Cultivating Myself at Work and at Home
(Minghui.org) I am a young Falun Dafa practitioner who practiced Falun Dafa for 11 years. I came into Dafa cultivation for the purpose of healing my illnesses and exploring the mysteries of life. I recovered from all my illnesses, even those that I had suffered from for years soon after I started to practice Dafa. I also came to understand the true meaning of life.
I was sentimental, narrow-minded, quiet, and jealous before I practiced Falun Dafa. A word that others inadvertently said could touch my heart, and make me sullen for days. I didn't quarrel with others, but I just couldn't let it go. My life was hard and tiring. I felt exhausted physically and mentally, and suffered from many diseases although I was very young.
After I began to practice Dafa, I followed the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I removed many human notions, and I think of the needs of others first. This cultivation process has been really difficult, but I did it by studying the Fa constantly.
Removing Human Notions and Attachments
I have been following the Dafa principles, and after I removed many of my attachments and human notions, I got along very well with my mother-in-law.
My parents-in-law used to oppose me marrying my husband, because I didn't have a stable job at that time. In the end they reluctantly agreed because of my husband's persistence. My parents-in-law were very partial to my husband's younger brother, but fortunately at that time I started practicing Falun Dafa. Since Dafa requires me to think of others' needs first and unconditionally, I always did house chores without complaint, my husband and I did all the work that my husband's brother and his wife were reluctant to do, and we tried our best to help everyone in the house.
But, contrary to what we had hoped for, our performance was not recognized. My parents-in-law didn't show up before and after I gave birth to my child, let alone taking care of us. My mother said sadly that I seemed to have an illegitimate child. They ignored us completely, and even didn't show up at the baby's full moon celebration party.
I tried hard to ignore their attitude, but I just couldn't let it go. Sometimes I felt sad and held resentment towards my in-laws, because I had practiced Falun Dafa for only a short time, I didn’t see the essence of the problem yet. However, I got to understand the transformation of karma as taught by Master Li (the founder), given my diligent Fa-study.
I knew that I had gained four ways in this incident. I paid my karmic debts to my in-laws. They helped me improve my xinxing by treating me like that. I should take it as a good thing because of transformation of karma, improvement of my cultivation, and the raising of my xinxing and cultivation level.
I was initially jealous of my brother-in-law because my parents-in-law were very partial to him and his wife. On the surface, I was peaceful and calm, but deep in my heart I thought that it was quite unfair. Given Fa-study, I knew that I was pursuing absolute egalitarianism because I had always believed that my in-laws should treat their two sons and daughters-in-law equally. Then, I realized that I treated the matter with an ordinary person’s mindset and not with the principles of Dafa. I understood that it was an opportunity to remove my attachment of jealousy. Before cultivation, my mentality of fighting and jealousy was very strong. I used to think that I was superior to others. I finally realized that Master had arranged my in-laws to help me cultivate. I want to thank my in-laws sincerely from the bottom of my heart.
Thereafter, my husband and I have treated my brother-in-law and his family nicely, and we always take care of them. The harmonious family relationship makes us happy, and earns the respect from people around us.
Cultivating Self at Work and Harmonize with Colleagues
In China, people's morality has plummeted, and people are afraid of being deceived and don't trust each other. When I was first hired as a cashier in a private business company, the administration and colleagues treated me as if I was a thief, they monitored me continuously. They did not even allow me to touch the related financial bookkeeping items that were my responsibility. Instead they were managed by non-financial staff.
I followed the Dafa principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. Even if some colleagues made trouble for me and denigrated me in front of the leaders, I was able to treat them with compassion. I never fought against them over interests, and forgave them regardless of their faults. Within less than a year, they realized that I was different from ordinary people. They said that I never fought for anything, and I had a detached, good attitude that was rarely found in this society. They asked me if I had faith. I clarified the truth about Dafa, which was well accepted. They thought that Falun Dafa is good and agreed to quit the Chinese Communist Party (CCP), thus, chose a bright future for themselves.
But something happened recently that touched my heart. In my work, in addition to my normal accounting work, the most complicated thing is to check the internal and external accounting records with leaders and others. One day, the leader asked me how much spending was linked to her. I told her about 110,000 yuan. She frowned and said there shouldn't be that much, it should be 10,000 yuan. The accountant took out the books and saw that there were indeed 110,000 yuan on the records. But the accountant suddenly changed her answer and said that the leader was right, I made a mistake, it should be 10,000 yuan. Upon hearing what the accountant said, the leader insisted that I made the mistake, and let the accountant adjust the account and then she left.
The leader usually trusts me. She thinks that I am honest and trustworthy. After all, we have been working together for many years. She knows me by my words and deeds. I told her the facts about Falun Dafa and she accepted it and quit the CCP. She also reminded me to be careful and stay safe.
If we had to adjust the account, we must transfer another 100,000 yuan to this account or pay 100,000 yuan in cash to the bank account to keep it balanced. Who would pay this 100,000 yuan? At this moment, I was worried and thought to myself, “How can the accountant speak like that? When you checked the record with me, you told me that there were 110,000 yuan under the leader. How can you claim it to be different?”
I calmed down gradually, and carefully recalled the details of the records. After I checked the items one by one, I made sure that they were all accurate. In the afternoon I approached the accountant and said, "Please reconsider it, and check the records in the account. It should be 110,000 yuan." Then, I told her in detail of how we checked the items and records before. To my surprise, she was furious, she said that she didn't care, I should explain to the leader by myself, and warned me not to drag her into it.
At this time, some of my colleagues overheard it and thought that I made a mistake. They chattered and murmured, and said that it was my problem. I really wanted to justify it at the time, but I thought calmly that it would only make the situation more chaotic, and it was difficult to explain it clearly. Just at that moment, I remembered what Master said:
“As a cultivatorOne always looks for one’s own faults ’Tis the Way to get rid of attachments most effectivelyThere’s no way to skip ordeals, big or small[During a conflict, if you can remember:] “He’s right, And I’m wrong,” What’s to dispute?” (“Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong”, Hong Yin III),
Then, I knew that I could only face the leader by myself, I could not count on others.
After work, I called the accountant, and asked her to meet with me. I explained to her that it was my work negligence, she didn't need to worry about it. I wouldn't drag her in. I would explain everything to the leader by myself. She looked at me and must think that I had a humble, sincere attitude, then she said to me, "It's okay, don't worry. I suppose that your accounting is all right, the accounting is consistent, and your financial statements do not have a problem."
The next day as soon as the leader arrived in her office, I went to her with all accounting records that were related to her from the previous year. I showed her the documents one by one. I reminded her of the last note for taking out money written by her at the end of last year. She was furious saying that I didn't give her the money. I smiled at her and said, "It's okay if you don't remember it right now, it's been a long time. Check your records to see if you can find it." Gradually she calmed down, and said thoughtfully, "Okay, I'll go back and check." She never came back to me for it. I know she figured it out.
A colleague told me indignantly, "You are foolish, you didn't see that the accountant tried to trap you." I told him that the accountant did not intentionally trap me, she just wanted to please the leader. I told my colleague that I wouldn't bear a grudge about this because everything that a practitioner encounters is a good thing, it is designed for cultivation and improving my xinxing.
Dafa has made me a better person and I am able to maintain righteous thoughts, not complain or argue, and tolerate others with great compassion and tolerance when being misunderstood. That manifests the greatness and glory of Dafa.
It's revered Master's compassion, Dafa's power and wisdom that have transformed me from a narrow-minded person to a compassionate and tolerant Dafa disciple. Now I can get along well with my in-laws, my colleagues, and handle well any complicated social relationships.