Making the Right Choices
(Minghui.org) I started to practice Falun Dafa in 1996. Time flies and it passed in a blink of an eye. So many things happened. In retrospect, I could write a novel about the joys and sorrows, ups and downs, separations and reunions I've experienced. This is a cultivation process that purified my heart. I became generous, selfless, and tolerant. My experiences bear witness to Master Li’s (Dafa's founder) compassion and the greatness of the Fa.
Many people spent these 20 years eating, drinking, and having fun. They focused on making money, saving money, or which house or car to buy. I did not. The cultivation path I walked transformed my soul.
Let me talk about what happened between my second husband and me.
I live in the countryside. Everyone who lives in rural areas dreams about going to the city and getting married. I was an exception. One relative introduced me to a man in the city. He was several years older than me. Other girls asked for money and a house when they got married. My family urged me to do so as well. I thought about it and felt that what I most needed was an environment to practice Dafa. Thus, I didn’t ask for anything except that the man allows me to practice Falun Dafa. He agreed. We got married and lived in a run-down two-bedroom house (three years later, the house was torn down and we moved into a condominium in a high-rise building).
Teaching My Husband to Read Zhuan Falun
After we married I learned that my husband only studied in school for two or three years. He smoked a pack of cigarettes and drank 500ml of Chinese liquor every day. His entertainment was playing poker. When I cleaned the house and found dozens of liquor containers, I regretted marrying him. He didn’t meet my partner's requirements at all. I frequently cried. When he asked why, I didn’t say anything. I was chagrined to learn my second marriage was such a failure.
Fortunately, he didn’t object to my practicing Falun Dafa. He also agreed to let fellow practitioners read the teachings in our home. As our room was very small, he had to stay in the kitchen when practitioners came. That moved me.
I knew that Dafa was powerful and I thought that he might quit smoking and drinking if he practiced. I told him that Falun Dafa is the Buddha Fa and that many people had their illnesses resolved after they began practicing. Dafa can also restore human morality. The CCP (Chinese Communist Party) continually broadcast propaganda on TV to slander Dafa and lied to people. Whoever learns Dafa will benefit from it. I suffered from bronchitis since I was a child. Every winter I fell ill. I also suffered from a herniated lumbar intervertebral disc. I was fragile and had a weak heart. Every year I caught the seasonal flu. Because I never enjoyed good health I was always in a bad mood and had a bad temper. After I practiced Falun Dafa, my illnesses disappeared.
I said, “You see how healthy, cheerful and optimistic I am now. Over 100 million people practice Falun Dafa.” My husband had little education and was very innocent. He agreed to learn because I was very kind to him.
I started teaching him Master Li Hongzhi’s On Dafa. Once I started, I found that he could not read simple words like “you,” “me,” “him” and could not make out the characters of “up” and “down.” He hadn't been in school for more than 30 years. Even when he was in school, it was the time of the CCP's Cultural Revolution so he hardly learned anything. It took me three or four days to teach him the first paragraph of On Dafa. I was so anxious! I thought, when could we finish the whole book? After he learned the first paragraph, we moved to the second paragraph. To my surprise, he learned it in one day.
Later, he could learn two or three paragraphs a day. The more he learned, the faster and easier it was. I became more confident and he was also very diligent. When we encountered a word that he didn’t know, I tried to teach him in a creative way, such as drawing or by telling a story. I used two notebooks to write down each word and how to study them. We went through all the way to lecture nine. When I pointed to a word in Zhuan Falun, that word grew larger. I knew that Master was encouraging me.
Unfortunately, before we finished, a fellow practitioner asked for my help and I was busy for several days. When I tried to resume teaching, my husband refused to learn. He did not object to my practicing but he refused to learn anymore. Through teaching him, we laid a good foundation and established a congenial relationship. It was a great opportunity for me to cultivate patience, not complain, and be kind and persistent. He could feel my sincerity and that I cared for him.
Before we married my husband did not pay attention to hygiene or keeping things in order. For example, he put the cleaned onion next to the uncleaned ones; he threw things around rather than putting them in the trash; he did not like to brush his teeth; he had to be reminded several times to do chores; he did not want to change his dirty clothes and so on. I could not bear it in the beginning, and I yelled at him. I criticized him and complained. Sometimes he became agitated. We had a lot of conflicts.
As I kept on studying the Fa, I realized that I didn’t act like a practitioner. I didn’t want to change myself. I just wanted to change others. I didn't want to be inconvenienced—I just wanted to be comfortable!
