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I am ashamed of my poor enlightenment quality in cultivation. It was only in the last year that I gradually realized that human notions are one of the most important factors that hinder improvement in cultivation.
“ …whereas everything and anything that you think about and can’t let go of are postnatally acquired notions which are entangling you.” (Teaching at the Conference in the Western U.S.)
From experience sharing articles on Minghui.org, I know that many fellow practitioners understood this Fa principle earlier and cultivated well. I read every sharing article on Minghui.org and do the three things as well. However, I still hold human notions that were acquired many years ago. So I haven’t had that deep of an understanding of the Fa principles. I know that I have cultivated poorly and hung around the same level, while fellow practitioners improved.
Master saw my poor enlightenment and arranged for my daughter to help me improve. My relatives, friends and colleagues all think I did a good job of educating my children. My daughter is thoughtful and had good grades in school. Now, she is an adult. However, she suddenly complained that I didn’t know how to educate and take care of her, and she hasn’t felt any love since she was a child.
I looked inward and recalled times as my daughter grew up when I, indeed, often failed to follow the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance when educating her.
“Some people will lose their temper in disciplining children and yell at them, making quite a scene. You should not be that way in disciplining children, and neither should you, yourselves get really upset. You should educate children with reason so that you can really teach them well.” (Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
As genuine Dafa practitioners, if we can’t practice forbearance, we will not have compassion. I apologized to her a few times for this. I also said that I was old-fashioned and didn’t understand her psychological needs. In addition, I didn’t make enough money to send her abroad to college. Now, she is reluctant to communicate with me, and thinks I didn’t consider things from her point of view and I was just preaching. For example, I meddled too much in her making friends and playing games, although she is an adult. At first, I thought I was being asked to let go of my sentimentality for her, so I just tried to endure it. Sometimes, I didn’t say anything, but I wasn’t happy as I felt I had done nothing wrong. I even felt that I had gotten rid of a lot of the sentimentality. However, it seemed that something was still missing.
I once told my daughter that my cultivation state was not good. She said to me impatiently that I didn’t get rid of my attachment, as I was still talking about this. At that moment, I was touched and asked myself why I was not diligent in cultivation. I suddenly understood that I hadn’t gotten rid of the strong attachment to self⸺I hadn’t changed my notions yet. I then decided to get rid of the attachment to self and cultivate compassion. Since that day, I held onto one thought—compassion, and no matter how mad my child got, I stayed unmoved.
As soon I had this thought, I felt that Master removed the bad substance from my body. Thank you, Master for letting me experience the wonder of cultivating compassion and letting me realize that I needed to change my notions about educating children. As cultivators, we should not force children to listen to us like ordinary people. I also realized that when encountering problems, we should look inward rather than caring about the right or wrong on the surface. We should conduct ourselves strictly according to Dafa’s standard to remove human notions.
When clarifying the truth, I will eliminate the attachment to fear and be compassionate to sentient beings. Every time I go out, I will recite the Fa, send righteous thoughts, and ask Master for assistance. Upon encountering people who refuse to accept truth-clarification materials, I will eliminate the evil factors behind them to prevent those factors from instructing them to commit crimes against Dafa and thus receive negative consequences.
One day my daughter came home after meeting with her friend, and told me that her friend praised me a lot. Her friend complained that her mother didn’t care and educate her well after my daughter told her friend how I had educated her.
Now I get along with my daughter very well. She has felt my kindness and the beauty of Dafa, and she even started to read Zhuan Falun again.
I will study the Fa more, purify myself, and get rid of my human notions. I will do the three things well with the wisdom given by Dafa, reach the standard of the new universe, and live up to Master’s compassionate salvation.
Thank you Master. I also thank my family members and fellow practitioners.
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