Detaching My Son from His Smart Phone
(Minghui.org) I have been practicing Falun Dafa for many years and have witnessed Master Li's words, “...with one person practicing, the whole family benefits...” (“Teaching the Fa at the Fa Conference in Australia”)
What Master said is quite relevant to my recent experience of helping my son with his phone addiction.
After I started practicing Falun Dafa, and although my son did not, he knew that Dafa is good. Master protected my son during his time in school, so he was always a good student academically and otherwise.
At that time, the school system's curriculum was filled with Chinese Communist Party culture. In addition, all the assignments were turned in via WeChat; society was becoming more toxic!
Additionally, my son was going through puberty. All these factors led to him obsess over his phone.
From winter break up until recently, his addiction had gotten more and more severe. He was on his phone first thing in the morning, while eating, and while doing homework.
No matter how much I told him to stop using his phone, he wouldn’t listen. Because of his overexposure to the Internet, his mind was filled with bad things, and he couldn’t focus on his work. His grades consequently slid from being in the top 3 to a ranking of 40.
Although I’ve been taking my son’s grades lightly since becoming a Dafa practitioner, I’ve been worried over his situation and even annoyed at times. As a practitioner, however, I knew that I should first take a look at myself.
I found hidden deep within, attachments to competition, vanity, and showing off. I also felt that I was infallible and liked to hear compliments.
First, I realized that I needed to correct myself using the Fa as my guide, then completely remove these human attachments so that I could be clearheaded. I asked Master Li to help me.
After this, I wondered what would be my next step? I remembered something Master said about disciplining children:
“Some people will lose their temper in disciplining children and yell at them, making quite a scene. You should not be that way in disciplining children, and neither should you, yourselves get really upset. You should educate children with reason so that you can really teach them well.” (Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
I then asked Master to give me wisdom so I could raise my child properly.
After finding my attachments and diligently changing myself, I realized that my son was obsessed with his phone because there was nothing else he felt motivated to do.
As a result, I thought of the websites Dafa practitioners were making. I introduced him to Minghui, New Tang Dynasty Television, and The Epoch Times.
He became very interested and felt motivated to read them. He quickly left behind his attachment to his phone.
Websites created by Dafa disciples are powerful. Not only can they help offer salvation to people and inform them of world events, but they also guide people to aspire to higher ideals.
My son read practitioner's experience sharing articles, accounts of the ongoing persecution of Falun Dafa, as well as mythical stories, and biographical accounts of historical figures. His heart became purified, and his spiritual awareness was expanded.
His outer appearance returned to that of a cute little boy again. I must thank the practitioners in the media who have worked very hard, and I must also thank Master for his merciful support.
While writing this, I suddenly realized that during the process of fixing my son’s behavior, I was also using righteous thoughts to clear out my own dimensional field and purify my family environment.
In such an environment, anything a child comes in contact with is positive and righteous. They won’t think about being on their phone or engage in other negative behaviors.
“When an evil-minded person is thinking of something bad, this person might change his mind due to the powerful effect of your field; he might then no longer want to commit the wrongdoing. (Lecture Three, Zhuan Falun)