My Husband Helped Me Let Go of My Attachment to Sentimentality

(Minghui.org) I used to be a selfish person, but after I began practicing Falun Dafa, I improved a great deal mentally as well as physically. Master Li asks us to consider others when we encounter issues, look within when we face conflicts, and assimilate to the characteristic of the universe: Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I follow Master’s requirements and let go of fame, personal gain, and sentimentality.

Falun Dafa has been slandered and persecuted by the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) for more than 26 years. Practitioners do not yield to its brutality and endure great difficulty to continue helping Master save sentient beings. Because I hadn’t done well in studying the Fa and cultivating myself, I was repeatedly persecuted, which caused my family and friends a lot of fear and suffering.

I was illegally arrested again in 2024 and put in a detention center. Two weeks after I returned home, my husband was drinking one evening and said, “All these years, I’ve been living in fear because of you. Let’s get a fake divorce like other people do. We’ll still live together, but when they come to harass us again, it’ll be easier for me to deal with them and get them to quit harassing me. On sensitive dates, you leave. When things quiet down, you can come home.”

I recalled that Master said: “Stopping society’s downward slide” (“Universal Illumination,” Hong Yin Volume II). Then I thought, “The evil uses people to persecute practitioners, which is destroying them. I must not fall for this.” I sent forth righteous thoughts to eliminate all evil beings, dark minions, rotten demons, and the communist evil specter that manipulate my family to persecute me.

I felt that my own dimensional field contained fear and improper factors, which created a negative field around those who knew me—that’s why my husband said what he did. I needed to rectify my incorrect thoughts. My husband endured a lot of hardship: He was afraid to spend the money he earned. He skipped meals to save money for our child’s wedding, which compromised his health, and he lived in constant fear because I was persecuted. Even when I was displaced, he and our child helped me with Dafa work.

I said clearly and firmly, “Think it over carefully. If we divorce, I will leave this home and never come back. I cannot do like those people who divorce but still live together.”

He said, “What’s wrong with that? Everyone does it. Besides, who can stand being harassed all the time?”

I said, “That’s what other people do—not me. If we divorce, I will leave and never come back.”

He said, “What about the savings account with your name on it and the property certificate issue for the house?” (We never transferred the property certificate after buying the house.)

I said, “We can change the savings account to your name. As for the property certificate, I’ll come back at the end of the year and go with you to handle it. Put everything in your name. I don’t want anything. Would that satisfy you?”

“Do you mean it?” he asked. When I said I did, he had nothing more to say.

That night, I couldn’t sleep. I thought, “It’s a great honor to practice Falun Dafa. Fame, gain, and sentimentality don’t mean anything. What can you take with you? They are all fleeting clouds in the human world. As long as I have Dafa in my heart, that is enough. I must rectify my thoughts and actions and not let my husband commit crimes against Falun Dafa or practitioners. He is a being who came for the Fa, and is waiting to be saved. Hasn’t he protected me all these years? Despite his poor health, he went to the petition office to file complaints against the police for violating procedures. He’s protected Dafa books and other materials and even argued with the police. Now, he’s being manipulated by the evil to persecute a practitioner, leaving me with no place to stay. The evil’s ultimate goal is to destroy sentient beings like him. Master wants us to save people. If people see that I cultivate Dafa but don’t even have a home, who would believe Dafa is good? Cultivating Dafa brings blessings—how could one end up with nothing? Wouldn’t that be falling into the old forces’ trap?”

I sent righteous thoughts to eliminate the communist specter and any interference that was manipulating my family members to persecute Dafa practitioners. I also cleared out the evil beings in other dimensions that were using my family to interfere with my cultivation and cleared the evil factors in my family’s dimensional fields so that they could become good people who conform to Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I asked Master to save them. At the same time, I looked inward and eliminated my attachments to sentimentality, jealousy, resentment, selfishness, carelessness, and other human attachments.

The next morning, as soon as we got up, my husband asked, “Are we going to get the divorce today?”

I said, “It’s your call. I’ll do as you say.”

He said, “All right. Let’s get the divorce then.” I made breakfast as usual.

He said, “Why aren’t you sad or upset? It seems like you don’t cherish our relationship.”

I said, “You’re the one who wants the divorce. All the money and the house are yours. What else do you want me to say? I am able to lose everything, and I will have no regrets. You know I was poor health, but since I have been practicing Dafa, I am healthy, free of illness, and I feel great. And I consider others first in everything I do. So I will cultivate Dafa to the end.”

Actually, I was suffering inside about the thought of divorce. Behind his back, my tears flowed uncontrollably. But I reminded myself that I had to act according to the Fa’s requirements, not argue with him, and treat him kindly. He is also a being to be saved. What a great predestined relationship it is for him to be my husband in this lifetime. I must cherish it. His behavior was an opportunity for me to improve my xinxing. I had to seize this chance and not let it slip away.

My husband suggested we start by going to the bank to change the name on the savings account and then get the divorce.

I said, “Fine, I’ll do whatever you say.”

Along the way, I acted as if everything was normal, and I spoke to him without resentment. When we got to the bank and asked if we could change the name on the account, the banker said, “Yes, but your deposit is about to mature. You’ll lose a lot of interest. Interest rates are low now. Think it over.”

I asked my husband if he still wanted to make the change. He said, “Let’s not change it.” Just like that, he didn’t mention divorce again, and we went home as if nothing had happened.

I know I haven’t cultivated well. From now on, I will definitely study the Fa more, cultivate myself well, do the three things well, and follow Master home.