Dafa Has Made Me Tolerant and Kind

(Minghui.org) I was born into an atheist family, and my parents had bad tempers. As a child, I was weak and often sick, which put a lot of stress on them. Because of it, they frequently took their frustration out on me, beating me and saying hurtful things. Over time I became introverted and had low self-esteem. I didn’t understand the meaning of life, and I often thought about leaving the secular world and becoming a nun.

As a child, I did well in school, especially in Chinese language studies, which seemed to come naturally to me. My teachers liked me, and my Chinese teacher treated me especially well—many people said she was like a mother to me. However, due to the emotional wounds inflicted by my parents and other hardships, I became increasingly introverted and depressed. My health deteriorated, and my memory declined. By the time I graduated from high school, I was only able to enroll in a vocational school.

It was near this school that I was introduced to Falun Dafa. There was a Falun Dafa practice site near our campus, and I did the exercises and studied the Fa with other practitioners every day. That was the happiest time of my life. The sky looked bluer, the clouds drifted peacefully, and the birds chirped joyfully in the trees—everything was so beautiful. Other practitioners, whether elderly or middle-aged, showed me great kindness. They would cook delicious meals for me and invite me to eat at their homes. They noticed that my shoes were worn out, and they bought me new shoes. They even let me stay with them. I was surrounded by love and warmth, and my heart felt truly happy and fulfilled. This was my firsthand experience of the kindness taught by Master. Given my personal experience, I can tell people with certainty that Falun Dafa practitioners are kind and respectable individuals.

However, on July 20, 1999, the former Chinese Communist Party (CCP) leader Jiang Zemin, out of jealousy and personal motives launched a brutal persecution against these kindhearted people. Many practitioners lost their lives, countless families were torn apart, and loved ones were separated. Even more horrifying, the regime has been engaging in organ harvesting from living practitioners, committing crimes never before seen on this planet. This persecution is a blatant attack on human morality and justice. Only by ending the persecution of Falun Dafa can humanity find true hope and a way forward.

Treating My Husband and In-Laws with Kindness

After the persecution was launched I was under immense pressure—from both the terrifying atmosphere created by the CCP and from my own family. I became deeply depressed. Later on, I got married. However, my husband had a bad temper. We frequently argued and even physically fought. Many times, he beat me so badly that my face was bruised and swollen. It felt as if we were enemies from a past life, constantly hurting each other.

One night, just as I stepped out of the house, he locked me outside. As a young woman alone in the dark with nowhere to go, I was terrified. From that day on, I often checked to make sure I had my keys before going out, fearing he might lose control and do something irrational again.

One time, he stayed out very late, and I anxiously called him to come back home. When he finally returned, I started complaining. In response, he recorded a video of me and showed it to the woman he had been chatting with, telling her how bad I was. Whenever I lost my temper, he recorded my voice. I had no idea what he intended to do with those recordings. My home no longer felt safe, and I was utterly exhausted—both physically and emotionally.

Some practitioners overseas clarified the truth to me online, and it awakened me in 2004. I am deeply grateful for Master’s compassion. If it weren’t for those practitioners, I don’t know how much longer I would have remained lost in worldly suffering. From that moment on, I resumed my cultivation journey of returning to my true self.

I had accumulated so much resentment in my heart. According to Dafa’s teachings, I knew I had to let go of it, but this was a difficult process of cultivation. My husband often chatted with other women online, stayed out late, and sometimes he wouldn’t come home at all. He frequently got drunk, played mahjong, and sang at karaoke bars. Meanwhile, we were struggling financially, had no house of our own, and lived with our young child in a rental house without heat in winter. My husband refused to do any housework. I had to work in our business, take care of the household chores, and look after our child, leaving me completely overwhelmed. Yet, he continued to indulge himself, often getting drunk, abusing me and our child, and yelling at us with harsh words. This was my family life.

Letting go of my resentment was not easy at first. I often cried over my suffering and felt that life was unfair. But I reminded myself to follow Master’s teachings. Not only did I need to stop hating my husband, but I had to genuinely thank him. I needed to treat him with kindness from my heart and to understand the difficulties he faced.

Gradually, I started to change. When he lost his temper, I no longer argued or fought back. I stopped resenting him and began to understand his struggles. I did his laundry, cooked for him, and took care of his daily needs—not with bitterness as I had done before, but now with a cheerful heart. I no longer tried to control his life or insist that I was right. I realized that everyone comes into this world with their own karma and fate, and many things are beyond our control. What I could do was to treat him with kindness, let him experience the goodness of Dafa, and hope that he could be saved when the great catastrophe arrived.

We invited my in-laws to live with us, which helped me eliminate many modern, distorted notions. Previously, I didn’t want to live with them, kept a distance from them, and resisted their influence. Given Master’s teachings, I learned to respect and care for my in-laws and be patient and tolerant. My thinking gradually returned to traditional values, aligning with Dafa’s principles.

Now, my husband has become more responsible and family-oriented. A friend once asked him, “You’re always out and about—do you have another woman?” He replied, “I would never do that. My wife is so good to me—how could I betray her?” When my friend told me about their conversation, I was deeply moved. Falun Dafa saved my once-broken family and dissolved my resentment and karmic ties.

Falun Dafa Helped Me Let Go of Personal Grievances

I have a younger sister who married well and is wealthy. In our city, where housing prices are relatively high, she owns several properties and commercial spaces. She enjoys both financial stability and leisure, often traveling, dining out, and having fun with friends. In contrast, I struggled financially, worked tirelessly every day, and bore heavy family responsibilities. My parents and sister look down on me. My sister often mocks me for having less than she does, as well as ridiculing and belittling me. As for offering me any help or support, that is entirely out of the question. My parents frequently mentioned the things my sister gave them, yet they seemed to ignore all that I did for them.

I now no longer dwell on these things. Instead, I wholeheartedly care for my parents, buy them necessities, give them money, and stay with them when they are ill. When my sister was injured, I took care of her. I shared the goodness of Falun Dafa with them, without minding how they treated me. My only hope is that they can be saved by Falun Dafa. My sister has renounced her memberships in the CCP Youth League and Young Pioneers, and my parents have accepted Dafa’s protective amulets and the truth-clarification calendars. Helping them be saved through Falun Dafa is my mission. As for everything else, I leave it to fate. Everything follows its due course. Debts should be repaid, and kindnesses that should be returned will naturally be.

Falun Dafa has brought me inner peace and serenity. I am grateful for everyone I encountered—those who treated me well gave me confidence and courage, while others who created hardships for me helped me purify myself, eliminating many attachments, which made me more tolerant and kind. I sincerely thank Master for his compassion!