Having Compassion Helped Change My Husband
(Minghui.org) When the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) started persecuting kind Falun Gong practitioners, the standards for discerning right and wrong became reversed. People who were polluted by the CCP's lies and were indoctrinated for a long time had negative and distorted ways of thinking. It was not easy for them to change this attitude. My husband was such a person.
My Husband Opposed My Practice
Once the persecution started, the CCP used the media to spread rumors that slandered Falun Gong (also called Falun Dafa), and especially manipulated the public prosecution, legal, and judicial departments to consistently oppress Falun Gong practitioners. Under such circumstances, my husband opposed my practice and created many difficulties for me. He filed for divorce when I and other local practitioners were illegally detained and sentenced during the months leading up to the 2008 Beijing Olympics.
My husband brought me home and we resumed our marriage when I was released from jail in 2012. He often restricted my freedom and turned my home life into a small prison.
He was afraid of the CCP. In order to stop me from doing Falun Gong or meeting with practitioners, he constantly checked my belongings. If he found Falun Gong books or the mp3 player I used for practicing the exercises he hid them. I argued with him, stopped eating, and ran away from home because of his actions. I also wrote to him again and again explaining the goodness and preciousness of Falun Gong. I ran away from home twice and was selflessly helped by fellow practitioners.
On one occasion, a practitioner from another city came to see me and was met by my husband who had come home early from work. He not only refused to listen to her but also wanted to report her to the police. My daughter was at home and cried in shock at his behavior. My daughter’s friend convinced my husband to come back when he was on the way to the police station. He made a big fuss after returning home. My daughter and I decided to leave home, only then did he realize that he had gone too far. He eased his attitude after that.
Influencing Him with Compassion
Judging by his attitude at that time, I thought about giving up and leaving him alone. Since we are a family, we must have a predestined relationship. He also was under a lot of pressure from the evil persecution. He had lost his previously happy and stable family life. Because of the CCP’s persecution, I also lost an enviable job, which frustrated his vanity and made him resent me a lot.
I didn’t care about his attitude or resent him, but quietly endured everything. I still cared about him, cooked him delicious meals, bought the clothes he liked, and kept our house clean and tidy. Sometimes, I delivered food to him when he was on duty, which his colleagues envied. He was also very proud.
His attitude slowly changed and he no longer interfered with me. I was able to study the Falun Gong books and practice the exercises at home in an upright manner. When I clarified the facts about Falun Gong to our friends and relatives, he even helped me by saying a few words. We now lived in harmony the way we had before. Agents from the 610 Office, Political and Legal Affairs Committee, police station, and Community Office called me many times and came to my home to harass me especially after I initiated a lawsuit against Jiang Zemin (the former CCP leader) for launching the persecution. My husband rationally blocked their calls for me.
I taught him how to use the computer and log onto the Internet, preventing him from watching the CCP television programs. At first, he refused to read any articles about Falun Gong, so I read them to him and sent righteous thoughts to eliminate the bad factors behind him. Slowly, he began reading them himself and later took the initiative to break through the firewall to read the factual articles about Falun Gong and the persecution online. I copied articles describing how local practitioners were persecuted for him to read. Some of the people mentioned were very familiar to us. He read theNine Commentaries on the Communist Party, “About Jiang Zemin,” “We Tell the Future,” and so on.
He thoroughly accepted the facts about Falun Gong after that, and stopped his prejudice and hostility towards Dafa. He finally understood the evil nature of the CCP, hated Jiang Zemin’s persecution of Falun Gong, came to understand why I adhered to my faith and recognized the goodness of Dafa from his heart. He declared on the Minghui website that he had been deceived by the CCP lies, and therefore wanted to declare null and void all his previous words and deeds disrespecting Dafa and Master Li. He returned the Dafa books and mp3 player that he had hidden before.
Now he is a determined fan of NTD (New Tang Dynasty Television). Sometimes we watch videos and films about Dafa, television programs, expert forums, divine culture, etc. to melt away his atheistic thinking. We sometimes listen to recordings of Falun Gong’s founder, Master Li, lecturing on the Fa. His ways of thinking are slowly changing.
He often watches “Wuhan Pneumonia Tracking” now and listens to the Sound of Hope radio broadcasts. He likes to listen to or watch some critics' commentaries with a calm tone and rational analysis. He also likes some traditional historical stories. He said he felt like listening to a university professor lecturing. He constantly improves his mind and broadens his world view. His tone of speech has also calmed down. He looks peaceful and younger. He didn't do much housework before, but now he cleans the windows and washes the dishes. Our family atmosphere has become warm. If he sees the news on his mobile phone, he says it is all fake.
I said, “If you know it's fake, don’t read it. Don’t be deceived by its lies and avoid being polluted. Do not give it a market.” He then stopped reading the fake news.
Rewards My Family Received
My husband’s sisters and brothers witnessed the changes in him, and could see his healthy face and calm mind. All of them gained a positive view of Dafa and withdrew from the CCP’s three major organizations.
His second and third elder sisters listened to Master Li’s lectures. His third elder sister's leg ached. Through reciting “Falun Dafa is good; Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” the pain went away. I gave them small mp3 players, loaded with programs containing facts about Dafa such as, “The Spread of Dafa,” “Tiananmen Self-immolation Hoax,” and others. They all like to listen to the presentations.
His second younger brother was in a car accident, which caused his limbs to stiffen and he lost his ability to work. My husband and I went to visit him. His state of mind was very low, but he accepted the amulet and the information about Falun Gong, and he quit his membership in the CCP. He agreed to recite the Dafa phrases “Falun Dafa is good, and Truthfulness, Compassion, Forbearance is good,” and read the stories about those who received rewards after reciting those phrases. His health returned to normal after that. He also found a job that paid a higher salary. His son was hired by a bank, married, and had a beautiful son. Truly believing in Dafa, one will be blessed again and again.
Yesterday morning, my husband ran into a neighbor when he went on a walk. The neighbor said: “We are forbidden to go outside, but it is boring to stay at home. The TV programs are not interesting.”
My husband responded, “Yes, much of the news is fake. The government hasn't said where the pandemic started. It initially said it originated from a seafood market. But why wasn't it discovered for so many years, and was only found now? The CCP concluded that the pandemic came from bats for a while but later changed the source to a pangolin. Now that foreign countries are infected, it declared the United States was the source of the virus. When the USA disputed it the government then blamed it on Italy and Germany. Such a large country produces untrue news, and as a consequence, many people were killed.”
My husband received a blessing. His job went smoothly and his salary was raised every year. Some of his old health problems, like a herniated lumbar disc and indigestion, disappeared without any treatment.
Our daughter has a good family; both she and her husband have good jobs. Her husband's salary was raised during the economic downturn amidst the pandemic.
It is true that when one person practices Dafa, the whole family benefits!