Falun Dafa Resolved My Deep Resentment Against My In-Laws

(Minghui.org) After I began practicing Falun Dafa, many of my illnesses disappeared. For over twenty years, I haven’t taken a single pill or had a single injection. I feel light and healthy—this is a manifestation of Dafa’s extraordinary power. Falun Dafa not only gave me a healthy body, but also uplifted me spiritually. It resolved the deep resentment I had toward my in-laws and our home is warm, and peaceful.

Conflicts with My In-Laws

When my husband and I married we lived with my in-laws—father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, and sister-in-law—six people lived in a cramped 35-square-meter [about 380 square-feet] apartment. All the housework fell on me, but no matter how much I did, my mother-in-law still treated me like an outsider. She never let her son do any chores. When my husband helped me cook, she said, “Since when do men cook?” My father-in-law didn’t catch her meaning and replied, “Who said? I cook.” She would glare at him. My husband only helped when his mother wasn’t around, and the moment she returned, he stopped. I felt so stifled.

I caught a severe cold. My whole body ached, and I shivered from the cold. I went to bed and covered myself with a quilt. My mother-in-law snapped, “What’s the big deal about a cold? When I was young, I had to eat frozen sorghum rice and haul coal. You think you can just lie down?” Facing a mother-in-law like her, I could only swallow my frustration and endure. I felt deeply suppressed.

My parents-in-law had a small street stall. The city management officers often confiscated their scales or merchandise, and they were constantly harassed. They toiled from dawn to dusk to earn a little money—it wasn’t easy. I sympathized with them, but it also made them extremely stingy.

My father-in-law pulled out a notebook and told me, “All the furniture, wedding expenses, banquet, and other costs added up to 20,000 yuan. That’s the debt you owe me.” I was shocked. I thought wedding expenses were a gift. Our child was a few years old—how could we still owe a debt from our wedding? And what about the wedding gift money they collected from the guests? I felt a storm of emotions churning inside me.

I wanted to reason with him, but he was an elder—and my father-in-law. Since he insisted I owed money, I had to repay them. But the more I thought about it, the more it hurt: Didn’t this mean I paid for my own wedding. They didn’t spend a cent—instead profited from the gift money. My resentment kept boiling inside me.

Although I paid off this so-called debt, it left a searing mark on my heart. It became a grievance I couldn’t let go of.

A Stroke of Good Fortune

The pressure of life and work, along with the stress of living with my in-laws destroyed my health. I tried Chinese and Western medicine but nothing could help me. Just when I was on the verge of paralysis and lost all hope, I was extremely fortunate to find Falun Dafa.

After I started practicing Dafa, my health was restored within a few months. I felt refreshed and full of joy beyond words. Master taught me to follow Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance, to be a good person, always consider others first, and to be selfless and altruistic. The once gloomy expression on my face was replaced with a joyful smile. I became strict with myself, tolerant of others, kind, and generous. I finally found the true meaning of life and stepped onto the path of returning to my true origin.

Resolving Past Grudges

Master said, “...you cannot Consummate if you do not love your enemies.” (“Teachings at the Conference in Canada”) I followed Master’s words strictly. The deep resentment I once had toward my parents-in-law gradually faded. I started to treat them with sincerity, caring for and understanding them. I took responsibility for things inside and outside the home and never fussed over personal gain or loss.

My in-laws bought a storefront and had a decent business. My husband’s younger brother married a woman from the countryside who didn’t have a job, so they both worked for my mother-in-law. Over time, the couple began to covet the business and wanted to take it over. Of course, my in-laws disagreed. The brother then threatened to jump off a high-rising building, causing chaos in the family. He even got into physical fights with his parents multiple times. My husband and I had to step in to mediate. Eventually, my in-laws handed over the business they run for over a decade to the younger brother. But that wasn’t enough—he also seized their storefront property.

When my in-laws became ill, the young couple completely ignored them. They claimed, “We’re only the second son and his wife, the older brother should take care of them!” Hearing it, my husband exploded with rage and yelled at his parents: “See? You gave them all your money, and now they don’t care. We’ve put up with this for years, and now we won’t anymore. Go ask them for help instead.”

