Ending Family Tensions after Taking the Right Path
(Minghui.org) House demolition and relocation is a hot topic for people in China because there’s a great deal of money to be made. Some people have made even more money by falsifying documents.
A man once contacted my daughter and said, “I’ll have someone measure your house. The larger the square footage, the more money you’ll get to have it demolished. Because I have to use my connections, I will need a deposit of 1.8 million yuan. You should act quickly, the sooner the better!”
How could an ordinary person not be affected by the temptation of large sums of money? But who has such a huge sum of money to start the process - 1.8 million yuan! My family started rushing everywhere to borrow money, but in the end they failed to borrow enough. I own a two-bedroom apartment, and my daughter asked me if they could use my house as collateral. They had already obtained my property certificate. But I had to agree to the loan and sign it, otherwise they couldn’t do it.
I’m a veteran practitioner and I’ve practiced Falun Dafa for many years. No matter how well I’ve cultivated, I have to remember to evaluate everything according to the standard of the Fa. Practicing fraud and obtaining things by deception or trickery is an unhealthy trend among everyday people. Practitioners should not engage in this. Master said,
“...Following Master in Fa-rectification,working against sinister tides”(“Following Master,” Hong Yin III)
How could I help my daughter do such a thing? I decided to refuse to sign.
When she heard that I would not sign, my daughter tearfully complained and accused me of being selfish and heartless. She has always been supportive of my practicing Falun Dafa. When I was persecuted and illegally detained in a forced labor camp, she visited me regularly and brought me money and things I needed.
My daughter was so upset by my refusal to sign on the loan that she couldn’t sleep, and cried all night.
My family was in an uproar. I thought, “The temptation of monetary gain and attachment to family is nearly overwhelming. What should I do? This is really hard!” Master taught us to look inside whenever we encountered difficulties. I calmly thought it over, “Am I doing something wrong? No! The attachment to family is causing me to question my decision. I should firmly walk on the path of cultivation.”
I thought about how some practitioners were able to overcome the test of being too attached to their families. Their children begged and did everything they could to stop them from practicing - even kneeling down and pleading with them.
Having made up my mind, I kept doing the housework as usual. When I prepared dinner, my daughter said, “I refuse to eat!” When she pulled a long face or scowled at me, I was not affected. I tried to explain that we have to pay for everything we get, and gaining things through trickery would cause her to lose virtue and commit a sin. When I said that doing something fraudulent might cost her in the future, she indignantly retorted, “I don’t care about the future! I want money now! If even my mother won’t help me, who can I rely on?”
I saw that my daughter was unable to extricate herself from this difficult situation. I was anxious and quietly begged Master, “Please help me, my ability is limited!”
After venting her anger for a few days, my daughter began to calm down. It was obvious that being at odds with me was not getting her what she wanted. She finally seemed to understand and said, “If this can’t be done, it’s hard to say whether the money can be returned. In this society, anything can happen. The man who promised to help may even turn against me. Forget it. I’ll take whatever I’m offered.” My daughter returned my property certificate.
An amazing thing happened the day my daughter decided not to go along with the fraudulent deal. A friend of her husband called him and asked him to come to the demolition office to talk about their house. They made arrangements based on the original measurement of the house and signed the demolition agreement.
The storm had subsided. I realized that because I maintained my xinxing during this major test, Master helped solve the problem. I knew I was firmly on the upright path of saving people and assisting Master in Fa-rectification.
“Amidst the complicated environment of everyday people and its interpersonal xinxing frictions, you are able to rise above and beyond—this is the most difficult thing. It is hard in that you knowingly lose your vested interests among everyday people. Amidst your critical self-interests, are you moved? Amidst interpersonal mind games, are you moved? When your friends or family suffer, are you moved? How do you weigh these things? Being a practitioner is just so difficult! ” (Lecture Eight, Zhuan Falun)
From this experience I realized that as long as my heart is on the Fa and I am not affected by emotional attachment, the interference will disappear. This is genuine cultivation.