Saving My Husband After Changing My Mentality

(Minghui.org) I lived through the Chinese Communist Party’s (CCP) various political movements, such as the Great Leap Forward, the Great Famine, the Cultural Revolution, and so on. I experienced hunger, poverty, fear, poor health, and domestic violence. 

My Life Takes a Big Turn

I began practicing Falun Dafa in 1997 and regained my health. My husband no longer had to worry about me. I used to feel hopeless and desperate, but I felt the excitement and joy of getting a second chance in life. 

My husband supplies materials to a private company and travels a lot. I gave him a copy of Zhuan Falun, the main book of Falun Dafa, to read on the train. He happily accepted it. After he finished reading the book, he said that he would cultivate when he retires. 

Everything Changes

I only practiced Falun Dafa for two years when the CCP began persecuting Falun Dafa. They lied, arrested, tortured, and attempted to brainwash practitioners. It felt as if the sky was collapsing. The atmosphere was more oppressive than it was during the Cultural Revolution. The police constantly harassed my family, and I was repeatedly taken to a labor camp. My children faced discrimination at school, and my husband was pressured at work. Our relatives didn’t understand and encouraged my husband to divorce me. 

Under the guidance of Dafa, I cultivated a heart of forbearance. Due to the intense pressure, my husband began siding with the CCP. I understood his situation and tried not to blame him. He even composed a short verse that slandered Falun Dafa and taught it to our children. 

Compassion and Dignity

I visited Beijing many times to validate Dafa after the persecution began. I explained why I wanted to go to Beijing and that Dafa was responsible for my recovery from my illnesses. However, Falun Dafa is being persecuted and people are not allowed to be kind. I told my husband this every time I planned to go to Beijing and asked him not to worry. He did not try to stop me. 

My husband is very timid. After the persecution began, I was repeatedly arrested and taken to labor camps. I knew my husband was under a lot of stress. Once, when I returned from the labor camp, he sat next to the bed smoking, and he wouldn’t let me sleep. As soon as I dozed off, he woke me up. 

I thought, “Every time I was arrested he went to my parents’ house and threatened to divorce me.” Master taught us to have consideration for others and I didn’t want him to commit crimes against Dafa. 

I calmly told him, “If you really can’t handle the stress of me cultivating, then we can start the divorce process. You take all the money and the children. However, if you think there’s nothing wrong with practicing Dafa and you decide to stay in the marriage, I ask you not to interfere with my validating Dafa. Please think about it and give me an answer tomorrow.”

He didn’t say anything and left for work. I felt sad and thought, “How will I support myself if I’m divorced?” I realized whether or not I got a divorce was not up to my husband or I, instead it’s our predestined relationship. I wished to stop him from committing crimes against Dafa. The rest is his decision.

When my husband returned from work, he had a huge smile, and said, “No divorce. You can practice whatever you please.” I was happy for him because he made the right decision.

A Dream Reminds Me to Save My Husband

Even though we practitioners face persecution and are under a lot of stress, we have Dafa in our hearts and are without fear. We follow the standards of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. But, our family members face immense stress and worry. I know this was their choice when they came to the human realm and this also helps eliminate their karma. My husband gets mad at me for the most trivial things due to the pressure, and I noticed that he barely smiles. 

I understand him. To save him, I needed to have more forbearance and compassion, not human emotions. So I never complained and I tried to care for him. 

One night I dreamed there was a large pot that was filled with filthy, bubbling water and my husband was lying face down inside it. I lifted his face out of the water. He spat out the dirty water and was able to breathe. After I woke up, I realized that whether or not he could leave the pot depended on whether he had a good opinion of Dafa and if he had a clear understanding of this persecution.

I described the dream to him and what it meant. Afterward, I saw a significant change in him.

The Importance of the Nine Commentaries

When the Nine Commentaries on the Chinese Communist Party was published, practitioners began to produce the booklet in large quantities. This book is like a wooden stake to the CCP specter’s heart since it reveals its true nature. 

One night, my husband became furious and irritated, and he walked from the kitchen to the living room screaming. He looked like he was going to hit me. I immediately knew that he was being controlled by the communist specter and it was persecuting me through him. I sent righteous thoughts. A few seconds later, he calmed down and sat down at his desk to write some calligraphy. The lights suddenly flickered and went out. When my husband looked outside he said that we were the only home that had a power outage. Three minutes later, the power came back on. I didn’t stop sending righteous thoughts for another half hour until I felt his other dimensions were cleansed. 

I smiled and said, “Do you know why the lights went out and then came back?” I continued, “You can believe me or think of this as a fairy tale. But you were screaming and angry because the CCP specter was controlling you in another dimension. So I sent righteous thoughts for you to eliminate the evil. It tried to stop me by turning off the lights. If I stopped then, it would have escaped, but I didn’t stop. I was able to eliminate it. Don’t you feel better now?” His mouth dropped open and his eyes widened. He said, “Wow! My wife has divine powers.”