My mother-in-law knew she was in the wrong but replied, “Doesn’t your wife practice Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance? You should be tolerant.” That really set my husband off. He shouted hysterically, “So you’re bullying a good people now? Just because she can endure, why should I? Let’s sort this out today! You gave them the business and property worth over a million, and now that you’re sick, they ignore you. And you still expect me to take care of you? Why should I?

“And you!” he turned to his younger brother, “Where was my share when you took the money? But now you expect me to care for them? You think you’re the only one our parents raised? Do you even know your place in the family? When we got married, we had no house, no land—our parents didn’t help us at all and even made money from the wedding gifts. But when you got married, they did everything and even gave you a house. Now you’ve taken over the most valuable property, and when our parents are ill, you say it’s not your responsibility? Are you wolves? What do you take me for—a fool or a pushover?”

Seeing they were about to fight, I pulled my husband away to avoid the fighting to go further.

My husband’s outburst was everything I bottled up for years. I, too, felt deeply wronged. My in-laws were so biased, and the younger brother’s family crossed every line. They treated us as if we didn’t exist. Our tolerance made them take everything for granted.

As a cultivator, I should hold myself to a higher standard and let go of human attachments. Master’s profound teachings helped me see through it all. My in-laws and the younger brother’s behavior gave me a perfect opportunity to let go of my attachment to personal gain. I must be a true cultivator and rise above by relinquishing my interest in these things.

So I told my husband, “All this fuss is over money, but wealth is just something external. It’s not worth turning against family for it. If you lose your temper and make our elderly parents even sicker, the karma you’d create would be enormous. They’re sick now, and the younger brother’s family only cares about money and won’t help. Are we really going to be heartless like them? Besides, if you fall ill from anger, wouldn’t that make things worse? Don’t be mad. You’re the older brother—set a good example. I’m a cultivator, Master teaches us to be better people and always consider others. They are our relatives. If I can let it go, you can too. Let’s just move on and treat them kindly as always.”

Master’s teachings also helped my husband let go of what was weighing on his heart. He slowly calmed down and sighed, “Falun Dafa really is good. Anyone else would call me a coward. Thank you for being so forgiving—you’ve suffered a lot.” I said, “We should both thank Master!” He replied, “Yes, we should thank Master.” Since then, we’ve continued to treat my in-laws and younger brother’s family kindly, and our big family now lives in harmony.

Gratitude

When my mother-in-law was hospitalized, I took care of her. I clarified the truth to the other patients in the ward. My mother-in-law even helped me talk to them, saying, “My daughter-in-law used to be very sick. She’s doing so well now thanks to her practice. Falun Dafa is really great.”

The other patients listened and told my mother-in-law, “If you hadn’t said anything, we would have thought she was your daughter. These days it’s rare to see such a good relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You’re truly blessed!”

My mother-in-law replied happily, “Yes, yes! You couldn’t ask for a better daughter-in-law—she’s one in a million! She always puts others first and never fights for the good things. I’m truly content and grateful!”

My mother-in-law has diabetes and would sometimes get dizzy. I often reminded her to sincerely recite, “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”

One time she said, “Here’s 500 yuan. Use it to offer more incense to Master Li on my behalf and thank him for me.”

I asked her why. She said, “One night I suddenly felt everything spinning—the whole house was turning—and I couldn’t even call out. I felt like I was dying. So I called out in my heart: ‘Master Li Hongzhi, please save me! I can’t die yet!’ Within minutes, I was fine again. It was Master Li who saved my life. How can I not thank him? Please use this money to burn more incense and thank him for me!”

I was deeply moved. My mother-in-law received blessings from Dafa, and she was sincerely grateful to Master. Her life had truly been saved.

I thank Master for his boundless compassion. As long as people acknowledge Dafa, they will receive Master’s protection. What a magnificent grace this is—and what immense good fortune it brings people!

There are no words to fully express my gratitude for Master’s immense grace. The only way I can repay it is by studying the Fa well, truly cultivating myself with steadfast determination, doing the three things well, and helping Master save more sentient beings. Only then will I be worthy of the title of a Dafa disciple. Once again, I respectfully thank Master from the bottom of my heart!