My Husband Also Changed After I Began to Cultivate Myself Well
(Minghui.org) My husband and I are both practitioners. I have tried my best to cultivate myself by looking inward according to Master’s requirements whenever I have come across conflicts. However, sometimes, just because of a trifle, my husband would say, “Are you still a practitioner?” Upon hearing this, I felt upset, very wronged and very manipulated.
My husband used these and other words to hurt me. I thought that he was becoming more and more unreasonable. When studying the Fa, I often wanted him to seize the time to study the Fa with me, but he would tell me to just leave him alone. He also wasted time play mahjong. The more I looked at him, the more I felt that he didn’t behave as a practitioner.
I wondered about how to improve this situation. I knew that Master asks us to study the Fa more, so I resolved to be strict with myself in my daily life and to not let Master down.
Taking Good Care of Sick Parents-in-law
When my mother-in-law came to live with us, I took care of her. I changed her diapers and fed her.
My father-in-law had been hospitalized; he was often confused. I helped him wash his clothes and put on clean ones. That made him smile. When he left the hospital, he wanted to pay me for what I had done for him. I told him, “No, thanks. There's no need to apologize.”
Sometimes he would make a mess in the bathroom, and I would say to him, “It doesn't matter. It's because you're ill. I’ll clean it up.” I was kind to him, and he really felt supported. I would not have been able to do this without the Fa to guide me.
I told my father-in-law to sincerely say, “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good” every day. That year, my father-in-law miraculously recovered. Before this, the doctor had told us to prepare for his funeral!
Husband Gradually Changes after I Constantly Look Within
My husband refused to study the Fa with me, but I stopped complaining about him and just looked within for what I did not do well. Deep down, I felt that my husband and I must have agreed to diligently work together during the Fa-rectification! When he blamed me for something, I looked within and questioned myself.
While I continued to look within, my husband took the initiative to study the Fa and no longer sneaked out to play mahjong. He also stopped saying things like, ”Are you still a practitioner?”
My husband once went to a gathering of his classmates. After returning home, he told me, “All my classmates praised themselves by saying how many cars they had or that they had set up their own companies. When it was my turn to speak, I told them that I was very happy because I have a good wife who is considerate.” I knew that his heart was sincere.
Compassion Draws Practitioner Back to Project Group
By truly cultivating yourself in Dafa, one's surroundings will improve! This also validates Dafa.
Another practitioner, Ms. Qin, didn’t get fully involved in a certain Dafa project because she was afraid. The other practitioners in the project often studied the Fa together and shared their experiences, which helped them become an invincible team. However, whenever they all got together, Ms. Qin said something negative, which made everybody feel depressed and that Ms. Qin was separating herself from them. They worried about her. She eventually left the project.
With tears in her eyes, one practitioner said, “We must help Ms. Qin to return to our group. We must hold her hand and help her eliminate those negative thoughts that the old forces have imposed on her. Before we came here, we each vowed to assist Master with the Fa-rectification and save people.” Others echoed her words.
Ms. Qin felt the compassion of the other practitioners. The friction between them disappeared, and the whole group worked well together.
I had been anxious for Ms. Qin to improve. Although I felt sad, I was worried about her complaining.
“I’ve often said this: if you sincerely do it for the other person’s sake, and there is nothing self-serving on your part, your words will be able to move the other party to tears. Want to give it a try?” (“Fa Teaching on World Falun Dafa Day”)
Had I treated her like that? Had she really felt the compassion I had for her? I realized that the situation was partly my fault. I no longer complained about her and sent forth a righteous thought: “My fellow practitioner will improve. We will never allow the old forces to interfere with Ms. Qin! If she has really been left behind, we should think about how to help her with righteous thoughts. Only by doing this can we form an invincible body!”
Let us fulfill our great prehistoric vow to save all sentient beings!