Ridding Myself of Lust and Advancing Diligently on My Path of Cultivation
(Minghui.org) I work part-time at a hotel near my home, thus I have a lot of time to practice Falun Gong (also known as Falun Dafa).
One day in April 2015, the owner of the hotel called me to his office. Several minutes later he intimated to me that he had loved me for the past several years.
He said that he liked my kind nature and hoped someday to find a wife like me. Since he knew that I was married, he had never previously stated his affection towards me.
He told me that his wife only married him for his money. He spoke eloquently, and was nearly moved to tears. During the 20 years of my cultivation, I have never encountered anything like this before. However, I knew that as a Falun Dafa practitioner, I had to keep true to the Fa.
I said, “It's okay if you regard me as your sister or good friend, but we must keep our feelings and emotions out of it, or else we'll both suffer retribution.” He looked very disappointed.
When I next saw him, his eyes were full of affection towards me. I immediately noticed that my heart was stirred.
When I first began practicing Falun Gong, my morality had quickly improved and my view of the world had undergone a fundamental change. For one thing, I realized that it was wrong for men and women to have immoral relationships. Thus, I never thought anything like this would happen to me.
I found it hard to calm down while studying the Fa and practicing the exercises. His piercing eyes kept appearing in my mind, and his soft, affectionate words echoed in my ears.
I thought, “My heart is moved by this man because I enjoy hearing his loving words. Now, how am I going to get rid of this temptation?”
From the day I started practicing Falun Gong in 1996, I held one firm thought in my heart: I want to follow Master Li [the founder of Falun Gong] and return to my true home.
Although the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) had twice sentenced me to forced labor camps for my belief, my faith in Master and the Fa have never wavered.
I thought, “Master, you've endured so much in order to extend the time for Dafa practitioners to cultivate. But now I'm severely distracted from cultivation. If my boss and I ever commit a shameful act, how would I be worthy of your compassionate salvation?”
A few days later, a local practitioner lent me a cell phone that enabled me to access Minghui.org for the first time. I read several experience sharing articles on the importance of ridding ourselves of attachments to lust and desire.
I also read two lectures where Master repeatedly stressed the importance of maintaining proper relationships between men and women, and that Dafa practitioners should never get involved in extramarital affairs.
“There are many young disciples among our practitioners. You should mind your personal lives. On the subject of intimacy, you mustn’t go along with the degenerated behavior of ordinary human society. You can have a wife or husband—that’s fine and proper. It isn’t a problem for you to cultivate while conforming to ordinary human society to the maximum extent. For you to live as husband and wife is fine, but if you aren’t husband and wife and have sexual relations, then you are doing the filthiest thing. That is something gods absolutely cannot accept—not a single god would accept it. So be very sure to pay attention to this. A person’s course of cultivation is that cultivator’s history. Innumerable, immeasurable, countless gods are watching Dafa disciples’ every thought and every act. As cultivators who are determined to reach Consummation, why can’t you pass this test?” (Teaching the Fa at the Eastern U.S. Fa Conference)
Master also said,
“The biggest problem is that the wicked CCP is destroying human morality. The CCP knows that Falun Gong teaches Zhen, Shan, Ren and teaches people to be good, so it in turn teaches people to be bad, especially in terms of relationships with members of the opposite sex. Do you know the depths that Chinese society has sunk to? It is terribly depraved--a society that has become utterly depraved. A pure young girl, an innocent girl, is really hard to find nowadays. Why has it gotten so bad? Doesn't [the CCP] just want to destroy people? Don't Dafa disciples want to cultivate back to their original selves? Why do you not watch yourselves when it comes to this? Do you want to become depraved along with society, along with the evil CCP? Isn't this a grave matter? Looking at things from this point of view, are the people in mainland China still in a human state? Isn't it serious?! Dafa disciples are to intercept and put a stop to the world's descent! It's about not letting mankind slide downward, so why is it that you yourself for such a long time now haven't managed to step out of that? You absolutely must pay attention to this!” (“Fa Teaching at the 2007 New York Fa Conference” in Teaching the Fa at the Conference VIII)
These words strengthened my righteous thoughts, and also served as a “stick warning,” reminding me to stay true to myself. The title “Dafa disciple” is truly sacred beyond measure!
A practitioner can only set right the things in society; he can never allow himself to slide down along with it.
When I analyzed the root cause of my passions, desires, and lust, I realized that I was obsessed with reading romantic novels throughout my entire childhood. I longed for love and romantic relationships, and formed a lot of warped human concepts. I thought that romantic love was the most important thing in life.
Since my husband was misled by the CCP's lies and propaganda against Falun Gong, he was afraid of being persecuted. Thus, he regularly interfered with my practicing Falun Gong and even beat me. I was deeply disappointed in him.
The old forces saw that there was still warped material in my dimensional field, and so they arranged for ordinary people to try to seduce me in order to destroy my future. If it wasn’t for Master’s Fa and my fellow practitioners' experience sharing articles, the hotel owner and I may have committed an immoral act.
I sent forth righteous thoughts to clean up my field and to eliminate my strong emotions and sentiment. I also reminded myself that all beings had come for the Fa. Thus, I shoulder the mission of saving them, including this man.
I then wrote a long, heartfelt letter to him explaining what Falun Gong is, why I had decided to take up the practice, and why the CCP brutally persecutes Falun Gong.
I told him, “Only by conforming to the characteristics of the universe: Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, can we have a bright future. Although immoral relations between men and women abound in China, the people involved are unknowingly destroying themselves.
“It's a fundamental truth of the cosmos that those who do wrong will receive retribution. Since I practice Falun Dafa, I cannot go along with society's social trends. I must be a good person and do even better.”
Finally, I told him that I sincerely hoped that he and his wife would find happiness together and truly cherish their marriage.
I felt totally at ease after handing him the letter, as I did what a Dafa practitioner should do.
Since I work in the same building as the owner, I often see him. However, he has never made any advances toward me since then, and my only contact with him is through work.
He openly praises me in front of others, saying that I'm the “best person” that he's ever met.