China Fahui | My Kindness Changed My Husband

(Minghui.org) Greetings, Master! Greetings, fellow practitioners!

I started to practice Falun Dafa in 1996. I’d like to tell you how after practicing Falun Dafa, through my kindness, my family environment changed. My family now says, “Falun Dafa is good,” and helps me expose the persecution.

My husband had a bad temper and often became upset over trivial things. I had a calm personality before I married him, but being around him made me irritable. When he got angry, I argued back, and sometimes we even fought. He held a grudge against me, often came home drunk and picked fights with me.

After enduring this for years, I was stretched to the limit mentally and physically. I felt exhausted and unwell. Seeing me like this, my husband only got angrier. I once cried out to the heavens, “Why is life so hard?” Life lost its meaning for me.

After practicing Falun Dafa, Master’s Fa answered many of my questions. I learned that everything in life has a cause and effect. Nothing happens by accident; it’s all due to what we did in past lifetimes. Bad deeds lead to suffering, illness, and hardships. The more harm one caused, the more suffering one faces.

I realized that I had to let go of my resentment toward my husband. I decided to treat him with kindness, patience, and tolerance, as Master teaches. No matter how unreasonable he was, I reminded myself to be gentle and not to act aggressively

Master said in “Teaching the Fa at a New York Meeting” (Lectures in the United States):

“According to the theory of yin and yang, females should be gentle and not strong.”

When I improved my xinxing, I noticed my husband’s good qualities. He is skilled, reliable, and well-liked. He does all the household chores, even the shopping. I never saw his good side before.

I used to be careless and never showed him any care or support. I realized that my selfishness and stubbornness hurt him. When I compared my behavior to the principles of Dafa, I saw I was wrong. I became determined to treat him well, without complaints or demands, to repay the karmic debt I owe him.

Understanding this is one thing, but it’s hard to put into practice. My husband’s temper worsened, and his shouting and angry face made me want to react. But I remembered Master’s teachings, held back my tears, and reminded myself to endure. I reminded myself to see his strengths and ignore his outbursts. The process was painful, but I finally controlled my emotions and stayed calm. Although I haven’t fully achieved tolerance, I’m glad I took a step forward in my cultivation.

After several trials, I no longer expect my husband to treat me a certain way. My kindness softened his heart. With continued study of the teachings, I changed inside and out.

Once, he threw a pot because it was dirty and smashed the trash can. Then he smashed our new TV because he couldn’t find the remote control. I remained calm as if I were outside the situation. I smiled at him, and his anger disappeared. In the past, I could never have done that. Master reshaped my heart and brought me to a new realm.

I calmly told him, “When you couldn’t find the remote, you smashed the TV. When the rice cooker wasn’t clean, you broke the trash can. You could have just asked me to find the remote and wash the rice cooker. Breaking things costs money, but anger also releases toxins in the body that harm health. Look at me—why am I always healthy? Because I no longer get angry.” After a pause, I added, “I’ve also seen my own issues—I can be careless, dependent, and lazy. I’ll work on these.” My husband didn’t say a word but turned away, smiling.

Not only did I guide my husband, but I also took care of him in every way, always keeping his needs in mind. I cooked meals to his taste and even handed over all the family finances for him to manage. My husband felt the warmth of home.

One day, he asked, “Why are you so good to me?” I said, “It’s because Master taught me to treat you this way. You should thank Master!”

I noticed a change in my husband—his face softened, his eyes became gentler, and he started speaking more calmly. He even began caring about me, something I’d never felt from him before. Falun Dafa changed me, and my kindness melted his heart.

Now he offers incense to Master. Sometimes, he stands in front of Master’s photo, saying something quietly. He always buys the best incense for Master.

My Husband Shouts, “Falun Dafa Is Good!”

After witnessing my positive changes, my husband fully supports my practice of Falun Dafa.

Four police officers once came to our home to ransack it. My husband was calm and firmly told them, “We are good people. You can look around, but don’t make a mess.” The police behaved respectfully. One officer carefully opened and checked our closet and drawers; another looked inside our daughter’s wardrobe. The other two officers didn’t touch anything. Although my husband appeared strong, I knew he was afraid, but he didn’t say a word against me.

He even told the security team leader, “Right and wrong will be judged by history. Such a good practice will be cleared of accusations one day, so you should leave yourself a way out.” The leader replied, “Don’t worry. As long as no one reports you, even if I see a practitioner doing something, I won’t interfere.” My husband also told them about people who faced retribution after they persecuted Falun Dafa.

Whenever my husband spoke to people, he proudly said, “My wife benefited so much from practicing Falun Dafa—she hasn’t been sick and no longer needs medicine. She works hard without getting tired. Even when her leg was badly fractured in an accident, it healed naturally. Falun Dafa is amazing! I feel lucky to have a wife who practices.” Many who heard what he said began seeing Falun Dafa positively, and broke free from the lies the CCP instilled in their minds.

