Improving by Following Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance Amid Tribulations
(Minghui.org) Since the persecution of Falun Dafa began, practitioners have experienced so much suffering and tribulations of all kinds. We overcame all that we did because we have Master Li (the founder) and Dafa.
At the beginning of the persecution, the worst things we could hear were the sound of police cars, a knock on the door, the crackling of an electric baton in a forced labor camp… Everything we have gone through has been to eliminate karma, purify our bodies, elevate our realms, achieve the mighty power of Dafa practitioners, and return to our original true selves.
Family Tribulations During the Persecution
After the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) started to persecute Falun Dafa on July 20, 1999, I went to Beijing to appeal and was arrested on Tiananmen Square. I was escorted back to my hometown and subjected to two years of forced labor.
After I was released from the forced labor camp, my husband and mother-in-law refused to let me return home with the excuse that I was a bad influence on the next generation. I had no choice but to divorce. My daughter came with me. A fellow practitioner later introduced me to another practitioner, who I married.
My husband had two parents over the age of 70 and two children, a son and a daughter. Coming into a new family, as a practitioner, I wanted to do well to keep everyone happy and validate the Fa. However, I was unable to form a good relationship with the children.
At that time, I didn’t know how to cultivate myself and it was very difficult. When encountering conflicts, I didn’t know to look inwards. The complaints and hatred in me kept piling up. I couldn’t maintain my xinxing during tests and often argued with my husband. I always thought that I was reasonable and he was wrong.
Time flew by and my parents-in-law got older. My father-in-law became too sick to get out of bed and needed round-the-clock care. My mother-in-law had multiple diseases. The daily pressure was high, and it was hard for me to handle the family situation alone.
I asked my husband's two older sisters if they could help but neither of them wanted to. I was really annoyed with them. At that time, I regretted carelessly getting into a family with elderly who were dependent and needed care and had very little support from their daughters.
After Passing the Shady Willow Trees, There Will be Bright Flowers
After reading experience-sharing articles by other practitioners, I saw how they truly and solidly cultivated themselves and strictly held themselves to the principles of Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance. Like awakening from a dream, I saw the gap between myself and other practitioners, and my own shortcomings.
I realized that behind my wanting to do well was a desire to be acknowledged and praised. When these desires were not fulfilled, a mentality of complaint, hatred, and competitiveness was aroused. I also found that I demonstrated a strong degree of Party culture, such as self-righteousness, arrogance, and selfishness. Only by studying the Fa diligently could I truly change myself and remove these attachments.
I started to spend a lot of time studying the Fa, and cultivating my own xinxing instead of looking for fault in others. Master said:
“A benevolent person always has a heart of compassion.With no discontentment or hatred, he takes hardship as joy.”(“Realms”, Essentials for Further Advancement)
We should measure ourselves based on the Fa and not judge others. We should sincerely think of others first when doing or saying something. Of course, we have to give up fame, self-interest, and human sentimentality to maintain a realm of compassion.
When I truly let go of selfishness and completely think about others, I felt true happiness. I also realized that no matter what happened or whatever test I encountered, I should not have any bad thoughts. I should maintain righteous thoughts, maintain my own xinxing, and keep a calm and peaceful mind.
I focused on my need to improve and no longer resented my sisters-in-law. I did my best to satisfy my parents-in-law and considered them as much as I could. My mother-in-law, who later passed away at the age of 90, was moved by this.
I respected my sisters-in-law and had no complaints toward them. When they wanted to share the cost of my mother-in-law's tombstone, I talked to my husband and suggested that we pay for it in full because the sisters were elderly and had greater financial need. Now, whenever I meet with them, we are all in a good mood and enjoy being together. The Buddha-light illuminates everywhere and harmonizes everything. It was Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance that brought happiness to my family.
Conflict During the First Month of Childbirth
My stepson was not physically strong and wasn't able to work, especially after being injured. I asked my sister-in-law for help, and she helped him enroll into a technical school in Shijiazhuang City. He landed a well-paying job a few years after graduation. We helped him with his wedding. His wife became pregnant in 2017 and I was very happy. I spent a lot of money to help get ready for the newborn. The first month after the birth, I helped them out by taking care of the baby, cooking for them, cleaning the house, and washing diapers.
