People’s Hearts Turn to Dafa When I Focus On Saving Them as My Sole Responsibility
(Minghui.org) More than ten years ago, my husband met a woman in another town, married her, and they had a son. Everyone in his family knew about this. He seldom came home to see us. When his father was ill my husband came home, bringing the woman and their son. After the Chinese New Year, the woman and their son went back home but my husband stayed so he could take care of his father. My mother-in-law didn’t want people to make comments, so she told everyone that my husband and I were divorced.
On the day of the funeral, my sister-in-law said that after the woman heard the news she drove all the way from Hebei province to Yantai in Shandong Province to attend the funeral. I was a bit moved. I said, “Well, I’m here. Why did she come?” My sister-in-law said, “Maybe she came to offer her condolences.” I didn’t say anything. But I knew that my tribulations were coming. I remembered Master’s words,
“To endure completely without anger or grievance is the forbearance of a cultivator.” (Essentials for Further Advancement)
I reminded myself, “Don’t get angry. Don’t hold any grievances.”
The woman came to the funeral. In front of everyone, my husband held her arm. I looked at her and my thoughts seemed to freeze. I couldn’t cry. I was busy for the rest of the day. One auntie told me that the woman came with her son and her elderly mother. I almost exploded. My husband’s relatives felt the injustice for me, and said, “We only acknowledge you as our sister-in-law because you married him legally. If you feel wronged, please say something. Maybe crying will help you feel better.” I held his sister and wept. But I felt that doing that wasn’t right. So I said, “I won’t cry. I’m a practitioner. I don’t hold any grudges against anyone.” I stopped crying. Because she was there, I didn’t go back to my mother-in-law’s house, and instead returned home.
When I got home, my husband phoned and said, “I’m sorry.” In more than ten years, this was the first time he apologized for what he did.
Viewing the Situation as a Practitioner
I reminded myself the following day, “Practitioners don’t have any enemies. Everyone came here to be saved. I didn’t have a chance to talk to her at the funeral. I have to let go of my attachments and clarify the truth to her.” I asked Master for help. I wanted to speak in a calm and compassionate tone and not hold any grievances against her.
So I picked up the phone. When she answered, I said, “Hi Xuemei. I didn’t get a chance to say hello to you. Did you see me?” She replied emotionally, “Yes, I did. It was embarrassing.” I said, “It’s alright. I’m calling you because I want to tell you something important. Have you heard that millions of Chinese are withdrawing from the Chinese Communist Party (CCP)?” She said, “No, but I saw some flyers.”
I said, “The three withdrawals means withdrawing from the CCP, the Youth League and the Young Pioneers. Are you a Party member?” She said, “No.” I said, “Then you must have joined the Youth League and Young Pioneers. When we did, we made an oath and vowed to give our lives to it. But our lives are given by our parents, not the CCP. Right? Since the CCP seized power, 80 million Chinese people have been killed. They targeted the intellectuals and the Chinese elite! But when it’s time for the CCP to be disintegrated, if you are still associated with it, you’ll have to bear responsibilities for its crimes. If we withdraw from the Party and it’s affiliates, we’ll be safe when it falls. I can tell that you’re very kind. I’ll help you withdraw.” She said, “Yes!”
I asked if I could speak to her mother. She said her mother had fallen earlier that day. They had gone for a check-up, and found out that it was subcutaneous bleeding. When her mother came on the line I greeted her and said, “You traveled a long distance, which isn’t easy. Do you know who I am?” She said, “Yes.” I said, “I heard that you fell today. Please just repeat these words: Falun Dafa is good! Truthfulness-Compassion-Tolerance is good! Maybe saying these words will help you feel better. Falun Dafa practitioners conduct their lives according to these principles. The former dictator Jiang Zemin began the persecution and many practitioners’ organs have been harvested. Have you ever joined the Communist Party?” She said, “No.” She said she never went to school. I said, “Then you never joined any affiliated organizations. Please remember: Falun Dafa is good! Truthfulness-Compassion-Tolerance is good!” She said, “Okay. I’ll remember!” Both ladies repeatedly thanked me.
