-husband wouldn’t do it, and chose the hospital. He now lives in pain every day. Our family has spent a lot of money over the years. My son is blessed by Master. His business is going smoothly and he has savings. Because our family practices Dafa, my son is good, although his father is not.

My neighbor, who once lived in the same courtyard, asked me, “I heard that your son still pays your ex-husband’s medical bills.” I told him the truth about Dafa, and that the most fortunate thing in my life is that I practice Falun Dafa, and that I have experienced the joy of being a good person. Dafa has turned me, a person who held a lot of resentment, into a broad-minded one. I got rid of all my illnesses. If I had not practiced Falun Dafa, I would not have forgiven my ex-husband. I was the one who advised my son to be kind to his father. We have all benefited from Dafa.

Thank you, Master, for your compassion in helping us!