One day my stepson, out of nowhere, started a big fight with me and told me I was useless. I was at a loss and couldn’t figure out what he was talking about. I calmed down and checked myself to see whether I did something wrong. I knew it was a test, so I maintained my xinxing, was not moved by it, and continued to treat my stepson and his family well.
I called my husband and asked him to find out why his son was angry because if it was my fault, I would correct myself. It turned out that it was a complete misunderstanding. My husband became angry because he saw all that I had done for his son’s family. I told my husband, “It was a test for me to improve my xinxing. It was also a test for you. We should make sure our daughter-in-law is getting good care.” I was very calm and without hatred during the incident.
My stepson later admitted to his father that he was wrong. He said that I did so much for them and that he should not have treated me like that. I was able to handle it properly because I cultivate Dafa. It was Master and Dafa who taught me how to be a good person according to Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance.
Lending Money to My Stepdaughter
My stepdaughter asked to borrow money from us in January 2019 for her business. I didn’t hesitate at all and managed to come up with 30,000 yuan quickly. I knew that she was in a rush and called her to come to get the money. My stepdaughter felt my sincerity and said, “Mom, I will give you interest.” I told her it’s not necessary.
I gave her husband a Dafa amulet and told him, “You should sincerely say the nine words: ‘Falun Dafa is good! Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance is good’ every day. You will be safe and have a prosperous business.” My son-in-law carefully put it in his wallet and said happily, “We will do it every day.”
Later, I heard that they indeed said this every day. I didn’t expect to be rewarded in any way but my stepdaughter and her husband cared for me and understood me. They often brought us a lot of food or drink from the city and bought me clothes. I have a good and harmonious relationship with my husband’s daughter.
Arrested and Detained
The police came to my house around 7 a.m. on May 31, 2019. After I refused to open the door, they forcefully broke in and searched my home. I called out loudly, “Help! Help! Come to see the robbery!”
People came and commented, “These [Falun Dafa practitioners] are good people.” “There are always tricycles stolen in the village. You do not try to catch those thieves, but you are always energetic when catching Falun Dafa practitioners.” Some said to me, “Just go! Don’t get caught!” I went with it.
I was reported to the police and arrested on June 18, 2019. They took me to the No. 2 Detention Center in Shijazhuang City. While being enrolled in the detention center, I didn’t cooperate with them during the medical exam and I refused to sign their paper.
The next day I was interrogated at the police department. They wouldn’t tell me why I was arrested. Ten days later I was tried by the Procuratorate. They still wouldn’t tell me what I’d done wrong. I defended myself and clarified the truth to them. I pointed out that practicing Falun Dafa is not a crime, since the Constitution grants freedom of belief to its citizens.
My case was later returned to the local police station. On the 13th day of my arrest, my stepdaughter called the head of the police station and requested that I be released. He insisted that they were investigating further to charge me.
My stepdaughter said, “Has my mom robbed someone? What bad things has she done? What crime has she committed? All she did was practice Falun Dafa and strive to be a better person. How can you charge her?”
She continued calling for my release. With the help of my family and fellow practitioners, I was released on the 15th day after my arrest. My stepdaughter came in person to pick me up.
After I returned home, the villagers came to ask about my experience. I told them that they were unable to charge me since I didn’t commit any crime. They all said, “You just practice Falun Dafa and haven't done anything bad. They should not have arrested you.”
Helping Fellow Practitioners Attend Group Study
Two of my older sisters hadn’t attended group Fa-study for years. They didn’t give up the practice, but they hadn’t caught up with Fa-rectification and I was really worried about them. In February 2019, I was determined to help them return to our group study. An idea came to me. I took two older practitioners from the village along with one of my older sisters and drove to the other older sister’s home for a group Fa-study.
We did this three times. Finally, my two sisters were moved and said, “It’s really not convenient for you to drive six miles to come here. Don’t come anymore. We will go to practice the exercises in the future.”
They have indeed gone every day since then. Their cultivation state is very good. They have joined the Fa-rectification effort to save sentient beings. I sincerely hope they will do well in their future cultivation.
It is Master and Dafa who have given me the power of Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance to achieve what I have. It’s the evil’s persecution that has made my life so complex in order to destroy my will to cultivate. It’s the mighty power of Dafa that lifted my xinxing and raised me out of the mud.
I sincerely express my gratitude to Master for teaching me how to follow the principle of Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance to be a good person.