Looking Inward Changed the Situation with My Family
(Minghui.org) Master said:
“As a cultivatorOne always looks for one’s own faults’Tis the Way to get rid of attachments most effectivelyThere’s no way to skip ordeals, big or small[During a conflict, if you can remember:]“He’s right,And I’m wrong,”What’s to dispute?”(”Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong” from Hong Yin III)
My xinxing has improved a lot through studying Falun Dafa, and I’ve let go of many attachments. I used to be impatient and resentful. When I clarified the facts about Dafa, I would become so impatient that I couldn’t control my temper if it didn’t go well.
This kind of attachment was even more prominent when dealing with my family members. As the head of the family, I lost my temper easily and my words were rough and aggressive. If they listened obediently, it was okay. But if they rebutted I couldn’t restrain my strong resentment.
When my fighting mentality appeared, I spoke to my family with sarcasm and complaint in an overwhelmingly imposing manner, completely forgetting that I was a cultivator. At other times, in order not to let my family members bring karma to themselves, I said, “Forget it, I don't want to talk any more, have it your way!”
Instead of looking inward and finding what was wrong with me, I always complained, or ignored my family.
Through Fa study I realized that I was not following the Dafa principles Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance in my words and deeds. I felt ashamed that as Master’s disciple, I couldn’t even save my loved ones.
One day after doing the exercises, I heard my son breathing heavily—he sounded tired. I suddenly felt compassion and said to him, “You exercised for ten minutes, see how tired you are? Master teaches us five sets of exercises and I practice for almost three hours every day uninterrupted. My body is light, not tired at all, and the more I practice, the more comfortable I feel. It’s really good. Dafa is wonderful and Master has given the Fa to us. What a precious opportunity! How about you give it a try, practice the exercises and learn the Fa?”
My son didn’t say anything, but his attitude felt different from usual. After dinner he said to me, “Dad, we’ll wait for you in the living room and you can tell us about Dafa.” I immediately stood up and said, “Wow!”
I went to the living room holding the book Zhuan Falun, where my family members were sitting on the sofa. My whole body was trembling with joy. I used to cry for them out of sadness, but today my tears were out of excitement!
I handed them Zhuan Falun and said, “Don’t say anything, let’s read first.” They started reading.
The pandemic has recently disturbed my family a lot and their Fa study has not progressed much, but I think they have changed despite the hurdle.
As for me, I have gradually let go of impatience, complaints, and some other attachments, and my mindset has become more stable. My mind and ideas have broadened when doing truth clarification, and my xinxing has improved.
All these things show the power that Dafa has given me. I sincerely feel the greatness of Dafa. Thank you, Master!