Falun Dafa's Mighty Virtue Changes Family Members
(Minghui.org) I am 45 years old and started to practice Falun Dafa in May 1998. I have experienced many ups and downs over the past 19 years, but have never stopped striving forward in cultivation .
Most Difficult: Talking to Family Members About Dafa
Clarifying the facts to my family members used to be difficult for me because I had too many attachments and a lot of sentimentality. I have also been envious of other practitioners whose family members are practicing Dafa. Within my extended family, only my son and I are practitioners.
Before the persecution of Falun Dafa, my family supported my cultivation. Their attitude changed after I went to Beijing to petition for justice for Dafa instead of staying home to breastfeed my son.
I tried to make them understand. I first told them how I had benefited greatly from Dafa. I then said, “My Teacher is being slandered maliciously. How can I hide and not defend Him and Dafa? Do you think I could still consider myself a decent person?”
My husband and the rest of my family continued to be against my practicing Dafa because they were worried and frightened. Thus, I felt it to be easier to clarify the facts to other people instead of to my family.
My husband did not agree with my behavior, and I admit that I did not consistently follow Falun Dafa principles back then, as we got into fights. This helped me realize that since non-practitioners do not read Dafa books, they can only understand Falun Dafa through our behavior.
If we are upright in our actions, they will agree with Dafa. If we aren’t, our attachments will hinder our family members from correctly understanding Dafa. Whether we perform well or not will determine whether they can be saved. I knew that I did not want to tarnish Dafa and thus should conduct myself better.
For a while, instead of talking about issues that came up, I wrote a letter to him or sent text messages. I found that I could handle issues rationally and intelligently when using these methods.
Changing Our Approach
My son and I decided that we must overcome all difficulties and make sure that his father understood the facts about Dafa.
We thought of playing some NTD television programs. We started out with the Hong Kong Falun Dafa practitioners’ July 1, 2017 parade. However, this backfired and my husband put on his coat and left.
His departure indicated that he was shocked, and the evil substances were worried about being eliminated. So, we decide to select the programs such as “China Forbidden News,” which often include the facts about Falun Dafa and the persecution. We hoped that he could accept these more easily.
Whenever I worried about my husband's attitude towards Dafa, my son encouraged me. He told me not to worry because his father wasn’t saying anything bad. He suggested that his father was just stubborn and was reluctant to admit he was wrong. In fact, my son found out that when his father had dinner in a restaurant, he talked about the news that he had learned from the NTD television programs.
We installed an NTD satellite dish so he could watch more programs and see that Dafa has been spreading throughout the world. He now tells people that we have installed the dish and “can see the news that cannot be seen inside China. Watching it is a real eye opener.”
As long as we are diligent and conduct ourselves better, our family members are bound to change. This is the power of Dafa.
Letting Go of Resentment
Before I cultivated in Dafa, I had a poor relationship with my parents-in-law and resented them very much.
My mother had passed away before my wedding and had left me an apartment that we lived in after we got married. This helped a great deal because we were short of money, and my husband's parents did not have the wherewithal to help us. However, they promised to help us as soon as they came into some money.
My parents-in-law not only bought a house and a car for their second son when he got married, but they also gave him a large sum of money, with the stipulation that he would take care of them in their old age. However, after quarreling with them, my brother-in-law asked me to take in his parents.
My mind was filled with different kinds of thoughts. In the end, I let them move in and let go of my resentment. The longer they lived with us, the better I treated them, and they told people how good I was.
Through my words and deeds, they have been aware that Dafa is good and they support my cultivation. Now my family lives in harmony.
Waiting for Dafa to Be Redressed
My brother and his wife had a misunderstanding about Dafa because of all the media propaganda. When I saw them, I tried to help them understand the facts about Dafa, but was not successful and wondered why.
Finally, my brother opened my eyes. He complained that I always talked about Dafa when visiting them and did not seem to care about them.
From then on, I paid attention to my behavior. I took gifts to them during festivals. If I was too busy to visit them, I would phone them so that they could feel my concern, I did not mention Falun Dafa when I saw them. They now say, “People learning Falun Dafa are different from others. We will also learn Falun Dafa as soon as it is redressed.”
I have given my brother software to break through the Chinese government’s internet blockade. With the help of this software, he has learned about the true face of the Chinese Communist Party. At the same time, he saw that Falun Dafa is spreading around the world. He also sent links or information to his online friends and let them know the facts.
Teacher said: “You are the hope of humanity. You simply must do well. You simply must shoulder your responsibilities.” (“Fa Teaching Given at the 2016 New York Fa Conference”)
It is important for us to help our family members learn the facts about Dafa and the persecution. Through this, they are bound to change.