“From now on, whatever you do, you should consider others first, so as to attain the righteous Enlightenment of selflessness and altruism. So from now on, whatever you do or whatever you say, you must consider others—or even future generations—along with Dafa’s eternal stability. ” (“Non-Omission in Buddha-Nature,” Essentials for Further Advancement)
Master also said,
“While working, your tone of voice, your kindheartedness, and your reasoning can change a person’s heart, whereas commands never could! ” (“Clearheadedness,” Essentials for Further Advancement)
I understood that cultivation meant listening to Master's teachings and then putting them into action. From then on, I cleaned up behind my husband. When he was tired and reluctant to wash his feet, I would get warm water and do it for him. When he was reluctant to brush his teeth, I would squeeze out the toothpaste, put warm water in the jar, and told him it was time for toothbrushing. When he fell asleep on the sofa, I covered him with a blanket. When he coughed, I prepared warm water for him. I paid attention to little details. He was moved and felt the warmth of home. Now he only drinks on special occasions or during festivals. He also smokes much less. Through my actions he witnessed the beauty of Dafa. He also benefited.
What happened afterward moved me very much. My husband witnessed the beauty of Falun Dafa and took action to protect practitioners. I no longer regretted marrying him and I stopped complaining about him. I used to look down on him because he was illiterate. Now I feel proud to have him as my husband. All I have is appreciation.
In 2006 I learned about the CCP's crime of removing practitioners’ organs while they were still alive. I was stunned and felt it was evil. Fellow practitioners brought clarifying the truth stickers and I posted them around the neighborhood to let people know how the regime persecuted Dafa disciples and good people. Because of my shortcomings, I was arrested and was illegally held for two years in a forced labor camp. Our happy family was hit hard.
Even though he was under a lot of pressure, my husband did not abandon me. He knew that I was a good person and knew that Dafa was good. He came to visit me every month and always brought me something. At that time we had only been married for eight months. Our marriage could not even be completed because my ID card was seized by the police. I advised him not to wait for me and continue his life. He disagreed and insisted on waiting for me to come home. After I was released, he told me that several people urged him to get re-married during that period but he refused. I really appreciated that he did not turn his back on me through the toughest time in my life.
In 2017, the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) intimidated police officers who did not know the truth into participating in the “door knocking” campaign that targeted Dafa disciples. When the local police came to harass me, they saw that I had a Dafa book and wanted to take me away. My husband yelled, “Take me instead! Leave her alone!” The police were shocked. Then the police chief said, “All right, we didn’t see anything.” He led the policemen away. My husband stopped them from doing evil. He stopped the police from committing a crime so they could have a bright future. My husband’s righteous action totally surprised me.
He also benefited from his brave action. My husband used to drink a lot of alcohol and eat a lot of seafood. He developed gout and his feet were severely swollen. He broke his wrist while lifting heavy objects at work. However, he recovered from these quickly. If I didn’t practice Falun Dafa, how could I tolerate his shortcomings? Because I practiced Falun Dafa, my husband’s shortcomings became a ladder for me to cultivate upward. He witnessed the beauty of Dafa through practitioners' behavior so he was saved. We live happily with the blessing's of Dafa. Falun Dafa is so wonderful!
I realized how important the choices we make are! Sometimes it even determines life or death. I chose to tell my husband that I practice Falun Dafa instead of asking for a dowry; When I was persecuted, he chose to stay with me instead of leaving because of the unbearable pressure. Because I practice Truthfulness-Compassion-Tolerance I understood his shortcomings and we lived in harmony. He saw the beauty of Falun Dafa through my practice. As a result, we are a happy family.
When the persecution started, my ex-husband’s family was afraid that my being a practitioner would hurt his family. His father reported me. His sister and brother-in-law did not support my cultivation, and we had to file for divorce. Two years later, 13 cows that belonged to his family died overnight. Soon after, their house burned down. My ex-husband’s father died and his eldest sister divorced. His second brother-in-law had a car accident and lost more than 100,000 yuan. His children were disobedient and miserable. His family was afraid of losing money, but they still lost it. This was a result of their choices. No one can escape the universal principle of good being rewarded and evil being punished.
Falun Dafa is now practiced around the world. It benefits all beings and the entire world. The CCP virus has spread throughout the world, but I don’t know how many people understand the truth. I urge people to listen to Falun Dafa practitioners in China and abroad and remember, “Falun Dafa is good! Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good!”
The CCP has persecuted practitioners for 21 years, but practitioners continue to peacefully tell the world's people the truth—that Falun Dafa is here to save people. They expose the CCP’s lies that slander Dafa and Dafa disciples. This is an act of great kindness. I sincerely hope those officers that work in the legal and law enforcement department who still don’t know the truth or reject the truth, will immediately stop the persecution, distinguish right and wrong, and not associate with evil. I sincerely hope that people around the world can make the right choice that determines life or death, and withdraw from the CCP and its affiliated organizations. Please remember: Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good! Please treat Dafa disciples kindly and support Falun Dafa so you will have a bright future.
I am grateful to Master for his compassion and salvation in my 20 years of cultivation! I appreciate Master for saving sentient beings! I would like to thank fellow practitioners, relatives and friends who support me!