Cultivating Kindness Brings Family Harmony
(Minghui.org) I was born into a peasant family and grew up amidst beatings and scolding. My mother was illiterate but became a leader in the Red Guard organization of the Chinese Communist Party during the Great Cultural Revolution. My mother’s temper was violent and I never felt the warmth of maternal love from her.
Through a go-between, I got married at the age of 20 and lived in a village not far from my home. I had imagined that I could have a mother-in-law who loved me and a husband who cared for me. But when I got married, I was treated like a maid. I was cooking for the whole family and hand-washing all their clothes. In the end, both my mother-in-law and husband looked down on me and beat me. After four years, I was divorced and wanted to become a nun. Later on, I met my current husband.
My husband and I quarreled about building a house in 1997. Awake all night, I thought to myself, “People are fighting for fame and profit. How great it would be to put these things aside!” The next morning, I went to visit a neighbor who was a Falun Dafa practitioner. I asked, “Can the Falun Dafa exercises help me let go of fame, profit, and affection?” She answered, “Yes, how do you know this?” I then asked my neighbor for a copy of the book Zhuan Falun. She was surprised that I was interested in learning about Falun Dafa.
I read Zhuan Falun eagerly and understood the principles of being a human being. In the process of reading the book, Master Li (the founder of Falun Dafa) purified my body and I felt as if a hand grabbed something from my head. I immediately became clearheaded, feeling comfortable all over. Unknowingly, my severe stomach disease was healed.
Then tests improving my character came one after another. The husband, who previously always cared for me, started to stop me from doing the exercises. When I returned from the practice site every day, he would punch and kick me. At first I couldn’t put up with him and fought with him even though I knew that this was a test for me.
Once I went to a fellow practitioner’s home to watch the video of Master Li’s lectures and my mother looked after my child for me. When I came back, my mother cried, telling me that she hadn’t cared for the child very well. Only then did I see that the child had fallen off the stove and burned his face. I knew this was a test of my love for the child and I was keeping calm in my heart.
When my husband returned home and discovered this situation, he started beating me. I remembered that Master said, “As practitioners, you won’t fight back when you’re beaten or sworn at. ” (Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
Without being affected, I went to a drugstore to buy some burn cream and applied it to the child’s face. My neighbors all said that my son’s face would be scarred. The boy did not have any pain during recovery and his face miraculously healed without any scarring.
One day I went out to the practice site, but no one was there because it was raining. I went home but couldn’t open the door to enter the house. My four-year-old told me that his father had nailed the door shut. I was soaked by rain, thinking: “Master tells us to consider others.” Outside I said to my husband: “Please open the door for me so that I can cook for you and after that you can go to work.” He opened the door but as soon as I entered the house, he began to hit me.
I kept telling him, “Don't be angry, I’ll cook for you.” and repeated Master Li’s words in my mind, “"When it’s difficult to endure, you can endure it. When it’s impossible to do, you can do it."” (Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
Every time I came back from the practice site, I would be beaten by my husband; he kept beating me for more than a year. It was difficult for me to pass this test. For more than a year, I dreamed many times at night that I was wearing ancient clothes and fighting with others with a sword in my hand. I also saw a man who had cultivated for more than three hundred years coming to compete with me.
After learning Falun Dafa, I realized that this dream had something to do with removing my attachment of competitiveness. Perhaps my husband’s behavior involved debts with him in my previous lives. This situation was also occurring to remove my love for him.
After thinking about it this way, every time my husband beat me again, I didn’t hate him anymore. I would treat him nicely without resentment or hatred. Every time I saw him helping me improve my character by beating me with anger, I would feel sorry for him.
Master said: “...because whoever has acquired the karma feels uncomfortable. It is guaranteed to be this way.” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)
With the kindness cultivated from Dafa, I cared about this man and considered his needs. My kindness finally moved my husband, and later he also began to practice Falun Dafa. We will never forget the day when he obtained the Fa. After watching the videos of Master’s lectures and learning the exercises, he was full of emotion and cried all night. After learning Falun Dafa, we think of others when coming across difficulties and our family is now in harmony.
My neighbors all say that we have changed for the better. They can see that Falun Dafa is really good and how it actually changed such a person as my husband. I thank Master for helping me and saving my family.
My husband was illegally arrested and detained in the district detention center for distributing information about Falun Dafa in 2002. I went to the police station to find the case officer and request my husband’s release. At that time, my sister-in-law and my cousin accompanied me, and we reasoned with them. Under the blessing of Master and support from my relatives, my husband returned home the next day.
The righteous actions of my cousin and sister-in-law in the rescue of my husband have brought them all blessings. My cousin earned more than 200,000 yuan from growing medicinal herbs that year. My eldest brother also prospered in his business. They all know that Falun Dafa is good!
After my father-in-law passed away, my mother-in-law came to live with us so I could care for her. She had become ill and had difficulty walking. I washed all her clothes and kept her clean and tidy without any complaints. Every time I washed her clothes, my mother-in-law would be so moved that she cried and said, “Even my own daughter does not take care of me so well.”
The kindness I have cultivated from Dafa has touched my mother-in-law’s family. They all know that Falun Dafa is good! One of my husband’s sisters has also come to learn Falun Dafa cultivation practice.