(Minghui.org) I have been practicing Falun Dafa for over 20 years. The practice has changed me fundamentally. Because of practicing Dafa, I understand what it means to have genuine kindness and be good to others.
Cultivating in Conflicts
I was assigned to my current work department eight years ago. There are many female colleagues in that department, and they are all around five years older than me. Someone told me before I came here that they were not easy to get along with.
On the first day I arrived in my new department, I felt that I was not welcome. One new colleague said something that really offended me. She said, “I just don't feel comfortable today, whether sitting or standing. It seems that something isn't right here.”
Her words seriously affected me. I had never met these people before, and changing departments was arranged by the manager. Why were they treating me like this? How could we work together?
But I clearly knew that I shouldn't get angry with them. I had to endure it. However, that's easier said than done.
Something else occurred on another day that irritated me even more. A colleague asked me how much of a bonus I'd gotten. I told her that I couldn't remember how much. She then said that I was lying and didn't want to tell her. Another colleague complained about me, and a third colleague also complained that my walking was too light, and made her jump when she saw me.
I endured on the surface once more, but I realized that this was not in line with Dafa's requirements. Master said:
“Forbearance is the key to improving one’s xinxing. To endure with anger, grievance, or tears is the forbearance of an everyday person who is attached to his concerns. To endure completely without anger or grievance is the forbearance of a cultivator.” (“What is Forbearance (Ren)?” Essentials for Further Advancement)
I tried not to think about why I was being treated like this, and just studied the Fa more, shared my understandings with other practitioners, and changed my inner self.
My ability to endure gradually changed from forcing myself to endure, to calming down slowly, until one day their words were just like a breeze and I smiled at them after listening to them.
Eight years have passed. I don't know when the environment started changing, but I can now feel their honesty and kindness when they talk to me.
One of my colleagues said to me late last year, “Over these past years, I have found that you are a good person. You clean the corridor and empty the trash the most, and you don't make it widely known while doing it. Not like others; they go to temples or churches frequently, but they are still very selfish. They are not even as good as me, a person without a faith. We all think that you are a genuine believer.”
Another colleague told me that she felt very comfortable and relaxed when she was with me. She said, “When we were told that you practiced Falun Dafa, we disliked you, but we found that you were not like how the media portrays Dafa practitioners. And I realized that you are quite healthy and I haven't ever seen you catch a cold. It's really good to have your belief.”
She also asked me once, “If you picked up a purse from the ground with several thousand yuan and credit cards inside, would you keep it?”
I smiled, and said, “I couldn't do that. It's a very basic requirement for a Falun Dafa practitioner.”
She gave me the thumbs up after hearing this. Then she asked me if she could borrow the book Zhuan Falun from me, as she wanted to know what the book was about.
Handling a Car Accident with a Practitioner's Standard
My son was hit by a car in 2008 as we crossed a road. He was thrown quite a distance and lost consciousness. I ran over to him and held him in my arms. I recited constantly in his ear, “Falun Dafa is good!”
He looked like he had fallen into a deep sleep. His breathing was smooth and even. I was surprised at how calm I was at the time.
My husband was very upset and started quarrelling with the driver. He called the police and an ambulance. On the way to the hospital, my son regained consciousness and vomited a little, then fell asleep again.
My son has known that Falun Dafa is good since he was very young. I once told him that whatever happens to him, he should recite, “Falun Dafa is good!”
The doctors at the hospital checked him over and couldn't find anything wrong. I wasn't surprised with the results. They just said that they needed to observe him for another two days.
The traffic officer later told us, “Your son is very fortunate and blessed. There were three accidents that same day, at the same place. One person died at the scene, another became disabled, and a girl sustained broken bones. Your son's accident was very serious, but he is fine.”
The driver apologized to us and left his mobile phone number and address in case something was wrong with my son. I told him that I practiced Falun Dafa and wouldn't extort money from him. I also comforted him and said that my son wouldn't have any problems. I asked him to remember, “Falun Dafa is good!”
He called us many times over the next few years to see if my son was alright. I told him that everything was fine and to just remember the words I had told him.
Practicing Falun Dafa has made me more sensitive, clear-headed, and wise. I deeply feel the power of kindness, as Dafa has broadened my mind and heart.
