[Selected Opinion Articles] Harmony in the Family Brings Prosperity

(Minghui.org) An old Chinese saying goes, “Harmony in the family brings prosperity.” As a Falun Dafa practitioner, I can tell you how this played out in my family.

I was born in the 1960s, lived through the Cultural Revolution, and was indoctrinated by Chinese Communist Party (CCP) culture. So how to be a kind and gentle woman was not a part of me. I just wanted things to be done my way.

As a result, my marriage was in trouble. I had a quick temper and, because I thought my husband wasn’t very savvy when it came to society and its mind games, I often made sarcastic remarks about him. Because of our strained relationship, I develop numerous health issues. I didn’t know how to get rid of my resentment and hatred for my husband. We ended up fighting a lot. It was like a cold war, and more than once we lived in different rooms. We often brought up the possibility of divorce.

In those darkest days of my life, however, I was able to hear about Falun Dafa and read Zhuan Falunwhen a friend recommended it to me. The principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance stunned me: How come I’d never known about this? I felt bad because I realized I’d never cared how my husband felt. To him, I was always like a thorny hedgehog. No matter what he did, it was always wrong based on my distorted notions of the world. In such circumstances, how could he be happy or our family live in harmony?

So I made up my mind to change. Following the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, I worked to be a gentle and obedient wife. Whenever something came up that did not fit my ideas, I would try to be tolerant.

It was not easy. In this society dominated by fraud and lies, my husband dreamed of becoming rich overnight. But he was deceived so many times and incurred debt and debt. With no way to repay his debts, he turned to me and attempted to squeeze money from me. By then, money was not a problem for me. But had I not been a Falun Dafa practitioner, his attitude and requests would have met with endless sarcasm and fights.

Now that I knew how people should treat each other, I understood that probably I had done similar things to him in a previous life cycle. In any case, becoming husband and wife is not accidental, and I wanted to cherish our predestined relationship.

Over time, my compassion and forbearance changed my husband. Gradually, laughter filled our home and we became a happy couple. Besides owning two apartment buildings, we now often cook together and go out together in a life filled with sunlight.

People around us were really impressed. My friends did not understand how a relationship so clearly on the rocks could have become such a happy one. They shared their marital struggles and asked for my advice. Three couples no longer wanted to divorce and are they now happy. When they thanked me for my efforts, I told them all the credit goes to Falun Dafa. Without that, my family would have fallen apart.

“In 2019, China’s divorce/marriage ratio was 50.7%, indicating that the number of divorces surpassed half of the number of marriages,” according to a 2021 article from China Europe International Business School titled “What killed marriage? China’s divorce rate is up 75% over the past decade.”

Any tips to reverse that trend? Falun Dafa will show you a miracle.