(Minghui.org) I initially avoided and ignored the community worker, but we occasionally see each other since we are neighbors. I thought my coldness would only increase her misunderstanding of practitioners—I should be benevolent and kind so she would be less deceived by the Chinese Communist Party’s (CCP) lies.
I began greeting her whenever I saw her and reminded her to drive safely. Although she still brings the police to my house, she no longer slanders Dafa in front of my mother. Perhaps her perception of Dafa has changed.
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Greetings, Compassionate Master! Greetings, fellow practitioners!
I was born in the 1980’s and I’m an only child. Falun Dafa taught me the meaning of life, and the Fa principles guided me to walk my cultivation path and improve my character. I’d like to share my cultivation experiences during the 22nd China Fa Conference on Minghui.org. I am grateful to Master and fellow practitioners!
I was indoctrinated by the CCP’s ideology since childhood, and I developed a strong combative personality. I clashed with my family, coworkers, and even strangers when things didn’t go my way.
I remember driving on the left lane on a two-lane highway one day, and the vehicle behind me wanted to pass me and kept honking. I thought it was extremely rude, and my combativeness flared up. I slammed on the accelerator to prevent the driver from getting ahead of me. We drove side by side for a short stretch. I slowed down as we approached a curve, and my car kept swaying as it decelerated.
I never experienced this before. I stepped on the brakes, gripped the steering wheel tightly, and fought to regain control. My car stabilized about three feet away from the road divider, and I was able to drive at a normal speed.
I was terrified and my heart pounded hard. I can still feel shivers down my spine whenever I think about it. I had a Falun Dafa amulet in my car that said “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” I was grateful that Master protected me!
I looked inward after the incident and realized I had to eliminate my attachments to combativeness, resentment, and the CCP’s influence!
Cultivate Forgiveness, Tolerance, and Understanding
I teach at an elementary school, and the teachers at our grade level are required to help other teachers grade exams at the end of the semester.
The coordinator went to inquire about the grading arrangement, and I waited for her to notify me about where we would go to grade the exams. I waited in the office for three hours but didn’t hear from her. She finally returned by the end of the workday and said she had graded the exams.
When I asked her why she didn’t inform me about the location, she replied, “I assumed you knew.” I felt resentful and without saying a word, I grabbed my bag and left. On the way home, I was worried the director might reprimand me for not doing my job. But the director didn’t ask me about it and I felt relieved.
Afterwards I ignored the coordinator and thought, “She’s the person in charge, so how could she treat me like that? She steps on me and curries favor with the superiors. So shameless!” I pretended I didn’t hear her when she spoke to me, and limited my time in the office to avoid her.
By the end of the day, I started to feel uneasy. I thought I was wrong and knew my attachment to competitiveness surfaced. There were only a few locations to grade exams and I should have looked myself. I was lazy and I wanted others to do the work.
I changed my attitude the next day and made amends with the coordinator. I did whatever she asked me to do.
Another semester had passed, and when it was time to grade exams at the end of the semester, the coordinator was at the hospital for a follow-up appointment. I found the location and sent her a message telling her where it was so she wouldn’t worry, and she thanked me for doing so.
Managing an Unruly Class
Before the winter break was over, the director for my grade level asked me to be the assistant class teacher in another class. My class was the most disciplined and trouble-free group of students. The students in the newly assigned class were unruly and often fought with each other.
Two students in the class I was assigned to got into a fight under two teachers’ supervision when they were in first grade. One of the students’ hands was fractured. The parents blamed the school for inadequate supervision and refused to accept any responsibility. The school administrators and the teacher spent a lot of time and effort to resolve the issue. Because of the incident, the class was ineligible for the “Safe Classroom” award.
I was upset and wondered why I was assigned to an unruly class? My father came home when I was about to turn down the assignment. When I complained to him, he scolded me. He said I wasn’t putting my heart into my job, and suggested that I try. I felt he was right and I decided it was time to get rid of my attachments to complacency and comfort. My coworkers worked hard, so how could I expect to have it easy?
I worked hard to manage the class. When the class teacher was in a meeting during lunch break, I was required to supervise the class and show films that promoted the CCP’s ideology of “falsehood, malice, and strife.” I didn’t want to be on the evildoer’s side, thus I refused to show the films.
I looked at “Ganjing World,” a website developed by Dafa practitioners, and found films that were educational. The students liked them and watched them attentively.
The Chinese people are deeply influenced by the CCP’s propaganda, so, I like to read articles on the Minghui website on how to educate the young. The stories inspired wisdom and kindness within me. I avoid using a commanding tone of voice, and I explain things and minimize my criticism when I teach the students.
The students in the unruly class gradually became less disruptive and more thoughtful. They made progress and earned the “Safe Classroom” award this semester. They were very happy.
