Resolving a Tough Situation Amicably with Master’s Teachings
(Minghui.org) I am 67 years old. I started practicing Falun Dafa in early 1996. Dafa has changed me from a sickly, arrogant, narrow-minded individual into a healthy, considerate, broad-minded cultivator.
In 1999, former head of the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) Jiang Zemin initiated a brutal persecution against Falun Dafa practitioners. In 2000, to escape arrest, I was forced to leave my family and became displaced for seven years. On July 2015, I submitted my criminal complaint to the Supreme People’s Procuartorate and the Supreme People’s Court to join the global movement to bring Jiang Zemin to justice.
Finding Dafa on the Brink of Despair
Before taking up Dafa cultivation practice, I suffered from a variety of illnesses, including gallstones, kidney stones, angina, constipation, stomach problems, nephritis, bronchitis, chronic pharyngitis, arthritis, lower back pain, and all kinds of gynecological diseases. I was pale and thin.
My angina started when I was in my 20s. Every time I had an attack, I would be rolling around in bed, crawling all over the place, sobbing for my parents in indescribable pain.
At the time, I would get an angina attack every few months or every year. As I grew older, the frequency increased to every few days. Each time, the pain would last over 10 hours. No amount of hospital visits or medication could help. I was in such desperation that I quietly made plans to end my life.
When I was on the brink of despair, I had the good fortune of being introduced to Falun Dafa. After I had merely watched three lectures of Master’s lectures in Jinan, before I even learned the exercises, Master already started to purify my body.
Many hard, brown, grain-like substances were discharged with my stool. I knew they were my kidney stones. After a short period of cultivation practice, the stones in my gallbladders also disappeared. From then on, my other diseases were all gone as well. I began to gain weight and felt full of energy. I began to walk with a spring in my step.
I have personally experienced the mighty power of Falun Dafa and the immense compassion of its founder, Master Li Hongzhi. Over the next 19 years, I have not once been sick.
Displaced for Seven Years
Like so many others, I had benefited from Dafa but was cruelly persecuted for practicing it. On August 31, 2000, I was arrested by the local police, detained for 48 days, put through five interrogation sessions, treated like a sub-human, and fed food not fit for pigs. Before I was let go, they even extorted from my family 1,200 yuan for my living expenses.
After I was released, the police continued to put me under surveillance. I was spied on and followed. My phone was tapped.
On January 2001, the local Political and Legal Affairs Committee, the local 610 Office, and the Domestic Security Division of the local police department together plotted my arrest. Merciful Master alerted me, and I made a narrow escape. From then on, I was forced to stay away for seven years. I couldn’t return home until 2008.
During this time, the local 610 Office harassed my husband several times in their attempts to force him to go look for me.
Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
I saw my husband for the first time in 2003 at a friend’s house. My husband confessed to me that he felt extremely lonely in the two years I was away. A former divorced colleague dropped in many times and suggested that he divorce me and live with her.
Before my cultivation practice, that would definitely have triggered an explosion. My husband used to have liver disease and needed to be hospitalized every year. After I started practicing Dafa, not only did my health and well-being improve, but my husband also stopped suffering pain and could stop going to the hospital. He fully understood and appreciated Dafa’s goodness and amazing power.
He told me he didn’t want to divorce me and had told the lady he would live with her as long as I was away, but as soon as I came home, he would sever his relationship with her. He shared that with me in hopes I could agree.
I was in shock but tried to stay calm. I told myself that I must look at the matter from the perspective of a Dafa cultivator and do everything in accordance with Dafa.
I said to him, “Thank you for trusting me to share even this with me. This is how I see things: as a married man, living together with another woman is immoral and illegal. If I agree, I would be an accomplice to a bad deed. You are the head of our household. You have to be a model for your son and daughter-in-law. I have no idea when I can come home. If you think the lady is good, I will give you a divorce. But you should not put your feet on two boats.”
My husband told me, “I don’t want a divorce. I will sever my relationship with her.”
When I was finally able to go home after several years, I found out that my husband had been living with the lady in her apartment that he had spent money to renovate. I didn’t let myself get affected, nor did I bring up the subject to question him.
Following Master’s Teachings to Handle a Tough Situation
I contemplated the situation calmly. I asked myself how, as a Dafa practitioner, I should handle everything. I knew things don’t happen by accident. What was I supposed to cultivate away? What attachments did I have to let go?
“Why do you encounter these problems? They are all caused by your own karma. We have already eliminated for you many, numerous pieces of it, leaving only that tiny bit which is divided into tribulations at different levels for upgrading your xinxing, tempering your mind, and removing your different attachments. These are all your own tribulations that we use to improve your xinxing, and you will be able to overcome them. As long as you upgrade your xinxing, you can overcome them. Unless you, yourself do not want to do so, you can make it, provided you want to overcome them.” (Zhuan Faun)
I realized that the only way was to follow Master’s teaching. If I knew somebody was doing something bad and did not speak up, I would be creating karma for myself as well. So, I must speak to them. But that wouldn’t be easy. What if they wouldn’t listen and became combative? I thought about another Fa principle Master taught:
“During the process of transforming karma, to keep yourself under control—unlike an everyday person who would mess things up—you should always maintain a heart of benevolence and a mind of kindness. If you suddenly bump into a problem, you will be able to take care of it properly. When you always maintain a heart of benevolence and compassion, you will have time or room to buffer the confrontation and think, should a problem arise suddenly.” (Zhuan Falun)
I waited for a suitable opportunity. When my husband was at home, I spoke to him quietly and calmly. But he wouldn’t say a word and remained silent as if he were stuck and tongue-tied.
I decided the only way was to speak to the lady directly. I asked a friend who knew the lady to let her know I wanted to speak to her, but he refused out of fear that there would be a fight, even though I promised him it wouldn’t happen.
So, I asked her neighbors for help. Finally, one of them agreed.
The evening I went to her apartment, she had her front door open and her lights on. Several of her friends were gathered in the apartment next door. I presumed they were ready to jump in to help.
I greeted her at the door with a genuine smile and asked after her and her son’s health. She relaxed a little and returned my greetings. She even offered me a cup of tea.
I closed her front door, sat down, and got right to the point: “I knew about you and my husband. I didn’t and won’t blame you. Let the past be the past. However, I think it would be best for you to sever your relationship with my husband. He keeps staying over but has no intention to marry you. This will negatively affect your reputation. You are still young. If somebody introduces you to a good man and he finds out your situation, he will definitely be turned off. Don’t you think what I say makes sense?”
I took the opportunity to tell her about Falun Dafa and how I was persecuted because I would not give up my practice of Dafa. I shared with her Master’s words:
“We believe that when one does something wrong to another person, one must give quite a lot of de as compensation.” (Zhuan Falun)
I hoped she would understand Dafa, treat Dafa disciples well, and enjoy a bright future.
She listened intently. We ended our conversation in harmony. She saw me to the door with a smile on her face. And, smiling, I bade her farewell.
After our talk, the lady cut off her relationship with my husband. Three months later, someone introduced her to a suitable candidate. They got married and moved away to start life and a business.
I still remember clearly my pigheadedness before taking up cultivation in Dafa. For me to be able to talk to a potential adversary in such a compassionate and rational way would have been next to impossible.
I deeply appreciate how Dafa’s mighty power can change a person to such a degree and how Dafa can rectify everything.