After the phone call I was happy that I passed the test. I thanked Master for teaching me the Fa principles so that I could sincerely clarify the truth to people. Master said,
“I told you a long time ago that a Dafa disciple, or a cultivator, has no enemies.” (Teaching the Fa in the City of Chicago, Collected Fa Teachings, Vol. VII)
The Fa helped me remember that my relationship with these two women was to save them. Regardless of my relationship with my husband, I’ll always remember what Master said,
“In history’s past, you brought to humankind the splendor it should have; in history’s present, Dafa has bestowed upon you the mission of saving all sentient beings; in history’s future, everything of yours that is pure and righteous will be what ensures that the colossal firmament has formation and stasis, but not destruction.” (The Essentials of Diligent Progress, Vol. III)
The third auntie came the evening my father-in-law passed away. I invited her inside, but she said she felt dizzy so we chatted a bit outside. I asked if I had talked to her about the three withdrawals. She said I had a few years before, and that she often carried the Falun Dafa keepsake I gave her. But because the words and pictures had gotten worn, she stopped wearing it. I felt that although she knew I was a good person, she hadn’t fully understood about the persecution.
So I told her how the CCP persecutes Falun Dafa, and the cruelest thing they do is to harvest Dafa practitioners’ organs. She was shocked and said, “Is that really happening? How could people do such a terrible thing?”
After a while, she said, “I no longer dizzy. I feel fine now.” I said, “Let me share with you what Master said,”
“We subscribe to the belief in saving all living things, and not just achieving our own liberation. And so the Falun benefits you as it turns inward, and others as it turns outward. When it turns outward it disperses energy, to the benefit of others. So whoever is within the range of your energy field will benefit, and might find it noticeably pleasant. And you might have this effect on people wherever you are, be it out on the street, at the workplace, or at home. You might be unwittingly rebalancing the bodies of whoever is in your presence, since it has the power to correct anything not right.” (The Third Talk, Zhuan Falun)
I also gave her two Falun Dafa keepsakes and told her to remember that Falun Dafa is good, and Truthfulness-Compassion-Tolerance is good. She accepted them with both hands and repeatedly thanked me.
Before she left she asked, “Have you filed for a divorce yet?” I said, “No.” Tears rolled down her cheeks. She said, “I’m not crying for my brother (meaning my father-in-law). I’m crying for you. You’re so nice, and so kind...” I comforted her, “Auntie, you’re so sweet. I’m alright. Unfortunately our Chinese society has turned bad.”
People’s Hearts are Turning to Dafa
I went back to my in-law’s house to help take care of the funeral. My father-in-law had many siblings, and all his brothers and sisters had come. When we took a break, the second auntie said to me, “Sister-in-law, do you have the exercise music? I want to practice the Falun Dafa exercises.” I said, “Yes.” I said that after the funeral I would bring her an audio player so she could listen to Master’s teachings.
I gave the second auntie an audio player at noon, when she went home to get her high blood pressure medicine. She came back afterwards and said, “The lecture was so good! As soon as I got home I listened to it. I told my husband I won’t take my high blood pressure medicine. I’ll listen to this! I like to listen to what Master teaches, every word of it. Wherever I go I carry the audio player. My husband teased me and said just leave it here. I don’t want to miss anything that Master said!”
The second auntie had heard about Dafa years ago. I visited her when I heard that she had broken her leg, and I clarified the truth to her. I also told her to repeat the phrase about Falun Dafa. She later told me that her leg quickly healed and the insomnia that had plagued her for years was gone. She asked for a copy of Zhuan Falun.
I went to see my mother-in-law after several weeks and saw the second auntie. She happily told me about her granddaughter. One day, the little girl had a cold and she let her listen to Master’s lectures. It took only two days for the coughing to stop. It worked like magic.
Thank you Master!