Seeing their progress gave me great satisfaction. I’m glad I didn’t turn down the opportunity to be the assistant class teacher. It was Falun Dafa that transformed me and helped me improve my work environment. Thank you, Master!
Eliminate My Attachment to Combativeness and Treat My Family with Kindness
My husband and I have been married for nearly five years. As time went on, I began to have conflicts with my in-laws.
When my husband and I got married, my father spent over four million yuan to buy and renovate a house in the city. My in-laws didn’t contribute anything, so I thought they should be grateful and treat me well.
But things turned out differently. My mother-in-law constantly praised her younger daughter, and often made sarcastic remarks about me. She complained that I worked too much and rarely had a meal with her. The rift between us grew.
The most unforgivable thing happened at the end of 2021. Before our marriage, my in-laws assured me the house belonged solely to my husband and me. Yet less than a year after our wedding, my parents-in-law gave the three south-facing rooms to my older sister-in-law. Her family changed the orientation of the door, enclosed the courtyard, and rented it out.
Because of the COVID lockdown, I was confined in the city for a month. By the time I returned to my in-laws’ home, my sister-in-law had already finished the remodeling. No one told me about it during my absence, and my resentment and anger surged instantly. I argued with my husband, accused his family of deceit, and a deep rift formed between my in-laws and me.
Since I’m a practitioner, I knew I shouldn’t argue with my in-laws regardless of what happened. So I stayed in my room, went to my parents, or lived in the city when I was upset to avoid contact and minimize the friction with my in-laws. Yet every time I returned to my in-laws and saw the south-facing rooms, my heart ached and was filled with resentment.
I recognized my resentment stemmed from jealousy. I couldn’t bear seeing my sisters-in-law living better than me. My behavior was unbecoming of a cultivator. Perhaps I owed my in-laws in a past life and had to pay them back in this lifetime. This calmed my tumultuous heart.
My mother-in-law fell ill this summer and was hospitalized. I made steamed sweet potatoes and corn and brought them to her. My younger sister-in-law was in the room, and was surprised and touched to see me. I greeted her warmly and we talked about my mother-in-law’s condition.
We were both a bit reserved at first, but she was more relaxed when she sensed my sincerity and goodwill. We walked downstairs together when the visiting hour ended, and reminded each other to go home safely. The wall between us disappeared.
My husband and sisters-in-law had to work the next day, so no one could visit my mother-in-law. I brought her two freshly baked moon cakes from the bakery and she was delighted. When the visiting hour ended, she had the caregiver help her see me out.
My compassion emerged when I noticed she needed help walking. I thought I did poorly in my cultivation, and couldn’t even awaken my relatives. I felt ashamed in front of Master!
I realized that we are one family, and no one should be left out. We should be understanding of each other and maintain family harmony to improve our work and living conditions.
I couldn’t stand spending a single day at my in-laws’ house in the past because of my mother-in-law’s words and behavior. My heart was filled with resentment, and I found any excuse to leave.
Now when I stay at her house for a few days, I reject my resentful thoughts and study the Fa more to calm my heart. My father-in-law likes to listen to the radio. Depending on what he listens to, I tell him about the wrongdoings committed by the CCP. He agrees with me and says, “The Communist Party is the worst!”
I No Longer Resent the Authorities Who Harass Us
My mother is also a practitioner. The officers from the 610 Office have harassed her since the CCP launched the persecution of Falun Dafa in July 1999. My father beat my mother whenever they came to harass her, turning our home into hell. I hated the officers for not being able to tell right from wrong and for carrying out the CCP’s orders.
After reading Master’s teachings and practitioners’ sharing articles, I came to understand that they too have been deceived by the CCP’s lies, which caused them to commit wrongdoing. The village community worker lives right across from my house. She has led police officers to my house many times, harassed my mother, and asked for my phone number. But my mother refused.
At first, I avoided and ignored her, but we occasionally saw each other since we are neighbors. I thought my coldness would only deepened her misunderstanding of practitioners, so I should be benevolent and let her feel my kindness so she would be less deceived by the CCP’s lies.
I greet her whenever I see her and remind her to drive safely. Although she still brings the police to my house, she no longer slanders Dafa in front of my mother. Perhaps her perception of Dafa has changed.
Practitioners and I should send forth righteous thoughts more often to eliminate the bad elements that manipulate the local authorities. We should clarify the truth to the officers to awaken them and lessen the persecution.
I still have deep-seated attachments to resentment, combativeness, and I’m influenced by the CCP. They are barriers to a good relationship with others and obstacles to validate the Fa. I plan to study the Fa with diligence, improve myself, get rid of resentment and selfishness, cultivate compassion, and fulfill my prehistoric vow!
My cultivation level is limited. Please kindly point out if anything I’ve said is not in line with the Fa.
Thank you, compassionate and great Master! Thank you, selfless fellow practitioners!
(Selected Submissions to the 22nd China Fa Conference on Minghui.org)
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