Falun Dafa Changed My Family's Destiny
(Minghui.org) I had been incapacitated by long-term insomnia and back pain by the end of 2003 and could not hold onto my job. I could barely smile. I had been treated in several hospitals, but nothing helped.
When I was at my wit's end, one of my friends suggested that I practice Falun Dafa. I replied, “I am so hot-tempered and argumentative. Thus, I will not be able to follow the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. Besides, one will not survive in this world without being competitive.” My friend said, “Read the book and we’ll talk later.”
I picked up Zhuan Falun, Falun Dafa's main book, and started reading. As I tried to follow the principles expounded in the book and held myself to the standards, gradually my ailments disappeared. It was Dafa that gave me a second chance in life. Although I have been stumbling along on my cultivation path, I have never wavered in my belief in Falun Dafa. It not only gave me good health, but also a happy family.
Letting Go of Resentment
I held grudges against my mother-in-law since my child was born. On hot summer days, inside a non-air-conditioned apartment, she wrapped my baby with a padded quilt saying that babies did not feel the heat. Then, my baby came down with an infection, a high fever, and was hospitalized. I stayed with my baby, and my mother-in-law refused to let my husband come to the hospital, and he claimed that she needed him at home. After my baby was discharged, my mother-in-law refused to help, my husband would get angry if I complained, and threatened to divorce me. I held a lot of grudges against my in-laws and I did not even try to hide my attitude towards them.
After I began to practice Falun Dafa. I realized that I had to follow its principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I began by being nice to my in-laws, giving them gifts and money. My husband said, “You did not do this from your heart. It was because your Master taught you to do so. You have no choice!” I had to admit that this was true. I still resented them even though I pretended that I did not care anymore. I retorted, “ Count yourself lucky! They are so mean. Don't even dream about my treating them like my own family. This is as much as I am prepared to do for your family!” Every time we came back from my in-laws, I was upset with how they treated me, especially my sister-in-law. I could not even calm down to study the Fa. I knew this was not what Master Li (the founder) wanted and realized that I must not hold onto these human attachments.
“As a cultivator you must be compassionate! Just now I said that if you can’t love your enemy you can’t succeed in cultivation, and you can’t become a Buddha. Think about it, when someone is bad to you isn’t it that you owe him from the past?” (Teaching the Fa at the Conference in Houston)
I also kept reciting Master’s poem,
A wicked person is born of jealousy.Out of selfishness and anger he complains about unfairness towards himself.A benevolent person always has a heart of compassion.With no discontentment or hatred, he takes hardship as joy.An enlightened person has no attachments at all.He quietly observes the people of the world deluded by illusions. (“Realms” from Essentials for Further Advancement)
After intensive Fa study, my resentment was gone. I was able to treat my in-laws like my own family members. They were changing as well. My sister-in-law said that her husband thought that Falun Dafa is good because I had changed for the better. My father-in-law told everyone to leave me alone when it came to my practicing Falun Dafa. He sometimes even helped me distribute Falun Dafa brochures.
I asked my husband, “Do you still think that I was just pretending to be nice to your family?” He said, “No, I don't think so anymore.” I purchased pensions for my father-in-law, renovated their house, and bought food and consumables for them. My parents-in-law spoke highly of me to other villagers. When I was asked how I had become so nice, I told them that it was Falun Dafa that had changed me.
My Family Benefited from Falun Dafa
When my husband got drunk, fell down the stairs, and became unconscious, my neighbor found him and alerted me. I was shocked and realized that it was a big test for me. I put my faith in Master Li and asked him for help. The doctor told me that he could die anytime and that I should be prepared. However, he kept improving day by day. The doctor said that he may still have problems, even though he survived, as he had brain injuries. I believed that he would be just fine.
The incident changed my husband’s view on life. He had been so careful with everything in life and this still happened to him. A month later, he was well enough to return to work. Many people were amazed by his recovery. I told my husband that I asked for Master’s help to save him.
My daughter had health issues when she was in high school. Her academic performance was poor as a result. I decided to have her skip the first class in the morning and the last class in the evening so I could do the exercises and study the Fa with her every day. Her health improved after one semester and her ranking in school improved. She even won the “Most Improved Scholarship” award. We continued to practice Dafa, and by grade 12, her performance had improved so much that she got into the university of her first choice.
When my cousin's wife was pregnant, the doctor told her that the baby had birth defects and may not survive, and recommended an abortion. My sister-in-law was devastated. She did not want to abort it because she could not become pregnant again. She had secretly gotten pregnant with a second child as the one-child policy was still in effect in China. And I knew that we should not kill a life.
I suggested that she say, “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” I had previously told her many examples of amazing recoveries among those who practice Falun Dafa. I said, “If you believe in it, it will work. She said, “I believe.”
As it was her second pregnancy, and not allowed, she went to another place to have the baby when she was due. When the village authorities found out, they arrested my cousin and locked him up in the Family Planning Office. They tortured him in an attempt to make him tell where his wife had been. He escaped when the two guards fell asleep. The baby was healthy and he is six years old now. The parents know that it was Master who took care of their family.