My husband has two former colleagues in the military who argued with him whenever he mentioned Falun Dafa. After the COVID-19 pandemic, he met them again. Both said they suffered badly during the virus; one had to stay in bed for over a month, while the other was bedridden for nearly two weeks.

My husband told them, “You suffered because you didn’t believe in Dafa. When I got COVID, I sincerely recited, ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,’ and I recovered in three days. You both took three vaccine shots, and I took only two. My wife didn’t take any, yet she stayed healthy even though we live together. How do you explain that?” They were speechless.

My husband often silently repeats, “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” Sometimes, he even shouts it aloud. Once, while walking down the street, he shouted those words, and a street cleaner timidly asked him, “The government opposes Falun Dafa. Aren’t you afraid to say that?” My husband replied, “Practicing Falun Dafa transformed my wife.”

Once, he was at a restaurant with a group of people and told them, “Let’s all shout ‘Falun Dafa is good.’” They stood up together and shouted. When two police officers hurried in, my husband asked, “What are you here for? Do want to arrest us? I practice Falun Dafa—are you brave enough to arrest me?” One officer said, “You don’t practice; Falun Dafa practitioners don’t drink.” The other officer apologized and left. My husband and his friends couldn’t help but laugh.

One day, my husband came home with a hoarse voice. I asked, “How did you lose your voice?” He replied, “I went to an open area in the west and shouted, ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,’ until my voice was hoarse.” Seeing the innocent, childlike expression on his face, I couldn’t help but laugh, saying, “You’re incredible! Your shouts carry positive energy, shaking away evil spirits in other dimensions.” He laughed along with me.

My husband’s support for Falun Dafa has helped me clarify the truth. All our relatives and friends have withdrawn from the CCP and its affiliated organizations. My husband also uses currency with Falun Dafa messages printed on it and even went to the bank to exchange small bills. He delivers the Minghui Weekly to a fellow practitioner nearly ten miles away every week.

My Husband Declares, “I Want to Quit the Party”

One day, my husband told the community secretary, “I’m here to formally declare my withdrawal from the Party.”

At one point, the community secretary called my husband, asking him to come to the office to sign a document regarding my practice of Falun Dafa. He told her, “I can’t sign that,” and hung up. I told him, “You should tell them the truth about it!”

The community secretary called a second time, saying, “Please come over—I’d like to meet you.” My husband replied, “You may want to meet me, but I don’t want to meet you. You just want me to sign something, right? Let me tell you, my wife used to be ill. People at my workplace saw her boiling medicinal herbs in the guard’s room every day. Everyone at work knew about her health issues, and she tried every medicine with no success. Since she started practicing Falun Gong, she has not only gotten better physically and mentally, but she’s also kind to everyone. She treats my mother like her own and helps my siblings in many ways. Everyone in our family and neighborhood respects her deeply. I won’t sign that document.” He hung up.

The secretary called a third time and said, “Falun Dafa is against the Party. Signing won’t affect you at all…” My husband replied, “The Communist Party is so powerful, with soldiers, guns, and advanced weapons, while Falun Gong practitioners are just regular people without weapons. Why would you fear peaceful citizens so much? This is beyond ridiculous; it’s laughable worldwide. Falun Gong is a belief, and the law grants freedom of belief. I fully support Falun Gong. So, what are you trying to do? If you ask me to sign again, I’ll formally declare my withdrawal from the Party!” He hung up once more.

Another time, someone from the town government ordered our daughter to sign something because I practice Falun Dafa. She replied, “I can’t sign that.” The person said, “If you don’t sign, I’ll speak to your boss.” She replied, “Go ahead and speak to my boss! Afterward, I’ll talk to yours. I want to see the document that says a daughter must sign because her mother practices. Show me the regulation!” He hung up.

I told both my husband and daughter, “If they call again, tell them to talk directly to me.”

Another day, the police station called my daughter, and politely asked, “Since your mom practices Falun Dafa, would you mind coming to the station to sign a paper?” She replied, “Have you asked my mom directly? It’s no use asking me.” The officer said, “Your mom is older, so we’re hesitant to bother her.” He then asked, “Has her practice of Falun Dafa been a burden to you?” My daughter replied, “Not at all. Falun Dafa has been a blessing for us. She used to be sick and couldn’t do any housework, and I was always afraid I might lose her. Now, she’s healthy, does all the chores, and even helps us. I’m finally at peace and can focus on work.” The officer asked, “So, should we just leave it like this?” She replied, “Yes, just leave it.”

My husband laughed happily when he heard this story and praised our daughter, “You said it perfectly.” The authorities never bothered them again.

After Master’s new article, “How Humankind Came To Be,” was published, my husband finally picked up the main text of Falun Dafa, Zhuan Falun, and started reading it every day.

I truly feel that kindness is an eternal value in this world, and its power is limitless. Only kindness can awaken people. Using a kind heart to help others is the path that Master laid out for me.