Falun Dafa Prevented Two Families from Falling Apart
(Minghui.org) I got married at the age of 25, and gave birth to my son soon after. My husband and I worked hard to support our family by farming three acres of land.
My mother fell ill when my son was 10 years old. I went to take care of her at the hospital for over a month. After I returned home, I noticed that my husband was not acting his usual self, and accidentally found out he was having an affair.
As a Falun Dafa practitioner, I kept my composure and did not argue with or get mad at him. I went to talk to his mistress at her home. I explained to her the proper conduct of a woman and urged her to stop seeing my husband. Their behavior would ruin our families.
She refused to listen and said, “I live for your husband, and I can’t go on without him. Everyone in the village has known about our affair, except for you.”
I could not stop crying when I got home. I told my husband, “We are husband and wife, and parents to our son. Is your one-month relationship with that woman more important than our 10-year relationship?
My husband replied, “There is no way out. I made a mistake and now her life is in my hands. She will kill herself if I leave her. She has a bottle of rat poison.
“I once saw her husband beating her with a stick until she fainted,” he continued. “Her in-laws hate her, and made him beat her. She brought shame to the family and I'm afraid she will commit suicide. If you can’t put up with the situation, just take our son and leave.”
I began to pack my things up, but then thought, “I’m a practitioner and I cannot leave my family.” I calmed down and studied Zhuan Falun. Master said,
“When an interpersonal conflict occurs, if you cannot practice forbearance or treat yourself as a practitioner in dealing with it, I would say this is unacceptable. When I practiced cultivation in the past, many great masters told me these words, and they said: 'When it’s difficult to endure, you can endure it. When it’s impossible to do, you can do it.' In fact, that is how it is. Why don’t you give it a try when you return home. When you are overcoming a real hardship or tribulation, you try it. When it is difficult to endure, try to endure it. When it looks impossible and is said to be impossible, give it a try and see if it is possible. If you can actually do it, you will indeed find: 'After passing the shady willow trees, there will be bright flowers and another village ahead!'”(Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
Master’s words touched my heart and I felt more clearheaded. I knew how to handle the situation.
I later told my husband, “I’ve thought about it, and I’m not leaving. Tell her to come to our house.”
The other woman came to see me the next day. I wanted to help her with compassion and said, “Please don’t take your life lightly. You have two adorable daughters. We are like sisters and should try get along from now on.”
She was touched by what I said, and stopped thinking about committing suicide. She often came to my house afterwards. Sometimes, I read Zhuan Falun to her, or I let her read the book “Divine Culture” while I studied the Fa.
She saw how I benefited from practicing Falun Dafa. I treated her like family, so whenever she made some especially delicious food, she would share it with me. When she heard people speak ill of Dafa, she would tell them that it is a good practice.
I also shared with her about the teachings of Dafa on how be a good person. She gradually learned the proper conduct of a woman, and broke off her relationship with my husband.
Since then, her husband stopped berating and beating her. He became more caring and loving, and her family life became more harmonious.
She saw the beauty of Falun Dafa through me, and withdrew from the Chinese Communist Party and its affiliated organizations. My friends, family members, and neighbors have also seen the goodness of Dafa through my handling of this situation.
If I had not practiced Falun Dafa, I would have treated the mistress as my enemy, fighting with her and even wishing that she would commit suicide.
Falun Dafa teaches me to put others first, and shows me how to be a good person by following the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. Falun Dafa prevented two families from falling apart.