Conflicts with My Daughter-In-Law Resolved When I Followed Falun Dafa’s Principles

(Minghui.org) I am the youngest daughter in my family so I was spoiled since childhood. I was impetuous, competitive and had a bad temper. Our finances were good and I had a comfortable life after I married. Both my mind and body were purified and my life was renewed after I began practicing Falun Dafa in 1997. 

I would like to tell you how by following Falun Dafa’s principles conflicts between my daughter-in-law and me were resolved.

My daughter-in-law gave birth during the summer of 2002. Her parents took care of her at the hospital during the day while my son and I took care of her in the evening. She always looked at me with a bitter face and treated me very coldly. I thought to myself, “What have I done wrong? Why is my daughter-in-law so unhappy with me?” I could not think of anything. Then I thought, “I am a Falun Dafa practitioner and I abide by the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.” I decided to endure everything and take care of her and the baby wholeheartedly.

When my daughter-in-law was discharged from the hospital, her mother said, “You should take care of the baby all day. I want my daughter to rest well.” I agreed immediately. I prepared four nutritious meals each day for my daughter-in-law and brought them to her room. I also bathed the baby, changed her diapers and prepared her milk formula. In addition, I also did the grocery shopping, prepared meals for my husband and my son and did the household chores. I had sleepless nights due to caring for the newborn and had no appetite during the day. I was very tired and began feeling dizzy. Whenever I felt exhausted I reminded myself that I am a Falun Dafa practitioner. I knew I was eliminating karma while my xinxing and cultivation energy were improving. When I remembered this I felt more at ease and my body felt more comfortable. 

My daughter-in-law started to lactate after a few days. I was happy, thinking she could breastfeed the baby and I no longer needed to prepare the formula. However my daughter-in-law said, “I don’t want to breastfeed. I won’t be able to rest well if I do.” I was puzzled and thought, “Why wouldn’t a mother want to breastfeed her child?” I wanted to reprimand her but reminded myself that I’m a Falun Dafa practitioner. I needed to be compassionate and assimilate to the characteristics of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. 

I had a notion of being afraid to endure hardships and I did not want to be too tired. The reason I did not want to prepare the baby’s formula was because I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to get enough rest. Wasn’t this being selfish? However, I still felt bad for my granddaughter not being able to feed on breast milk. I decided to talk with my daughter-in-law’s mother when she came over. However, her mother had the same opinion about not breastfeeding. She was worried that her daughter would not be able to rest. I developed grudges towards both of them and was worried about my little granddaughter. Then I remembered the teachings of Master Li (the founder of Falun Dafa) and realized that I needed to have a heart of compassion. I felt more at ease and all my complaints disappeared. 

After 32 days of taking care of my daughter-in-law, I lost over 22 pounds while my daughter-in-law gained over 22 pounds. I looked very weak and did not have much time to practice the exercises. However, I lived to my fullest because I adhered to the principles of Dafa. 

My Daughter-In-Law Says Falun Dafa Is Good

When my daughter-in-law returned home to her mother, she said in front of my husband and my son, “I am very fortunate to have a good mother-in-law.” I said, “It was Dafa that showed me how to be a good mother-in-law.” My daughter-in-law said with all sincerity, “Falun Dafa is good. Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”

My daughter-in-law read Master’s lectures and withdrew her membership in the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) and its affiliated organizations. She also clarified the truth to her family and distributed truth-clarification flyers. Both my son and granddaughter read Zhuan Falun, the main book of Falun Dafa. Three generations of our family live harmoniously together. My daughter-in-law is very filial and my granddaughter is hand copying Zhuan Falun. I feel very fortunate. If it hadn’t been for Dafa, the conflicts in our family wouldn’t have been resolved. I raised both of my granddaughters by myself and did not hire any housemaids. I’ve tidied up the house and I did my best to take good care of everything, both inside and outside the house. Many neighbors have praised me for how well I did. In the eyes of others, I am pampered, the wife of an official. However, I adhere to Master’s teachings and abide by the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance and look inward to find my own shortcomings. 

The relationship between a mother-in-law and her in-laws is very complicated nowadays. If not dealt with properly, it can cause serious family conflicts. Some couples have divorced because of unresolved mother-in-law conflicts. I have a harmonious family because I abide by Master’s teachings to be a better person. I correct my own shortcomings and treat everyone sincerely. This is all bestowed on me by Dafa. My family has also received blessings from Dafa. I want to tell everyone, “Falun Dafa is truly good!”

I hope that you will be able to take the time and learn about the truth of Falun Dafa. Perhaps this is what you have been looking for. Falun Dafa will bring you and your family numerous blessings.