(Minghui.org) I began practicing Falun Dafa in 2008. I have been through numerous hardships over the past ten years of cultivation and have improved step by step under Master's compassionate protection. I believe this is the predestined relationship that I have waited all eternity for.
An Unfaithful Husband
I have been married for over twenty years and have a son and daughter. I generally don't like to talk, but I had a stubborn temperament and always had the last word in my family.
After practicing Falun Dafa, I began to change myself to assimilate to its qualities as much as possible. My home environment was getting better as well, which helped me participate in Dafa projects and do the three things practitioners should do.
However, my husband's attitude toward me changed in 2014. He didn't want to talk to me when he was at home, and he would call me less and less when he was away on business. Finally, he didn't even want to give me money to support our family.
As a Falun Dafa practitioner who follows the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, I didn't argue with him. I texted him when family issues arose that I needed to discuss with him. I didn't ask him for money, and I treated him even better than before when he came home.
Using the Fa to Resolve Problems
My husband asked for a divorce in the spring of 2018. I wasn't afraid of this, as I knew that I hadn't done anything wrong. I spent money carefully, especially after I started practicing Falun Dafa. I have restrained myself using the standard of the Fa, and I am kind to others.
I thought that he didn't have any reason to divorce me and thought that it might just be a misunderstanding between us.
My cousin bought a computer and wanted to put it in my home to produce copies of Shen Yun DVDs for distribution. My husband wasn't happy when he saw it. He asked me where it came from, but I didn't tell him, as my cousin's husband was very much against Dafa. So I thought my husband had become suspicious.
Another reason I thought my husband wanted a divorce was that I didn't have a strong sexual desire for him.
I found that my husband had been exchanging flirtatious texts with a woman since 2015. In the summer of 2016, I took my children to another city to see him and found similar messages on his mobile again. He later deleted them after he realized I had read them.
I asked him to explain what kind of relationship he had with this person, but he denied that anything happened between them.
After returning home, I thought that I should do things according to the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I needed to save him with a compassionate heart.
When he again raised the issue of divorce, I told him, “I’m a cultivator. You can tell me if I have done something wrong, and I will change. I am not afraid of divorce. I have a pension and can look after myself. But I don't want to hurt anyone in the family and don't want our children to look down on you because of your affairs.
“As a man, you should be responsible for the family. Do you think you have the ability to make money? No, it is because I practice Dafa that you are blessed. So if you did divorce me, you might not be so fortunate. If you insist on a divorce, I will agree to it,” I added.
He no longer mentioned getting a divorce after that.
My husband completely changed after I talked to him. He now calls me frequently and discusses family issues with me. He gives me money and thanks me for bringing up our children well. He also buys fresh fruit and displays them in front of Master's picture to thank Master for giving me health.
I realized that a cultivator's problems can't be resolved with human means. If we want to become enlightened and improve ourselves, only the Fa can help.
I sincerely thank Master for giving me this opportunity to get rid of my attachments and improve myself. I vow to Master that I will do even better in the future and follow Master on the journey home.
Category: Improving Oneself
