(Minghui.org) I started practicing Falun Dafa in 2019. I have benefited a lot, even though I have not practiced for long. I would like to share my cultivation experience over the past two years and thank Master Li Hongzhi for his compassionate salvation.
I was born in the 1980’s, and my husband is four years older than me. One of us was from southern China and the other from northern China. Because of our differences in education and social upbringing, we disagree on many issues, and our ways of dealing with people differ. So although we have been married for many years, we quarreled constantly. I felt exhausted and harbored great resentment for my husband.
Master Li said,
“ …as practitioners we should not be the same as others and must conduct ourselves better.” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)
When I encounter disagreements with my husband, I no longer argue with him. I try to say as little as possible, measure myself according to Dafa’s standards, put myself in his shoes, and be more tolerant and understanding.
In the past, I often complained about him being unhygienic and lazy, but now I no longer scold him, and would rather be like the junior monk who suffered and worked hard. I wanted to do more and complain less. Master Li taught:
“The junior monk always works hard and tirelessly. It is quicker for him to repay his karma and become enlightened.” (Lecture Seven, Zhuan Falun).
I no longer harbor complaints or resentment – I only have peace in my heart. My husband could clearly see the changes Dafa brought me, so he supports my cultivation.
My Son Practices Dafa
My son also started practicing Falun Dafa. Every night before going to bed, we would read a short section of Zhuan Falun together. At the beginning, there were some Chinese characters he didn’t recognize, and he couldn’t punctuate a long sentence correctly. As he studied the Fa more, Dafa opened up his wisdom. He can now read Zhuan Falun fluently.
We often had some experience sharing based on our understandings. I tried to guide him using the Fa principles, and he learned to deal with problems he has in his studies and life. He also reminded me to look inward when I couldn’t maintain my xinxing.
My son is at a precocious age, and so it was inevitable that he sometimes triggered my anger. I tried to persuade him with kind words, but he did not always listen, therefore my anger would surface. Then I would recite Master’s Fa:
“Some people will lose their temper in disciplining children and yell at them, making quite a scene. You should not be that way in disciplining children, and neither should you, yourselves get really upset. You should educate children with reason so that you can really teach them well.” (Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
After I calmed down, I patiently reasoned with him.
Parents in China now want their children to take after-school classes such as sports, music, and the arts, wanting them to be proficient at many fields. I even registered my son in a lot of classes. With continuous deepening of my Fa study however, I realized that this was wrong. I wanted my son to be proficient in everything, which was only my wish. Master said:
“I would say that this is your wishful thinking. You are unable to interfere with the lives of others, and neither can you control others’ fates, including those of your wife, sons, daughters, parents, or brothers. Can you decide those things?” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)
My son was born in a Dafa practitioner’s family and came for the Fa. If he is submerged in a lot of extra-curricular classes, it squeezes the time for studying the Fa. So I canceled many of his classes and no longer worried if he couldn’t do what other kids could, which is my attachment to seeking fame.
I know that he is fortunate enough to obtain the Fa in this life, which is his greatest blessing. I will lead him to cultivate well and be a true Dafa practitioner. Master is merciful and will definitely make the best arrangements for him.
Doing the Three Things Well
After reading Zhuan Falun for the fourth time, I felt that I couldn’t gain any more understanding of the Fa. I then read many articles on the Minghui.org website that encouraged practitioners to memorize the Fa. I was inspired and decided to try.
It was difficult at first, and I could only memorize two paragraphs in two hours. I needed to recite each sentence over and over again. It took me eight months to finally memorize Zhuan Falun. When I did it for the second time, It took much less time. When I recited parts of the Fa I didn’t understand before, I clearly realized a deeper meaning when I recited it for the second time. I sometimes recited the Fa with my legs crossed in the lotus position, and could feel my whole body enveloped by energy.
I clarified the truth to my relatives and friends. However, due to my lack of Fa study and insufficient righteous thoughts, I dared not approach strangers face-to-face. I was often worried about being rejected, so I only talked to people who appeared friendly.
I started to print truth-clarification materials for distribution in nearby areas. I encountered some people who didn’t know the truth about Dafa and drove me away, so I sent righteous thoughts to eliminate the interfering spirits behind them.
My community was locked down due to the pandemic in 2020. Residents couldn’t get out, and outsiders couldn’t get in. There were a lot of materials that had not been distributed, so I decided to take them to every unit in our community. But this was risky because there were cameras in the elevators, and some apartments had cameras installed at the doors. I had to avoid encountering residents who went in and out of the buildings, so I would go out after 10 p.m. and take the stairs. All the buildings in our community are 18 stories high. So I often took a break after climbing to the top, then distributed the materials from the top floor down.
Improving My Xinxing
Through continued Fa study, I realized that I had many attachments, and some of them were hard to eliminate, including jealousy, resentment, lust, not cultivating speech, showing off, and seeking fame. In the past, when I encountered problems, I looked outward, but now I know that I should look inward.
“...from now on when you come across a conflict you should not consider it a coincidence.” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)
I am a cultivator, and Master has changed my entire life. Every conflict I encounter is a test for improving my xinxing and transforming my karma. But this is easier said than done. Attachments to competitiveness and feeling aggrieved still pop up from time to time, and I can’t hold back.
“Our school of practice directly targets one’s mind. The key issue is whether you can take lightly and care less about the issues of individual gain and interpersonal conflicts.” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)
When I encountered conflicts again, and my heart kept churning, I just meditated to calm myself down, recalled the Fa, and grasped as much of it as I could. Afterward, my anger, and resentment gradually diminished, and I was able to achieve the state of peace and compassion that Master requires.
Having obtained the Fa in this lifetime, I cannot express my gratitude enough to Master for his compassionate salvation. I will definitely move forward with due diligence, fulfill my vows, and go home with Master.
If there is anything not in accordance with the Fa, please compassionately point it out.
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