(Clearwisdom.net)
Toward the end of 2003, my husband started a relationship with another woman. This incident made me lose control of myself. Although I was doing Fa-rectification work, deep inside my heart, I wouldn't bury my deep resentment and hatred for them. The resultant effect in my cultivation was that the evil took advantage of this gap. At the beginning of 2004, I was forced to become homeless, going from place to place to avoid being arrested. The public security bureau issued a warrant for my arrest. They also posted the arrest warrant on the Internet. In spite of all my efforts, I was still arrested and sent to a detention center.
After this painful experience, I finally calmed down and looked inside to examine myself.
I found out that my actions and thoughts actually facilitated my husband's extramarital affair. For example, I often commented in front of my friends, colleagues, and relatives about our wonderful marriage. In August of 2003, my niece even said to me, "Your relationship with uncle is really very intimate." I proudly responded and showed off that this was the result of our loving understanding of each other and that we never ever had any quarrels and conflicts with each other. As I was lost and deeply immersed in the expression of emotion between man and woman, the old forces perceived it as a gap in my cultivation practice and said, "A Dafa disciple takes sentimentality to be so important! How can she be allowed to continue cultivation practice this way?"
To make me stumble and not succeed, they made my husband turn wicked, and made my heart ache because of it. They made me become resentful, grievous, and feel pain and suffering until I fell and did not behave in the most upright way, the way a Dafa disciple should.
Actually, at this last stage of the Fa-rectification period, Dafa disciples all understand the Fa principles reasonably well. If one is immersed in such strong sentiments in one's cultivation, it is impossible to reach consummation. We are cultivators walking the path to godhood; shouldn't we abandon attachments and desires in this human world in our cultivation? We must hurry to let go of our human mentality and keep up with the pace of Fa-rectification. We must clearly recognize our mission. Master Said:
"Think about it, doesn't every Dafa disciple represent a different gigantic cosmic body? If that's the case, doesn't whether a Dafa disciple cultivates well or poorly determine whether those gigantic cosmic bodies' beings get saved or not?" (Touring North America to Teach the Fa)
Master also said:
"Whether you are able to treasure this period of time is, in fact, a matter of whether you can be responsible to yourselves. This period of time will not last long, but it can forge the mighty virtue of magnificent Enlightened Beings, Buddhas, Daos, and Gods of different levels, and even Lords of different levels. It can also destroy overnight a cultivator who has reached a really high level but who has become less strict with himself." ("Fa-Rectification Period Dafa Disciples")
With this understanding, a sense of benevolent realization filled my heart, and I no longer felt discontent and resentment.
This March, I was reunited with my husband. I resolutely reminded myself to become a diligent practitioner, to use the mighty Fa to correct myself, to use a Dafa disciple's compassion and magnanimity to rectify all abnormalities and to benevolently forgive my husband's wrongdoing in the past, so that he could be saved. At the same time, I decided that I must try to save this woman. One night in the middle of March, at about 2 a.m. in the morning, the lady called over the phone and angrily demanded to speak to my husband. In return, I asked her who she was; she replied that she was my husband's spouse. I did not get angry. I remained calm and patient, without losing a Dafa disciple's dignity and composure. I replied, " Its too late at night right now, could we reserve a time tomorrow to talk about it?" From the next day onward, no matter how hard I tried, I could not reach her over the telephone.
This year in mid May, I finally met this lady. During the meeting, she made a lot of caustic remarks with an ill intention to instigate trouble. However, my heart remained resolute and clear. The test before me was to see if I could be moved. Although the message was spoken from the mouth of this woman, in reality, it was the old forces that controlled and manipulated her to say these things. I continued to send forth righteous thoughts, eliminating the dark minions and the evil behind her. I also understood that if my thoughts were righteous, it would empower me with the ability to save the many sentient beings in the huge colossal firmament. I remained calm and in control, I sounded neither vindictive nor angry. Benevolently, I explained to her the principles of karmic retribution, that what one sows, so shall one reap. She was moved to tears by my immense compassion. Earnestly she said to me, "Allow me to call you big sister; you are the most broadminded person I ever met or saw. I admire and respect you deeply from the bottom of my heart. In the past, I have harmed you, but from now on, I will not repeat what I did to any other third party. Unconditionally, I fully submit myself to you. You are a great woman. Allow me to wish you true happiness." I told this woman that it was the teachings of Falun Dafa that enabled me to forgive others. I was really happy for this woman.
My husband was also moved by my immense forbearance that he started to feel ashamed for what he did. He admitted that he was obsessed at that time and that it was a great blunder and mistake on his part. He couldn't understand how he could have such injurious behavior and harm me so. He felt that everything was like a nightmare. Now, he tells everyone he meets, "Thanks to Falun Gong for saving my family. If my wife had not practiced Falun Gong, and acted according to her bad temperament before learning the practice, she would absolutely never have forgiven me." Now, when I go out to clarify the truth to others, he urges me to be careful. He has also expressed interest in learning Falun Gong.
Our colleagues and friends know that I am a Falun Gong practitioner. Due to my great forbearance in the handling of the extramarital affair, their outlook toward Dafa also changed. Typically, they are older people. For example one said, " I have lived through these 80 years, and have never seen such a magnanimous woman. The effect and power of Falun Gong is really great."
Being a Fa-rectification Dafa Disciple, we must truly conform all our actions with truthfulness, treat others with compassion and benevolence and handle all matters with great tolerance and forbearance. We must use our actions and words to manifest a Dafa disciples' magnanimity and to confirm and validate that Falun Gong is great.
June 7, 2005
