Eliminating Gaps Among a Fa-Study Group
(Minghui.org) After I moved to a new home, another practitioner and I suggested that we form a Fa-study group at her place. I agreed. We were very close but ran into a conflict after a while.
When we finished studying the Fa one afternoon, I said, “I always used a belt to be able to sit in the full lotus position, showing an attitude of muddling along.” She said angrily that I was not diligent. Then, she went through the issues I had many years back. At the end, she said I provoked all this when she was in a bad mood.
I thought of Master’s teaching:
“Any and all attachments you have must be ground down, and it will take place through any of a number of scenarios where you will be made to stumble or do poorly, and from these come to new spiritual insights. This is how you will make it through and succeed.” (The Fourth Talk, Zhuan Falun)
I was carried away by being overly enthused and only came to this realization when that practitioner accused me. She apologized and said, “Sorry, I scolded you too hard today.” I told her that it was no problem.
On the way home, bad thoughts popped up in my mind, and I tried to find excuses. I told myself that I had to suppress these thoughts.
I remembered Master’s Fa:
“Don't argue when people argue with youCultivation is looking within for the causeWanting to explain just feeds the attachmentBreadth of mind, unattached, brings true insight”(“Don't Argue” from Hong Yin III)
“As a cultivatorone always looks for one's own faults‘Tis the Way to get rid of attachments most effectivelyThere’s no way to skip ordeals, big or small[During a conflict, if you can remember:]‘He’s right,And I’m wrong,’What’s to dispute?”(“Who's Right, Who's Wrong” from Hong Yin III)
I realized that all the arguments are about principles in the human world. She was in pain, and I was enthusiastic. I should also feel the pain of my fellow practitioner.
In the next few days, I wanted to study alone at home so there would be no conflicts. However, I did not go along with the notion, as it wanted me to give up the group study environment. I thought, “You want to separate us. I won’t listen to you. I will go.”
When I went the next week, she greeted me at the entrance of the building. She said that she had come down to take out the trash and decided to wait for me. I totally understood. I smiled and we went up together.
Another time when I went for group study, no one answered after I rang the doorbell three times. I thought about going back home–maybe she had something come up. But my bad memories of her came to mind. I remembered a scene from ten years ago when we had agreed to meet and distribute truth-clarification fliers together, but then it started raining. I waited at the bus stop for more than half an hour. The conflict appeared to drive a wedge between us. I rejected these negative thoughts, however.
On my bus ride home, I heard the driver tell a girl to re-scan her fare card. She went back up, re-scanned her card, and moved to the middle of the bus. The driver again told her to re-scan her card. It seemed as if the girl didn’t hear it. When others around her told her to re-scan her card, she went back and re-scanned it once more. The misunderstanding was resolved when we saw that she had a card for the disabled–she was deaf. I understood that Master had me witness this scene to help me eliminate suspicion and resentment of others’ actions. It also helped me be more generous and forbearing.
Next week, I went to the fellow practitioner’s home again. She asked, “Did something happen to you last week? You didn’t come.” When I told her I rang the doorbell three times, she looked confused.
Later, it happened again: no one answered the doorbell. I learned my lesson and asked a lady who happened to come downstairs at that time to help me swipe the card. She said that her home was on the 14th floor and that the elevator would only get me to that floor. I said it was all right and climbed the stairs the rest of the way to the 29th floor. I knocked on her door, and no one responded. I thought she wasn’t home and went downstairs.
Outside the building, I saw another practitioner who lived close by. She was looking around anxiously. When she saw me, she came over and apologized for being 10 minutes late. It turned out that the host of the Fa-study group had to leave to help her father, and she had left the door card and house key for me at that practitioner’s home so that I would not come in vain.
We went upstairs to study the Fa. I saw that the host had put the Dafa book in a tin box and left a small alarm clock next to it. She was very thoughtful. Just like before, I was grateful and admired the practitioner for creating the Fa-study environment. If I had returned home after no one answered the doorbell, I would have lost the opportunity to understand more about the practitioner.
“I hope that you all cherish yourselves, cherish others, and cherish this environment that you have.” (“What is a Dafa Disciple” from Collected Fa Teachings, Vol. XI)
Here, I want to remind fellow practitioners: Don’t allow external interference to create gaps between us. It is easier to solve problems than to tie a knot. As Master said, “It's just like when this fist goes out--it's strong when everyone is clenched together.” (Fa Teaching at the 2009 Greater New York International Fa Conference)
May we cooperate with each other well to help Master save more people.